Every month, the planets change signs and affect our relationships. Depending on the planetary movements, it may be tough to understand the needs and desires of the Aries man. But with my tips based on the monthly energy, you can draw the attention of an Aries man or improve your relationship with one in September 2020.

Attracting an Aries Man in September 2020

1. Be Reliable

If you’re wondering why the Aries man is feeling a little flustered in September 2020, it’s because the Sun is in Virgo. 

With the Sun in Virgo highlighting the Aries man’s sixth house of order and routine until September 22, he is busier than usual. 

Because September is primarily a season of earth, the Aries man is especially attracted to the woman who is calm and peace-minded. He will be turned off by the woman who brings drama and frustration to his bustling life. 

During this period, focus on creating a peaceful environment the Aries man can feel comfortable in. Show him through your actions that you can be “home” for him. Help him prioritize his well-being and mental health. 

As a relationship astrologer, I believe the best way to win an Aries man’s heart during Virgo season is to be a reliable source of support. 

For example, do your best to lend a helping hand (without him having to ask), be on time, keep your word, and avoid assuming without asking him what he means. 

If possible, help him with his responsibilities at work or around the home. Do small chores you’re comfortable with but know he doesn’t like to do. 

During this period, you may have to be more forceful in getting the Aries man to leave the house or take a break from work. Make plans to go on a short retreat or relaxing date during the September 2 full Moon in Pisces. 

With the Sun in Virgo opposing the Moon in the Aries man’s twelfth house of Pisces (full Moon), he may experience a temporary moment of frustration or grief. 

However, on September 22, when the Sun leaves Virgo and enters his seventh house of Libra, the Aries man’s focus will shift from work to relationships and marriage. Therefore, you want to use the majority of September to develop trust and get your foundation in order. 

Things will start to get serious towards the end of September. 

2. Show Appreciation

After a tender and emotional transit in the water sign of Cancer, Venus—the planet of Love and beauty—will enter Leo on September 6. 

In Astrology, Venus says a lot about what the Aries man will want and need out of a relationship.

Venus shows what he likes, the way he approaches relationships, the way he gives and receives affection, the type of woman he is attracted to, and his emotional relationship to material possessions and money.

With Venus in Leo until October 2, September 2020 is a season of exploration, excitement, and pleasure for the Aries man. 

During this period, the Aries man is attracted to the woman who is joyful and ambitious. He wants someone bold and outgoing; someone who knows how to lighten his spirits and have a good time. 

Because Venus in Leo is a flirtatious time for the Aries man, show appreciation for the connection you have. 

For example, if you spent August getting to know each other and deepening your relationship, use what you learned and create a surprise date for him in September. 

Go above and beyond to show your love. 

3. Find Your Balance

Is your Aries man easily frazzled and scatter-brained? Do you find him being more opinionated or disagreeable? If so, you’re feeling the results of Mercury in his opposite sign of Libra. 

Mercury will be in his seventh house of Libra from September 5 to September 27. 

During this period, the Aries man is more charming and outspoken than usual. Libra is his opposite sign, so he feels at home here. 

However, with this being his opposite sign, mentally, the Aries man is easily thrown off balance and may have a hard time making concrete decisions.

To make the best of this transit, focus on creating a strong intellectual connection. Take your time to get to know each other and your needs so you can find your balance. 

For example, if you have different perspectives on what a relationship is (especially if you are a Libra, Aries, Cancer, or Capricorn), this transit asks you to compromise and find neutral ground. It’s all about partnership.

Interestingly, I’ve found that when a primary planet like Mercury is placed in a cardinal fire sign like Libra, the Aries man is more cautious of his relationships and is more eager to work things out. 

If you’re looking for fun ways to tap into the energy of this transit, get social. Mercury in Libra inspires the Aries man to talk. So make sure you are fully listening to what he has to say. 

On September 27, Mercury will enter Scorpio and highlight the Aries man’s eighth house. During this period, the Aries man will have intense emotions and thoughts about intimacy, death, and partnership.

It is a time of rebirth and transformation for him, so be a source of light during changing times.

Read next: The Early Stages of Dating an Aries Man—and How to Make Progress 

4. Take Things Slow

Out of all the energy in September 2020, Mars stationing retrograde in Aries on September 9 will have the most impact.

During this period, Mars retrograde in Aries will highlight the Aries man’s first house of self and identity, bringing a much-needed slowing to how he goes about fulfilling his desires and life goals. 

Because retrogrades are naturally a time to backtrack and review, the Aries man may be feeling a little hesitant about committing or expressing his needs. 

If you’ve noticed that he’s been more distant or withdrawn, don’t complain or panic. Keep calm. During this period, the best thing you can do to attract and support the Aries man is to respect his space. 

For those who are already in a committed relationship with an Aries man, this is an excellent transit to refocus. Although it may seem like you are distancing yourself from him, this time of independence will bring you closer together. 

Your willingness and ability to support him, give him space, and still be a consistent presence in his life shows him your intentions are genuine, and your heart is pure.

For this, he will learn to cherish you in ways he wasn’t able to before. So use this transit wisely.  

As the planet of action and behavior, Mars also represents how the Aries man expresses his sexual nature. With Mars being retrograde in his sign, his libido May decrease or enhance, depending on how retrograde affects his energy. 

If you’re feeling neglected or overwhelmed in this area, be gentle and direct. Don’t be aggressive. Find healthy ways to let him know what you need. 

Overall, the energy of September 2020 inspires the Aries man to open new doors while closing others. Therefore, to win and attract the heart of an Aries man, be reliable, show appreciation, find your balance, and give him some space to reflect and think. 

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Have you noticed these astrological influences on your Aries man? Let me know in the comment section below!

Your sister and relationship astrologer,

Anna Kovach