9 Warning Signs An Aries Man Is Using You

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
Do you constantly ask yourself “Is my Aries man just using me?” If yes, then here are some warning signs an Aries man is playing you.

Aries men have this reputation of being stable and security orientated in their relationships, but is this actually the truth? You might be wondering what are the signs an Aries man is using you and what you can do about it…

Aries men are often so focused on being successful and working on their careers that perhaps the Aries man just wants to hook up because that is all he has time for in his busy schedule. Today, we’re going to delve into the subtle cues that may indicate an Aries man is using you or taking advantage of your genuine affection.

You should listen carefully when an Aries man explains his intentions to you, because he may just want to hook up. Aries men are generally very honest, but they can also be very selfish and only care about their own needs.

You might wonder, will an Aries man use you and how to know if an Aries man just wants to be friends? Keep reading if this is something you’ve been wondering about. Here are the signs an Aries man is just using you.

7 Warning Signs An Aries Man Is Using You

1. He Has Inconsistent Behavior

If your Aries guy isn’t sticking to one flow; there may be a problem. Telling you how much he cares one day then being really cold to you the next could indicate that something is amiss.

Does he speak one way and then act another? Watch his actions. They often speak far louder than his words ever can. Telling you he loves you and then giving you the cold shoulder is showing you his intent.

His intention is NOT true if he’s being cold or hurtful toward you after telling you how much he cares for you. Words can only take you so far and his actions could very much be showing you that he’s only playing with you to get what he wants.

2. His Intentions Are Dishonest

His intention is NOT true if he’s being cold or hurtful toward you after telling you how much he cares for you. Words can only take you so far and his actions could very much be showing you that he’s only playing with you to get what he wants.

Beware of the “friends with benefits” syndrome with an Aries man. He’s really slick at forming these. He’ll hook you in the bedroom then treat you like you’re not that important until he wants another round of hot sex. He’ll really say whatever he can to get in your pants. This is a man who needs a lot of sex. 

3. He Is Unreliable

This kind of goes along with the first thing I mentioned. When you figure out you cannot rely on this guy to help you or be somewhere at a certain time; he’s not in it for the right reasons.

Aries man will go above and beyond for the woman he loves. So if he’s flaking out, not showing up, or cancelling plans; he likely has another agenda that isn’t conducive to what you want. Don’t let him always get his way. When an Aries man can see that you’re always going to do what he wants, he’s definitely going to start using you. 

4. He Doesn’t Include You In His Life

When an Aries man loves a woman; he wants to integrate her into his life. If you feel as though he’s hiding you or doesn’t want you to meet those people who inspire his life; you are not his girlfriend.

He is using you for sex or a booty call. While an Aries man may take a while to form an actual bond or relationship; he will still give you an indicator that you are special to him and that you’re the only woman.

If he is always out doing stuff and always has plans, but doesn’t include you, then chances are high an Aries man is using you. He doesn’t reckon you are important enough to do things with him outside of the bedroom.

5. You’ve Never Met The Important People In His Life

When an Aries man is really into a woman, he will want the whole world to know how he feels about her. He is typically quite the show-off.

If you don’t feel you’re the only woman and he seems to have no desire to take you out to meet anyone he cares for; he’s playing you. He has no interest in it going any further and just waiting until someone else comes along.

You know you’re in when he’s ready to take you on group dates or to go home and meet mom. When that isn’t happening, he doesn’t see you as “together”. He sees you as a good time only.

6. He Is Dismissive Of Your Feelings

When he’s blowing your feelings off to do what he wants to do or talk about what he wants; he definitely is playing you and not interested in an actual real loving relationship that can grow.

All in all, there are some very obvious signs here from the Aries man regarding using or playing you. He isn’t good at hiding it and probably doesn’t care about hiding it.

He feels how he feels and though he may not tell you “this isn’t a thing”; he’ll blow you off and make you feel rather worthless unless he’s trying to get into your pants.

7. You Are Not A Priority To Him

An Aries man is a busy and very popular guy. His friends adore spending time with him because he is always up for some kind of adventure. An Aries man will always choose the most fun to have above everything else. 

However, when an Aries man is really into a woman, she will always come first and he will always make her his priority, no matter what because when he falls, he falls hard. 

So if an Aries man never makes you a priority or only makes plans with you at the last minute, then chances are good that an Aries man is using you for sex and that he isn’t very serious about you.

Related: How To Become A Priority For Your Aries Man 

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8. He’ll Say Anything To Get You In Bed

While he’s trying to get you into bed; he will act as though you’re the hottest woman alive. Afterwards; he will go back to being a jerk that could care less what you think or feel. If that is the vibe you are getting, drop him like it’s hot and move on with your life.

When an Aries man is using you, you’ll know by how much anxiety you feel in your gut. You won’t feel safe and protected by him. Your feelings will typically be everywhere and it can be difficult for your emotions to handle this. 

When he says one thing, and does another, it is going to break your heart because deep down you will know that he is only kind to you for short periods because he wants to sleep with you. 

9. He Will Get Cold And Distant

An Aries man has a way of always getting what he wants in his relationships. He is very charming and full of affection, especially when he wants to have his way with you. 

However, when he is done, he will instantly go cold and distant. This especially happens when a woman is a bit too keen on him and gives away all of her power. An Aries man loves the chase, and when things go too easy for him, he’s likely going to end up using you, unfortunately. 

If you have had enough dealing with his going hot and cold behavior, I strongly recommend checking out my 30-day Aries Man Love Challenge… It will set you on the right path with your Aries guy.

How To Tell An Aries Man Just Wants To Be Friends? (Signs To Look Out For)

He Is Fickle 

If he tells you he’s going to help you with something and then doesn’t; he doesn’t care and likely won’t ever help you with it. Tally this up with all the other things that he’s being careless about and I think you’ll find he’s not into you. An Aries man isn’t typically wishy-washy with his feelings. 

Aries men are typically one of the most reliable there are but when he’s not showing this quality; he’s not into it and not in love with you. If he was; he’d be there 5 minutes early and ready to take on whatever task you have for him.

He Never Shares Deeper Feelings

When the Aries man doesn’t talk to you on a deep level or lets you in; he’s either not into having a relationship with you or he’s simply using your time up out of boredom or lack of someone better to do.

Like I keep saying, an Aries man is typically quite honest and forthcoming with whatever he is feeling. Sure, he’s a macho man, but he’s typically quite open and not afraid to share what is going on inside.

Truly the Aries man can be very callous when it comes to the feelings of others when he isn’t feeling it. He should immediately let go when he knows that someone isn’t the one. He doesn’t always realize the impact of his actions as Aries men can be a little selfish and unaware. 

He Doesn’t Initiate Sex

This is a very big sign that you need to pay attention to. An Aries man is probably the horniest guy in the Zodiac. This guy loves sex and needs a lot of it to feel fulfilled in his life. 

So when an Aries man is no longer initiating sex with you, then there is typically something amiss. This shows that he really isn’t into you. An Aries man will rarely decline sex or not be interested in it. This is one of the things he lives for, so be very aware of this one!

If you are looking for even more insights about how to tell if an Aries man is playing you, then also watch this video:

What To Do When You Discover Your Aries Man Is Playing You?

I can only imagine how devastated you must feel coming to understand that your Aries man might be playing you. What a terrible thought and so terribly heartbreaking, I am so sorry! 

If I were you, I would just cut him loose, this man clearly doesn’t respect you and probably doesn’t want to be with you more than just for sex. If you want a loving relationship, you are going to have to put a lot of love and respect into yourself. 

You might want to ask yourself a couple of questions, like why do you think you attracted a man like this? What signals did you give him to make him think he can use you? Perhaps it is time for some inner investigation and see if there is anything you can do to prevent this from happening in the future.

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How To Get Over Being Used By An Aries Man?

Moving on from someone is always a little difficult, but it is even worse when it is someone who has used you like an Aries man. You might constantly question why this has happened and what you did wrong. 

I promise you, you did nothing wrong but this is definitely the perfect opportunity for you to work on your self-love and self-worth.

Here are a few steps you can take to try to move on from being used by an Aries man:

  1. Take some time to process your feelings. It’s important to allow yourself to feel and acknowledge the pain of the situation. This can help you work through your emotions and begin to heal.
  2. Practice self-care. Engaging in activities that nourish your mind, body, and spirit can help you feel more grounded and boost your self-esteem. This might include things like exercising, spending time in nature, or doing things you enjoy.
  3. Consider setting boundaries. In the future, it might be helpful to establish clear boundaries with people in your life to ensure that you are treated with respect and not taken advantage of.
  4. Try to forgive. Forgiveness can be difficult, but it can also be a powerful tool for healing and moving on. Try to let go of anger and resentment towards the Aries guy who used you, and focus on taking care of yourself and building healthy relationships in the future.

Remember that healing takes time, and it’s okay to take things one day at a time. You are strong and resilient, and you will get through this. Click here for some ideas on how to get over being used by an Aries man.

So, Do Aries Men Like Playing Games?

This might surprise you, but Aries men don’t actually like playing games. However, this behaviour may suggest otherwise… An Aries man is extremely selfish and only really cares about himself. 

They don’t have any big plans or ulterior motives to try and swindle you, they’re just extremely self-serving. They’re not bad guys, but you have to remember that they are always going to put themselves first. You have to get with the program, or let them go. 

An Aries man needs a woman who can keep him on his toes and someone who is going to challenge him! But, this fire Zodiac sign definitely has the potential of being able to be a wonderful and committed partner, he just needs the right woman.

FAQs On Aries Man Playing You

How Do You Know If An Aries Man Is Serious About You?

An Aries man will easily be a bachelor for most of his life, so when he finds a woman he can commit to, he’ll do it. This is a great sign an Aries man is serious about you because he is willing to give his freedom up for you. 

He will go out of his way to prioritize you and make sure you know how he feels about you. You will know with certainty that he is serious about you because he will tell you directly. An Aries man will never hide the way he feels about someone. 

How Do You Know If An Aries Man Is Lying?

It is extremely rare for an Aries man to be a liar. These guys are very honest and straightforward about everything. They just can’t lie, however, if an Aries guy is no longer interested in you, he’ll probably just tell you directly, or unfortunately, just ghost you…

Are Aries Men Inconsistent?

Absolutely! Aries men are extremely inconsistent. One minute they feel one thing, the next something different. It is a bit of a rollercoaster being involved with an Aries man as his actions can really wreak havoc on your nervous system. 

This guy will have you believing that you are going crazy because he is such a good gaslighter. He’ll make so many promises he definitely can’t keep but just give you enough to keep you interested. 

The problem with him is that he tends to get quite bored quite quickly. And when boredom strikes he moves on from one thing to the next. It is difficult for him to keep his word, especially when he isn’t committed to someone. He reckons rules don’t apply to him then and he can get away with being inconsistent.

You may also want to readDark Side Of An Aries Man — Most Common Aries Men Negative Traits

Aries Men And Booty Calls – Is It Their Style?

If an Aries man could choose his perfect life, I reckon he would be very happy having a bevvy of beauties he can call up when he is horny and who can fulfill his needs.

He definitely enjoys casual sex because commitment isn’t for him and this is what makes life exciting for him. He wants to try out as much as possible in his life, and sleeping with many women is definitely one of his goals.

Aries is the type of guy who will think of you late at night and call you up to check how you are doing. He has one intention and one intention only. It is up to you if you are going to give it to him or not. 

Are Aries Men Cheaters? Will They Have Affairs?

This answer might surprise you, but Aries men are not cheaters. When an Aries man commits to a woman, he is all in! He will give her everything she could ever dream of. 

However, it takes a very long time for an Aries man to find the perfect woman to who he wants to commit. To pass the time, he will end up sleeping with many women as he explores and discovers. 

An Aries man might be a bit of a player, but he is never a cheater. He will always be honest with what he wants, it is usually women who think that they can somehow change him that get a bit confused about this.

An Aries man is very unlikely to have an affair. He would much rather just leave the relationship than get himself caught in this kind of a mess. The nice thing about him is that he is always so straightforward and direct. You will always know where you stand with him, at the very least.

Can An Aries Man Truly Commit? Or Is He Always Going To Be A Player?

Absolutely! There is a side to an Aries man that loves the idea of commitment and loyalty. He wants to fight for his woman, adore her, and worship her for as long as he possibly can. 

For the right woman, an Aries man can certainly commit and make a serious change in his lifestyle. Sure, he’ll still be adventurous and need his freedom, but the right girl will give this to him. 

This is why an Aries man will never settle and just go for what is available to him because he knows that somewhere, someone can give him exactly what he needs in his relationship, and he is willing to wait for it, and so should you. 

If an Aries man is messing you about and doesn’t give you the same kind of love in return, then he definitely isn’t worth the effort or your time. You should definitely rethink what it is he is actually offering you, because if it is nothing, then you should definitely leave.

All in all, there are some very obvious signs here from the Aries man regarding using or playing you. He isn’t good at hiding it and probably doesn’t care about hiding it.

He feels how he feels and though he may not tell you “this isn’t a thing”, he’ll blow you off and make you feel rather worthless unless he’s trying to get into your pants.

While he’s trying to get you into bed; he will act as though you’re the hottest woman alive. Afterward; he will go back to being a jerk that could care less what you think or feel. If that is the vibe you are getting, drop him like it’s hot and move on with your life.

Does Your Aries Man Become Distant After Intimacy?

Does your Aries man pull away or get quiet when you’ve just had a deep emotional connection? Does he seem to disappear just when you thought he was getting closer? Have you felt confused by his hot and cold behavior?

If so, then he might have an avoidant attachment style.

He could be Dismissive Avoidant and completely terrified of commitment… Or he could be Fearful Avoidant and REALLY want commitment…

If he has either one of these attachment styles, you’re going to end up feeling extremely confused at times. And both are caused by childhood trauma.

When you can see the scared little boy inside him that had to shut down his feelings if he’s dismissive avoidant…

Or have a parent not provide his needs consistently if he’s fearful avoidant…

It can make it easier to have empathy and compassion for his confusing and frustrating behavior.

But that won’t fix it.

And while advice on attachment styles can be helpful… What you really need to stop this frustrating hot and cold cycle is to understand him better.

Thankfully, there is a simple system to TRULY understand how an Aries man ticks based on his astrology <<

It will stop him from pulling back when you begin feeling closer. And it will accomplish this in only 30 days.

So no more crying yourself to sleep when he pulls back… No more feeling incredibly confused. And no more wondering what in the heck is going on with him…

Even if he has an avoidant attachment style.

Click here to turn things around with your Aries man in 30 days or less <<



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31 thoughts on “9 Warning Signs An Aries Man Is Using You

  1. He contradicts himself big time! For one he’ll say he hates the relationship; then he’ll show he cares. Secondly, he’ll say that how you are is a dealbreaker, then he’ll stay in the relationship. Thirdly, he won’t initiate sex and says he’s fine with you having that full-filled elsewhere, as long as he’s the only one you’re emotionally committed to.

    1. Hi Stella!

      It sounds like he’s not really sure what he wants which causes him to swing back and forth. I think I’d take a step back and let him figure himself out. He needs to figure it out instead of holding on to you hurting you. You may consider telling him you need a break for awhile. If you would like to know more about Aries man then check out my book “Aries Man Secrets”.

  2. I avoid anyone with an high Aries influence in their entire chart, unless it’s in their mercury or venus, cause I’m an air sign in both planets. I prefer fire signs like sagittarius or leo, water signs like scorpio and cancer, earth signs like virgo or taurus but not an air sign unless it’s a libra or aquarius with some water or earth in their chart. But no aries for me, ever again! Very undecisive, hard to settle, immature, builds up walls (they are worser than water signs, trust me!) giving vague answers when you ask them a question. They think anyone else is stupid and they’re the intelligent ones. They’re very inconsistent. I haven’t met an aries who’s show they are sensitive side, yet. Even an aquarius as an air sign, tells you how they feel, while they are not about feelings at all.

    1. Hi CancerGirl!

      What you describe can be considered the dark side of Aries man yes. There are some that will actually be quite warm, loving, and dedicated. They do exist. What defines the way is as a lover is more Mars though. Venus is for women. So perhaps finding an Aries man with a Sagittarius Mars could work for you. There is lots more to it. If you’d like to learn more about Aries then check out my book “Aries Man Secrets”.

  3. This is extremely true. The last paragraph really spoke to me. I’ve known this Aries guy since 6th grade (we’re adults now). We finally got intimate and right before we did it he was very friendly, talkative, cracking jokes, making me feel beautiful. Right after we finished, he started to get cold, ignored me as I talked to him. He asked me to leave (mind you, he KNEW I packed an over night bag)… I’m like “okay” all confused because, it’s like he instantly switched personalities. I said “bye” he said “mhm”, he didn’t even ask if I made it home safely, haven’t heard from him since. My first red flag was the fact that he kept blowing me off the whole day when we were supposed to meet at a certain time. But, it is what it is. I can quietly move on, he’s deleted off of my phone and including social media.

    1. HI Marley!

      Yep once they’ve “won” the trophy or the chase, they are done and want to move on until they find someone who is “the one”. Asking you to leave after sex is incredibly rude and I hope you really gave him the middle finger because I know I would have. Don’t give up on love and don’t give up on the sign. Not all Aries men are douches. If you’d like to learn more about Aries then check out my book “Aries Man Secrets”.

  4. Ik I’m late but I think I can relate to this Ik I need to move on but it’s kinda hard because I’m hurtin a lil bit I’m a Virgo btw and he’s a Aries and…I believe he still cares for his ex but it just seems as if there on and off anddd he claim he blocked her on social media because he moving on but I don’t believe tht he even said she still loves him but she’s in a relationship with sumbody she went back home because she was in the military like he was buttt uhh…I really did like him I really DIDDD but I wanted a relationship with him and all but he didn’t want it now tht fact tht I think about it I do feel like he was just usin me for sex I asked him was he usin me he said “no” but I just feel like HE STILL CARES FOR THE GIRL and wen I try to communicate or talk to him he’ll get a lil mad or just ignore what I said or if I ask a question it’ll go right over his head as if he’ll answer HIS WAY so who ever readin this please read what I pasted right here ➡️ (Ok soo he has a ex he dated for 6 years butt they fell off anddd I went back to him yes ik stupid but we didn’t date butt it wasn’t just the sex I loved about him I WANTED TO ME WITH HIM LIKE IN A RELATIONSHIP TYPE SHIT SOOO I GO AND STAY WITH HIM ON WEEKENDS AND SHIT SOO TODAY I JUST GOT BACK SO WEN I GOT BACK I WANTED SUM TO EAT ANDD OR EITHER SUM TO DRINK SOO IM REALLY A SPOIL ASS FEMALE I WILL AMIT DAT SOOO I KINDA ACTED OUT NOT BAD DOE JUST IN A WAY SO HE CAN BUY IT BUT HE DIDNT (remind u on Friday he came and got me he orders pizza I didn’t want it cuz I already Ate) sooo wen Saturday and Sunday came I didn’t eat nothin at all so THTS WHY I WANTED HIM TO GET ME SUM TO EAT WEN HE DROP ME OFF BACK HOME BUT ANYWAY I TEXT HIM AND SAID IF THE TABLES WERE TURNED U WOULD HAD GOT IT FOR HERRR WHICH IS HIS EX SOO IM JUST GOIN ON ABOUT WHAT I SAID …then he gone say I don’t got time for this shit I actually said DO U CARE ABOUT ME OR SUM I FORGOT WHAT I SAID he ain’t answer as if he ignores wht I say wen I’m tryin to talk to him it hurts because wen u like a person and they don’t feel they way about u smh it’s cool doe then he posted on his snap throwing lil hints like “I just wanna fuck and remind u we not in a relationship” cuz he knows I really like him he just treats me dirty u should had saw how he was actin threw the text messages like I’m a nobody to him (YES IK HE TREATED ME REAL NASTY THIS WAS YESTERDAY BTW )

    1. Hi Chandra!

      Yikes. It does really sound like his past is unresolved. If this is true, it’s hard for him to move forward. If he’s treating you like you are a booty call then it’s not going to develop into more. Treating you nasty isn’t good sweetheart. I think you need to stand up for yourself and now you don’t deserve to be treated like this. Put your foot down and if he cannot deal with it then he’s not the one. If you need more insight on Aries man then I’d suggest you checking out my book “Aries Man Secrets” as it may help you understand this sign more. I wish you the best!

  5. The aries guy I talk to travels for work and on two different occassions, two girls popped up out of nowhere from two different states claiming they were with him and had similiar things to say he told them. It was strange I never saw him say hi to these girls via social media and the second he left, they came up. I have put money and so much care and time into him and he used me. I really think he used them as well to get what he wanted while he was in their cities . He has dollar signs in his eyes.

    1. Hi Gemini Moon!

      If it were only one girl claiming this it could be fiction but two in two different places? That’s awfully hard to pass off as being nothing. It sounds like the travelling is convenient for him to not be fully committed to one person. I am so sorry you are dealing with this type of pain. Yes money is clearly his motivator. Not all Aries men do this though so please don’t write off the sign because of one bad egg.

  6. I don’t know what to call this. Cancer with a Aries guy, Been together almost one year we live 15 mins away from each other. We can meet each other ones or twice a month. Gone for a lunch date and movie ones. Whenever Initiate something he is up for it then he cancel at the last minute. His friends come first he always text me never missed a day. Whenever we met it’s just sex. But sometimes we can go a month with few weeks without seeing each other or being intimate. He talks the talk but never walk the walk. Whenever i go visit him i don’t feel welcome, If i sleepover i always do wake up early shower and leave before he comes up with an excuse he wants to go to the gym or getting stuff ready. Whenever we met up will be later in the evenings….I am really hurt he doesn’t open up about his feelings about me not talk about what is this we are doing cause i know for a fact this is not dating. Recently he asked for my social i refused to share which i got nothing to hide. But is something that am not sure to share asking myself his he worth for him to see what i do on my social media page.Have never ask of his
    So i decided to mind my own business take myself out for dates. Do stuff for myself, At this point i am so done with men, Funny thing is whenever he ask what am doing i tell him i took myself out of something he gets jealous and just gives me short text as usual or leaves me hanging. He has never call me he only text.

    1. Hi Nisha!

      Yikes! Your Cancer guy sounds like a total flake. Sadly some Cancer men are like this. They get excited then they back out because they’re afraid so they make other plans or excuses. He isn’t opening up to you about his feelings because he’s not yet at that level with you. If he could ever stick to his plans then he would meet up with you and he’d know whether you two are “it” or not. He’s afraid of what the results will be and is why he’s doing this. In fact, he probably has already decided whether or not it’s going to happen. Dates for yourself is WONDERFUL!!!! Good for you!!! If you want to know more about how a Cancer man thinks check out my books on Cancer Man Secrets.

  7. Gemini here and I’ve been involved with an Aries for the last 4 years. It started off playful and non committal and eventually I wanted more and he would never commit. We increasingly grew closer because I kept in touch with him and he would not leave me alone. We would do everything a couple would do. Now, for like the 3rd time after time apart and having a talk about certain thing he felt I should work on, he tells me he doesn’t see a foreseeable future for us. He apologizes profusely for hurting me. Mind you, he knows I have been going to therapy and working on those things he suggested, but ultimately I would never be good enough for him. He also says he has love for me and feels like we’re best friends! I’m sooo confused. I just want to move on gracefully and find a man that loves me as much as I love him!!

    1. Hi Gemini!

      He’s pretty much been blunt in tell you that he sees you as a best friend but doesn’t want a relationship of a romantic nature. Whatever you do, don’t fall into a “friends with benefits” situation with him because you’ll regret it when he leads you on and it goes nowhere. He’s not willing to commit because he’s still “looking”… he’s using your flaws as means to push you away romantically. It’s not fair to say that when he knows you’re already working on it. He went there though so it would be best for you to just let go and move forward sweetheart. I wish you all the very best!

  8. So I like this aries guy he messages me everyday first mind you he calls me baby tells me he cares about me we flirt like crazy what bothers me is he says he’s going to come and see me but never does I’m not sure why he confuses me why today he said to me again that he would come and see me tomorrow and I told him I had plans then he messaged me ugh what is his problem now that I have plans he’s upset because there not with him I think he’s playing games

    1. Hi Angelia Simmons!

      It sounds like he wants to see you but then gets afraid when the time comes. Tell him that it makes you feel as though he’s not really ready or doesn’t want to meet you. Ask him if everything is alright because it hurts your feelings when he doesn’t come. This is a very honest approach without making him feel bad or being angry. Give it a shot and see what you get from him. I wish you all the best!

  9. Im a libra met an aries guy a few months ago, we met for drinks (I was surprised he told me I’m his match) he claimed to be “different” type of guy, he texted good morning just about everyday but within the first month he said he was coming to visit but he never showed or call twice, so I told him it doesn’t seem like he is interested so we dont waste each other’s time. Things got a little better. I supported his business. Made him lunch and assisted him when he had to retrieve his car from repairs. I tried to plan dates and activities but he never would make time. He tried to text me at very late hours 1am and etc but I never answered. One night, he calls me by mistake and was talking to another woman who was arguing about him seeing her. I told him off the next day and we didn’t speak for 2 days. He texted me he missed me and I didn’t respond for 3 days. He then asked to see me. He came and apologized said he wanted things to go back to the way they were before the incident. Few weeks later he went on a trip and wouldn’t tell me where he was going. He came back he communicated consistently until he said he was coming to visit twice and didn’t call or show up. I told him about it, his apology was insincere, and the communication dropped all together. I really liked him but I noticed things weren’t going to be what I thought so I didn’t send a message after my response to his initial contact. I choose to leave this were they are, but I was honestly bothered by the behavior.

    1. Hi Lovely Libra!

      I completely understand why you feel the way you do. You should always trust your intuition because typically, it’s right! I’m sorry you went through this with an Aries guy. Communication has to be honest and open at all times or it doesn’t work. You have every right to do what you are doing now. I wish you all the happiness you deserve!

  10. Hi there,
    I met an Aries man online and we started talking on social media and the relationship progressed very quickly. He said he was divorced twice and it was just him and his children. This was long distance as well. He was very open at the beginning and shared details of his life both good and bad. We both said we loved each other and he called me wifey lover and talked about me coming out eventually and living with him even (don’t judge me plz). After about a week and a half things shifted in the relationship. He would text me everyday but it became very surface level and really all about him. I did share my feelings on this and checked in twice and also offered to give him more space and he said I didn’t need to and he was sorry. I planned a trip to see him and my best friend and that is where things turned quickly. He was trying to change careers so he wasn’t sure if he would be in a new job by the time I came to visit and that was understandable. I was having the feeling like he was hiding something and I asked him if he could suggest motels in the area that are good and the ones he suggested were 30 minutes away. Huge red flag there. I asked him if it was just him and his kids living in his home and he said yes. My best friend was not happy with this and started to look online and found out that he lied about his last name and he is married. She found his wife on social media and informed her and shared the screenshots of many many many text messages and Snapchat photos that we had sent to each other. I thought that his wife deserved to know this and they were even trying for another baby. I dodged a huge bullet but he hurt me and probably didn’t give two shits about it and I was honest from the very beginning. Online dating sucks and I am done with it at this point. He blocked me on social media but did not block my phone number which I thought was odd. Oh well.

    1. Hi Rachel!

      Oh my goodness. It sounds like he was only interested in an online/text relationship with you. Yes, you did dodge a bullet. He was bored or unsatisfied with his marriage so he looked outside of it. Sadly he reeled you in. I’m proud of you for doing what you did. Not many women will turn to the wives and give them truth. Kudos to you. Yes… if you cannot meet the guy within a month or two in person then something is up. You paid attention to the red flags and that is fantastic! I wish you all the very best!

  11. I’ve been with my Aries for five years and I’m exhausted, drained and emotional abuse plays high by him to me. I can’t go on he depressed me. .He may not physically cheat , but cyber cheating, YES. He’s a grown man and acts like a 12 yr old. This passage is exactly like him. I’m tired of crying, and he just doesn’t care. I’ve been played a fool, and the breadcrumbs wow so many times, now I know. I’ve been played with. But I’m done.

  12. Well I’ve been married to my Aries husband for 28yrs. We’ve been 2gether since I was almost 17, he just turned 18. We have a very roller coaster relationship now. Beginning was amazing but after having children and me being a stay at home mom (his request) he left me at home w/the kids while he did every imaginable hobby, taking trips w/out me etc. Plus has a job that he is out of town all week long. I didn’t mind so much then becuz he still would do sweet things once in a while but now kids are older & he says he wants me to travel to his job becuz we’ve spent so many years apart & he wants me there w/him. Except when I am there with him, I’m shopping, cleaning, or doing something for him. He’ll sit holding his phone for hours watching fb or videos but never wants to FaceTime me becuz he doesn’t want to hold his phone… if I try to explain how I feel he shoots me down b4 getting the words out w/saying it’s all made up in my mind. I got him to quit putting me down w/actual name calling except now he says I make stuff up when it’s in black and white but he’ll deny seeing where I’m coming from. He has always said he was different from other men but when it serves him he’ll say “he is a man”. He says I’m the only one & it’s always been me and no hardcore evidence showed up besides seeing “f*ckbuddies, upforit, etc websites on his phone. And his attitude towards me changes completely. Once we were talking on facetime (this prob why he doesn’t like it anymore) and I heard the toilet flush when he was in bed in a hotel. The look on his face was undeniable plus he even turned towards the toilet. When I asked why the toilet flushed he acted stupid and said it didn’t flush. Idk i get mixed signs all the time but after reading this article I’m afraid he’s just using me. Sometimes I feel he’s being genuine but usually he’ll want something from me. Idk if we can ever get back to being happy n in love again.
    Taurus woman

  13. This article describes the Aries man to a T. I am a moon maiden, it took me only 6 times being with him to realize what a narcissist he is. And not just in the “Aries” way. Besides being self-centered and self-serving, he had to be sure to tell me that he had a lot of money, he had the best, most expensive car, motorcycle, furniture, etc. He said he was going to spoil me. He complimented me, made promises that never manifested and so on. I told him I didn’t care about his money, which I didn’t. I told him, don’t tell me who you are, show me who you are. Well, as I said, 6 “dates” and I was done with him. He was selfish in bed, selfish with his time, selfish with his attention, he was inconsiderate and his actions never matched his words. The last time I was with him, he told me what days he was able to spend time with me, because it worked with his personal schedule, he was on his phone while I was getting ready to leave, he didn’t walk me out to my car or help me with my luggage. In short, he made me feel like a whore! He thought I was okay with his rudeness, I pretended like everything was fine until I got home, then I broke up with him via text. Figure I’d give him as much consideration as he gave me. BTW, he’s on a popular dating site, lives in Roseburg Oregon, is 6’4″ and his initials are JVT.

  14. I am a Sagittarius sun, Taurus moon and Virgo rising female and I have been dating an Aries for one year now – it has been quite a ride. For anyone who is thinking why the heck a fire sign would date another fire sign, I am right there with you. The fighting is a real thing, but we always make up and come together and somehow we have never broken up, (come pretty close, but never broke up!). I have no idea what our future holds but I have followed Anna’s advice on a lot of issues and what she writes is gold! I am sure there are many arsehole users out there, but I wanted to give hope to those of you who have their sights set on an Aries man. I am lucky that I did not jump into a relationship with him right away, I took it slow and got to know him over time – presented a challenge to him and now we live together. He is loyal, committed, honest, loving and kind. Yes he can be self centered, but he tries very hard to counter that. He is extremely alpha, a leader, dominant and successful in his business. He treats me wonderfully and makes me feel very safe and secure. He is a one woman man and I am very lucky to have him in my life. Not all Aries are assholes! I met him when he was in his mid fifties so lucky for me, he got all of his womanizing out of his system when he was younger. Btw he is still a rocket in the bedroom. whoo hoo!

  15. I am a saggitarius he is Aries we have been texting and talking on the phone for nine months the conversations were pretty hot at times but he has health problems and the conversations turned to that and l was very sympathetic it was all doctor appointments hospital visits and discussions about his pain anxiety and lack of sleep , sexy talk does not come into it anymore but he sometimes is affectionate to me we had an arrangement where he would be coming to me for the first time but he cancelled due to his health problems he avoids talk about ‘us” but tells me a lot about himself which he admits to not telling his friends l think he is a hermit and prefers his freedom l have grown very attached to this man and feel anxious when he goes quiet on me from time to time lm very mixed up about this “relationship” and sometimes want to end it and hope to find a less complicated one he was apparently treated badly in a previous relationship and has trust issues

    1. Dear Confused Cancer,
      The most direct route to seeing that your Aries man will get back on track and start, is to communicate the issue clearly. It could get him to actually make an effort there.
      All you really have to do is get his attention and talk to him about the way you are feeling about everything. You don’t have to be emotional. In fact, it works best if you do it in a cool, calm way.
      Tell him that you don’t mind initiating sometimes, but you’d like it if he would at least meet you halfway on it.
      It can often be a back-and-forth game with an Aries where one minute he is so hot for you, and the next he seems to not be able to stand you. This would drive me absolutely crazy with confusion!
      Best of luck to you!

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