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5 Warning Signs That Your Aries Man Is Just Using You

Are you feeling suspicious about your Aries guy? Does it seem like one minute he really cares for you but then the next minute he’s icy cold? There may be a reason for this. Keep reading for some warning signs that your Aries man is just using you. It might help you decide if he’s playing you or not.

1. Inconsistent Behavior

If your Aries guy isn’t sticking to one flow; there may be a problem. Telling you how much he cares one day then being really cold to you the next could indicate that something is amiss.

Does he speak one way and then act another? Watch his actions. They often speak far louder than his words ever can. Telling you he loves you and then giving you the cold shoulder is showing you his intent.

His intention is NOT true if he’s being cold or hurtful toward you after telling you how much he cares for you. Words can only take you so far and his actions could very much be showing you that he’s only playing with you to get what he wants.

Beware of the “friends with benefits” syndrome with this guy. He’s really slick at forming these. He’ll hook you in the bedroom then treat you like you’re not that important until he wants another round of hot sex.

2. Unreliable

signs that your aries man is just using you

This kind of goes along with the first thing I mentioned. When you figure out you cannot rely on this guy to help you or be somewhere at a certain time; he’s not in it for the right reasons.

Aries man will go above and beyond for the woman he loves. So if he’s flaking out, not showing up, or canceling plans; he likely has another agenda that isn’t conducive to what you want.

If he tells you he’s going to help you with something and then doesn’t; he doesn’t care and likely won’t ever help you with it. Tally this up with all the other things that he’s being careless about and I think you’ll find he’s not into you.

Aries men are typically one of the most reliable there are but when he’s not showing this quality; he’s not into it and not in love with you. If he was; he’d be there 5 minutes early and ready to take on whatever task you have for him.

3. Doesn’t Introduce You To His Family or Friends

When an Aries man loves a woman; he wants to integrate her into his life. If you feel as though he’s hiding you or doesn’t want you to meet those people who inspire his life; you are not his girlfriend.

He is using you for sex or a booty call. While an Aries man may take a while to form an actual bond or relationship; he will still give you an indicator that you are special to him and that you’re the only woman.

If you don’t feel you’re the only woman and he seems to have no desire to take you out to meet anyone he cares for; he’s playing you. He has no interest in it going any further and just waiting until someone else comes along.

You know you’re in when he’s ready to take you on group dates or to go home and meet mom. When that isn’t happening, he doesn’t see you as “together”. He sees you as a good time only.

4. Keeps Walls Up

signs that your aries man is just using you

When the Aries man doesn’t talk to you on a deep level or lets you in; he’s either not into having a relationship with you or he’s simply using your time up out of boredom or lack of someone better to do.

Truly the Aries man can be very callous when it comes to the feelings of others when he isn’t feeling it. He should immediately let go when he knows that someone isn’t the one.

However; he sometimes is fearful he won’t find the right person and hangs onto someone who isn’t the right one just to have someone there when he wants her. It’s not right but sometimes he will do this.

Again; watch all his behaviors and see if they are in line with him being with you or if they’re more in line with you being an option or second choice. If you feel that way; leave him.

5. Blows Off Your Feelings

When you’re hanging out with him; is he actually listening to what you have to say? Does he seem to care about it? If he seems to be bored or not listening; he’s not really with you.

Aries men come off as very rude or brash when they are not fully into someone. This is one of the examples. You’ll talk and he’ll start yawning or playing a video game instead of seeming interested.

When he’s actually WITH you; he should be attentive to you and listen to what you say when you talk. He should be interested in your life and desires just as you are with his. It has to go both ways.

When he’s blowing your feelings off to do what he wants to do or talk about what he wants; he definitely is playing you and not interested in an actual real loving relationship that can grow.

All in all, there are some very obvious signs here from the Aries man regarding using or playing you. He isn’t good at hiding it and probably doesn’t care about hiding it.

He feels how he feels and though he may not tell you “this isn’t a thing”; he’ll blow you off and make you feel rather worthless unless he’s trying to get into your pants.

While he’s trying to get you into bed; he will act as though you’re the hottest woman alive. Afterward; he will go back to being a jerk that could care less what you think or feel. If that is the vibe you are getting, drop him like it’s hot and move on with your life.

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Wishing you all the luck of the universe

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach



21 thoughts on “5 Warning Signs That Your Aries Man Is Just Using You

  1. He contradicts himself big time! For one he’ll say he hates the relationship; then he’ll show he cares. Secondly, he’ll say that how you are is a dealbreaker, then he’ll stay in the relationship. Thirdly, he won’t initiate sex and says he’s fine with you having that full-filled elsewhere, as long as he’s the only one you’re emotionally committed to.

    1. Hi Stella!

      It sounds like he’s not really sure what he wants which causes him to swing back and forth. I think I’d take a step back and let him figure himself out. He needs to figure it out instead of holding on to you hurting you. You may consider telling him you need a break for awhile. If you would like to know more about Aries man then check out my book “Aries Man Secrets”.

  2. I avoid anyone with an high Aries influence in their entire chart, unless it’s in their mercury or venus, cause I’m an air sign in both planets. I prefer fire signs like sagittarius or leo, water signs like scorpio and cancer, earth signs like virgo or taurus but not an air sign unless it’s a libra or aquarius with some water or earth in their chart. But no aries for me, ever again! Very undecisive, hard to settle, immature, builds up walls (they are worser than water signs, trust me!) giving vague answers when you ask them a question. They think anyone else is stupid and they’re the intelligent ones. They’re very inconsistent. I haven’t met an aries who’s show they are sensitive side, yet. Even an aquarius as an air sign, tells you how they feel, while they are not about feelings at all.

    1. Hi CancerGirl!

      What you describe can be considered the dark side of Aries man yes. There are some that will actually be quite warm, loving, and dedicated. They do exist. What defines the way is as a lover is more Mars though. Venus is for women. So perhaps finding an Aries man with a Sagittarius Mars could work for you. There is lots more to it. If you’d like to learn more about Aries then check out my book “Aries Man Secrets”.

  3. This is extremely true. The last paragraph really spoke to me. I’ve known this Aries guy since 6th grade (we’re adults now). We finally got intimate and right before we did it he was very friendly, talkative, cracking jokes, making me feel beautiful. Right after we finished, he started to get cold, ignored me as I talked to him. He asked me to leave (mind you, he KNEW I packed an over night bag)… I’m like “okay” all confused because, it’s like he instantly switched personalities. I said “bye” he said “mhm”, he didn’t even ask if I made it home safely, haven’t heard from him since. My first red flag was the fact that he kept blowing me off the whole day when we were supposed to meet at a certain time. But, it is what it is. I can quietly move on, he’s deleted off of my phone and including social media.

    1. HI Marley!

      Yep once they’ve “won” the trophy or the chase, they are done and want to move on until they find someone who is “the one”. Asking you to leave after sex is incredibly rude and I hope you really gave him the middle finger because I know I would have. Don’t give up on love and don’t give up on the sign. Not all Aries men are douches. If you’d like to learn more about Aries then check out my book “Aries Man Secrets”.

  4. Ik I’m late but I think I can relate to this Ik I need to move on but it’s kinda hard because I’m hurtin a lil bit I’m a Virgo btw and he’s a Aries and…I believe he still cares for his ex but it just seems as if there on and off anddd he claim he blocked her on social media because he moving on but I don’t believe tht he even said she still loves him but she’s in a relationship with sumbody she went back home because she was in the military like he was buttt uhh…I really did like him I really DIDDD but I wanted a relationship with him and all but he didn’t want it now tht fact tht I think about it I do feel like he was just usin me for sex I asked him was he usin me he said “no” but I just feel like HE STILL CARES FOR THE GIRL and wen I try to communicate or talk to him he’ll get a lil mad or just ignore what I said or if I ask a question it’ll go right over his head as if he’ll answer HIS WAY so who ever readin this please read what I pasted right here ➡️ (Ok soo he has a ex he dated for 6 years butt they fell off anddd I went back to him yes ik stupid but we didn’t date butt it wasn’t just the sex I loved about him I WANTED TO ME WITH HIM LIKE IN A RELATIONSHIP TYPE SHIT SOOO I GO AND STAY WITH HIM ON WEEKENDS AND SHIT SOO TODAY I JUST GOT BACK SO WEN I GOT BACK I WANTED SUM TO EAT ANDD OR EITHER SUM TO DRINK SOO IM REALLY A SPOIL ASS FEMALE I WILL AMIT DAT SOOO I KINDA ACTED OUT NOT BAD DOE JUST IN A WAY SO HE CAN BUY IT BUT HE DIDNT (remind u on Friday he came and got me he orders pizza I didn’t want it cuz I already Ate) sooo wen Saturday and Sunday came I didn’t eat nothin at all so THTS WHY I WANTED HIM TO GET ME SUM TO EAT WEN HE DROP ME OFF BACK HOME BUT ANYWAY I TEXT HIM AND SAID IF THE TABLES WERE TURNED U WOULD HAD GOT IT FOR HERRR WHICH IS HIS EX SOO IM JUST GOIN ON ABOUT WHAT I SAID …then he gone say I don’t got time for this shit I actually said DO U CARE ABOUT ME OR SUM I FORGOT WHAT I SAID he ain’t answer as if he ignores wht I say wen I’m tryin to talk to him it hurts because wen u like a person and they don’t feel they way about u smh it’s cool doe then he posted on his snap throwing lil hints like “I just wanna fuck and remind u we not in a relationship” cuz he knows I really like him he just treats me dirty u should had saw how he was actin threw the text messages like I’m a nobody to him (YES IK HE TREATED ME REAL NASTY THIS WAS YESTERDAY BTW )

    1. Hi Chandra!

      Yikes. It does really sound like his past is unresolved. If this is true, it’s hard for him to move forward. If he’s treating you like you are a booty call then it’s not going to develop into more. Treating you nasty isn’t good sweetheart. I think you need to stand up for yourself and now you don’t deserve to be treated like this. Put your foot down and if he cannot deal with it then he’s not the one. If you need more insight on Aries man then I’d suggest you checking out my book “Aries Man Secrets” as it may help you understand this sign more. I wish you the best!

  5. The aries guy I talk to travels for work and on two different occassions, two girls popped up out of nowhere from two different states claiming they were with him and had similiar things to say he told them. It was strange I never saw him say hi to these girls via social media and the second he left, they came up. I have put money and so much care and time into him and he used me. I really think he used them as well to get what he wanted while he was in their cities . He has dollar signs in his eyes.

    1. Hi Gemini Moon!

      If it were only one girl claiming this it could be fiction but two in two different places? That’s awfully hard to pass off as being nothing. It sounds like the travelling is convenient for him to not be fully committed to one person. I am so sorry you are dealing with this type of pain. Yes money is clearly his motivator. Not all Aries men do this though so please don’t write off the sign because of one bad egg.

  6. I don’t know what to call this. Cancer with a Aries guy, Been together almost one year we live 15 mins away from each other. We can meet each other ones or twice a month. Gone for a lunch date and movie ones. Whenever Initiate something he is up for it then he cancel at the last minute. His friends come first he always text me never missed a day. Whenever we met it’s just sex. But sometimes we can go a month with few weeks without seeing each other or being intimate. He talks the talk but never walk the walk. Whenever i go visit him i don’t feel welcome, If i sleepover i always do wake up early shower and leave before he comes up with an excuse he wants to go to the gym or getting stuff ready. Whenever we met up will be later in the evenings….I am really hurt he doesn’t open up about his feelings about me not talk about what is this we are doing cause i know for a fact this is not dating. Recently he asked for my social i refused to share which i got nothing to hide. But is something that am not sure to share asking myself his he worth for him to see what i do on my social media page.Have never ask of his
    So i decided to mind my own business take myself out for dates. Do stuff for myself, At this point i am so done with men, Funny thing is whenever he ask what am doing i tell him i took myself out of something he gets jealous and just gives me short text as usual or leaves me hanging. He has never call me he only text.

    1. Hi Nisha!

      Yikes! Your Cancer guy sounds like a total flake. Sadly some Cancer men are like this. They get excited then they back out because they’re afraid so they make other plans or excuses. He isn’t opening up to you about his feelings because he’s not yet at that level with you. If he could ever stick to his plans then he would meet up with you and he’d know whether you two are “it” or not. He’s afraid of what the results will be and is why he’s doing this. In fact, he probably has already decided whether or not it’s going to happen. Dates for yourself is WONDERFUL!!!! Good for you!!! If you want to know more about how a Cancer man thinks check out my books on Cancer Man Secrets.

  7. Gemini here and I’ve been involved with an Aries for the last 4 years. It started off playful and non committal and eventually I wanted more and he would never commit. We increasingly grew closer because I kept in touch with him and he would not leave me alone. We would do everything a couple would do. Now, for like the 3rd time after time apart and having a talk about certain thing he felt I should work on, he tells me he doesn’t see a foreseeable future for us. He apologizes profusely for hurting me. Mind you, he knows I have been going to therapy and working on those things he suggested, but ultimately I would never be good enough for him. He also says he has love for me and feels like we’re best friends! I’m sooo confused. I just want to move on gracefully and find a man that loves me as much as I love him!!

    1. Hi Gemini!

      He’s pretty much been blunt in tell you that he sees you as a best friend but doesn’t want a relationship of a romantic nature. Whatever you do, don’t fall into a “friends with benefits” situation with him because you’ll regret it when he leads you on and it goes nowhere. He’s not willing to commit because he’s still “looking”… he’s using your flaws as means to push you away romantically. It’s not fair to say that when he knows you’re already working on it. He went there though so it would be best for you to just let go and move forward sweetheart. I wish you all the very best!

  8. So I like this aries guy he messages me everyday first mind you he calls me baby tells me he cares about me we flirt like crazy what bothers me is he says he’s going to come and see me but never does I’m not sure why he confuses me why today he said to me again that he would come and see me tomorrow and I told him I had plans then he messaged me ugh what is his problem now that I have plans he’s upset because there not with him I think he’s playing games

    1. Hi Angelia Simmons!

      It sounds like he wants to see you but then gets afraid when the time comes. Tell him that it makes you feel as though he’s not really ready or doesn’t want to meet you. Ask him if everything is alright because it hurts your feelings when he doesn’t come. This is a very honest approach without making him feel bad or being angry. Give it a shot and see what you get from him. I wish you all the best!

  9. Im a libra met an aries guy a few months ago, we met for drinks (I was surprised he told me I’m his match) he claimed to be “different” type of guy, he texted good morning just about everyday but within the first month he said he was coming to visit but he never showed or call twice, so I told him it doesn’t seem like he is interested so we dont waste each other’s time. Things got a little better. I supported his business. Made him lunch and assisted him when he had to retrieve his car from repairs. I tried to plan dates and activities but he never would make time. He tried to text me at very late hours 1am and etc but I never answered. One night, he calls me by mistake and was talking to another woman who was arguing about him seeing her. I told him off the next day and we didn’t speak for 2 days. He texted me he missed me and I didn’t respond for 3 days. He then asked to see me. He came and apologized said he wanted things to go back to the way they were before the incident. Few weeks later he went on a trip and wouldn’t tell me where he was going. He came back he communicated consistently until he said he was coming to visit twice and didn’t call or show up. I told him about it, his apology was insincere, and the communication dropped all together. I really liked him but I noticed things weren’t going to be what I thought so I didn’t send a message after my response to his initial contact. I choose to leave this were they are, but I was honestly bothered by the behavior.

    1. Hi Lovely Libra!

      I completely understand why you feel the way you do. You should always trust your intuition because typically, it’s right! I’m sorry you went through this with an Aries guy. Communication has to be honest and open at all times or it doesn’t work. You have every right to do what you are doing now. I wish you all the happiness you deserve!

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