If you have never been with an Aries man in bed, then you are surely missing out, especially if you like sex. Aries men know their way around the bedroom, and they have a sex drive that is hard to quench!
Sex with an Aries man can be a totally exhilarating experience, but sometimes it can be a little challenging to figure out exactly what this fire Zodiac sign wants, especially when it comes to matters of the bedroom…
These men are always ready for a romp and love to express themselves sexually. They are so passionate and so excited when it comes to being a good lover. Aries men simply love sex and they need a lot of it. Their sexual appetite is huge!
The pleasures of the bedroom are not far from their minds, especially when there is a woman close to them who is making their blood boil with lust. If you want to keep an Aries man happy, then you best be sure to make him happy in the bed first.
He’s a simple man and doesn’t need much to keep him satisfied, but if you are really looking for how to blow an Aries man’s mind and drive him crazy in bed then you best continue reading to find out all the tips and tricks that I have up my sleeve.
So, if this seems like the information you need, then keep on reading to figure out how you can please your Aries man in bed and how to make him feel as sexually satisfied as possible.
In my years as a relationship astrologer, I have heard from thousands of women about their Aries man, and the physical chemistry with him comes up again and again as something they have never felt with anyone else. In my surveys, 62% of women described intimacy with their Aries man as incredible, the highest rating of any sign in all my research. That fire is real, and understanding what drives it helps you connect with him on every level, not just the physical one.
First Things First, What An Aries Man Wants In Bed?
An Aries man lives on passion and energy. He lives life to the fullest and loves to be bold and brave with his actions. He isn’t someone who is satisfied with the bare minimum or just coasting by.
An Aries man wants passion, enthusiasm, and excitement in everything he does – but especially sex! Moreover, he wants all his senses to be tantalized during sex. He wants fireworks and to immerse himself in powerful, loud, and dirty sex.
Sex simply cannot be boring for your Aries guy; he wants to push it to the extreme and to try new things as often as he can. He is a physical guy so you can expect sex with him to be quite a workout.
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How To Drive An Aries Man Crazy In Bed (7 Things To Keep In Mind)
1. Quickies (And Lots Of Them)
Your Aries guy likes to live in the moment, he isn’t the guy who is going to plan out a long and romantic night to try and woo you over. He is way too spontaneous for that. He loves a good old quickie.
So, when the mood takes him, he is probably going to initiate sex. And if you are up for it, then why not? He loves quickies, so don’t worry, it isn’t going to take too much of your time and you’re likely to enjoy it yourself.
An Aries man can go again and again, he is likely to initiate sex as often as he feels the mood. He isn’t one of those men who feel satisfied after one go and doesn’t leave the moments in between love-making for too long.
Of course, never feel obliged to give in to sex whenever he demands it. Follow your passion and what feels good. It is good for him to be left waiting now and again.
2. Make It A Marathon…
Even though your Aries guy loves a good old quickie, what he really enjoys is a night full of passion and making love. If you really want to drive him wild then make sure to give him a long night of pleasure that he will never forget.
This guy doesn’t handle delayed gratification that well, and this is exactly why you need to tease him for as long as possible. He is so used to getting what he wants that when it doesn’t come by as easily as he is used to it can drive him wild.
Start off by sending him naughty texts throughout the day, then wearing your sexiest outfit to dinner follow this with a sensual striptease of some sort, and then get into some much-needed foreplay. You want to tease him for as long as you both can handle it!
Also, let him know what you want, and that you’re in the mood for something more sensual and focused on your own sexual needs. Give him fireworks and make him realize that sex is just as enjoyable even if it takes a while longer to get to the destination. Make it worth the wait.
3. Use Your Imagination
Your Aries man will often use sex as a means to escape from reality. These men are up for experimenting with fantasies and roleplay. An Aries will pretty much do anything as long as it is new and unexpected.
So, if you’re quite creative and know how to spice things up using your imagination then your Aries man will be all too happy to oblige. Doing something fun and out of the box will most definitely drive him wild.
Perhaps involve some dressing up as your favorite fictional characters or dive into something a little kinkier like BDSM. An Aries man is actually just a naughty boy inside and needs a woman who can indulge him in his fantasies.
4. Don’t Stay Quiet When Having Sex With An Aries Man
Your Aries man just loves to hear how spectacular he is at something! He loves compliments and receiving adoration from the woman in his life. So, when Aries does something that you like, you better be vocal about it, especially in the bedroom!
Make him feel really special and let him know that he makes you feel things you have never felt before. An Aries really likes knowing that he’s one of a kind and like there is no one like him that you have ever been with.
Behind all that bravado he is actually comparing himself to all your previous lovers and is dying to know how he matches up. So, you better let him know how good he makes you feel to quiet that little voice in his head.
5. Boost His Confidence
This doesn’t have to be done in the bed per se, but giving an Aries man an extra boost of confidence is more important than you could ever imagine. When it comes to Astrological anatomy, Aries rules the head.
It might not seem like it because he’s always on some kind of mission of sorts, but an Aries man has a lot going on in his mind and a woman who can calm him down and make him feel good about himself is a woman who he will keep coming back to.
This is why sex is so important for them. It takes them out of their heads and the constant rumination and it gives them a chance to ground and feel centered in their body.
Your Aries man often feels the pressure to be ultra-masculine, but sometimes he also needs the chance to just be vulnerable and sex gives him the chance to be free and open and honest with his woman.
So, if you make him feel good and boost his confidence, he is more likely to want to open up to you and be vulnerable with you.
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6. Take Charge, Be The Dominant One
As you can well imagine, your Aries man is always in control, especially in his everyday life. He likes to take charge and be the leader of the pack, so it comes as quite a relief when he can just sit back and take on a more submissive role in the bedroom.
Boss him around a bit, and tell him what you need from him. Trust me, he will love the power you exert. Nothing is sexier than a woman who can take charge of herself for an Aries man. Let his mind relax and make all the decisions for him.
Here’s more on what an Aries man wants in a woman.
7. Don’t Be Lazy
Your Aries guy is so full of enthusiasm and energy, and nothing turns him off more than a woman who is lazy or uninspiring in the bedroom. If you don’t enjoy sex, your Aries guy is probably not the one for you.
He wants a woman who can really enjoy herself and let her hair loose in the bedroom. If you have any inhibitions, you need to let them go when you’re getting down and dirty with your Aries man. All he really wants is you to enjoy your life with him.
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Why Sex Matters So Much To An Aries Man
To really please an Aries man, it helps to understand why the physical connection carries so much weight for him. Ruled by Mars, the planet of drive and desire, he experiences physical intimacy as one of his most natural forms of expression. It is not only about pleasure for him. It is how he feels alive, how he releases the constant energy buzzing through him, and how he lets his guard down with the woman he trusts.
This is why the data on Aries men is so striking. In my surveys, 62% of women rated intimacy with their Aries man as incredible, the highest of any sign, because he pours the same intensity into the bedroom that he pours into everything else he cares about. For him, a passionate physical bond is deeply tied to feeling close, wanted, and understood.
There is a tender side to this too. Behind his bold, confident exterior, an Aries man often feels pressure to be strong and in control all the time. Intimacy is one of the few places he can let that armor down and simply be present in his body. When you understand that sex is his way of being vulnerable, you hold a key to his heart that most women never find.
Over 254,331 women have already taken this free attraction quiz to discover exactly what draws their Aries man in and keeps him craving them. Take the free quiz here and see what the stars reveal about your chemistry.
The One Thing That Instantly Cools An Aries Man In Bed
If there is a single thing that dampens an Aries man’s fire, it is a sense that his partner is simply going through the motions. He is drawn to enthusiasm and presence above almost anything else. A woman who is fully engaged, who clearly wants to be there, and who brings her own energy to the moment is irresistible to him. Detachment or obligation, on the other hand, deflates him fast.
Criticism of his performance is the other quick way to cool him. Remember that behind his confidence, an Aries man quietly wonders how he measures up, especially compared to anyone who came before you. A careless comment can wound his pride deeply. This does not mean you cannot express what you want. It means leading with what you love and framing your desires as invitations rather than corrections.
The heart of it is simple. An Aries man wants to feel like an incredible lover and like you truly desire him. When he feels wanted and admired, his passion has no ceiling. When he feels judged or like an afterthought, that same fire pulls back. Keep the enthusiasm mutual and the admiration flowing, and you will keep him fully yours.
How To Keep The Passion Alive With An Aries Man Long Term
The biggest threat to an Aries man’s desire over time is not you, it is routine. Because he craves novelty and excitement in every part of his life, a physical connection that becomes predictable is the fastest way to lose his spark. At the three-month mark, one of the most common things women told me in my surveys was how much they wanted to keep things fresh so he would not drift into boredom.
Keeping the fire alive is really about variety and spontaneity. Change the setting, initiate when he least expects it, suggest something new now and then, and keep a sense of playful adventure between you. An Aries man loves to be surprised, and a partner who keeps him guessing keeps him deeply engaged. The anticipation itself, the teasing and the buildup, is often as powerful for him as the moment itself.
Just as important is keeping the emotional charge alive outside the bedroom. Flirt with him during the day, remind him you find him irresistible, and let desire simmer between encounters. When an Aries man feels consistently wanted by a woman who keeps life exciting, his passion for her does not fade with time. It deepens into a loyalty that is hard to shake.
If you want the exact words that make an Aries man ache for you, my Aries Dirty Phrases guide gives you the messages calibrated for his Mars-ruled desire. Take a look here.
Frequently Asked Questions About An Aries Man In Bed
What is an Aries man like in bed?
An Aries man is passionate, energetic, and adventurous in bed. He brings intensity and enthusiasm, loves spontaneity, and is usually eager to initiate. His Mars-ruled nature makes him a physical, confident lover who wants the experience to feel exciting rather than routine. In my surveys, women rated intimacy with their Aries man higher than with any other sign, which tells you just how much fire he brings.
He also loves to feel appreciated. Vocal enthusiasm and genuine admiration mean a great deal to him, because he wants to know he is an incredible lover. At the same time, he often enjoys a partner who can take charge, since being able to let go of control is a rare and welcome relief for a man who leads everywhere else in his life.
The one constant is that he needs to feel wanted. An Aries man thrives on a partner who clearly desires him and brings her own energy to the connection. Match his passion and keep things fresh, and he becomes a devoted, attentive lover.
How do you know if an Aries man is sexually attracted to you?
An Aries man rarely hides physical attraction. He becomes flirtatious, bold, and physically forward, finding reasons to touch you and closing the distance between you. He holds intense eye contact, and in my surveys 64% of women said their Aries man made consistent, deliberate eye contact, a strong signal of his interest. When he is drawn to you, you will feel the heat of it.
He also pursues. An Aries man who is attracted to you initiates, plans time together, and makes his desire known through action rather than hints. He may tease you, challenge you playfully, and show off a little, all of which is his way of building the tension he loves.
Interestingly, my surveys also showed that some Aries men move very fast physically while others hold back entirely at first, so the absence of an early move is not always disinterest. But when an Aries man is openly flirtatious, physically forward, and pursuing you with energy, his attraction is not in doubt.
What body part is an Aries man attracted to and ruled by?
In astrology, Aries rules the head and the face, which is why an Aries man is often especially drawn to a woman’s eyes, smile, and expressions. Meeting his gaze, smiling at him, and letting your face show your enjoyment can be surprisingly powerful with him. He reads confidence and desire in the face more than many signs do.
Because Aries governs the head, gentle attention there can also be a lovely way to connect with him, from running your fingers through his hair to a soft touch along his temple. Many Aries men find this soothing as well as sensual, since their minds are so often racing.
Beyond any single feature, though, what truly captivates an Aries man is confidence and vitality. He is drawn to a woman who is comfortable in her own skin and radiates energy. That aliveness is far more magnetic to him than any one physical trait.
I would love to hear your story. What have you discovered about your Aries man and what he loves most? Share what you feel comfortable sharing in the comments below, and I will do my best to help. I read every single one.
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P.S. Not all men are turned on by the same things.
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If you use the same approach with an Aries as you’d use with a Gemini, he could get up and leave instead of getting all hot and bothered.
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These are all great tips. I’ve dated an Aries man and through sheer luck I’ve been flirting with another Aries man, they are my favourite sign. So sexy, so vibrant and so manly. They have a sensibility that nobody sees on the first layer. But oh so beautiful. These tips work with both these men.