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Shy Aries Man: How to Know What He’s Thinking?

Aries guys are known as “real men” in general. They are determined, often stubborn and willing to fight for their dreams. But what can you really do when you meet good, but shy Aries man?

The sign of Aries is the place where the Sun gets exalted in astrology. This means that Sun has its strongest position here and the will and the ego of a person are emphasized.

Men born in this sign are famous for their military types of minds with great strategic powers and handsome bodies.

In simple terms, Aries is the sign where the king (Sun) goes to war. However, many shy Aries men are also famous for their humble character and often they can be very shy.

A good astrologer can always recognize the exact positions their natal Venus is placed. And for many Aries people, this Venus is either in Pisces, Aries or Taurus.

Romantic Warrior

People with natal Sun in Aries and Venus in Pisces will tend to have dreams about romantic love and they will long to be with a sensitive lady with electric eyes, prone to music and poetry. Those Aries guys with Venus in Aries too, will tend to love red-haired or passionate girls who are active, perhaps sometimes sloppy, but good-hearted.

And Aries men with their natal Venus positioned in Taurus will be knocked down with the feminine, classy women who are gentle and oriented toward the material world.

In any case, Aries will want a “real” feminine woman by his side, because his masculine energy will be heightened most of the time.

Think Feminine

Feminine energy is the strongest driving force for any shy Aries man because this creates a polarity between him and the lady he is interested in. As we could see from his possible Venus placements, there are almost 70% chances that he will be glued to those nice and vulnerable women.

So, be the one if you want to conquer his heart.

Strong Sense of Pride

shy Aries man

For a shy Aries man, his fifth astrological house is in the sign of Leo. And this means that his heart is full of noble pride and his sense of justice is heightened. Deep down inside he feels like a lonely king, and can’t wait to find his proper queen.

Yes, glitter and gold can be tempting for him, but it’s your nobility which will totally take control of his feelings, not just your outer appearance.

Justice and Beauty

For a shy Aries man his house of marriage and partnerships, in general, is in the sign of Libra. And this can tell you volumes about how he wants to be treated and the type of woman he would choose to be his wife.

A lady with a sense of harmony in her behavior will always be the first one on his list. However, this lady also has to act gentle and to awake the protective needs in him. If your speech is calm, nice and mannered, he will have no other option than to just adore you.

And if your fashion style is also classy with pastel colors he will love the way you look although he won’t be able to precisely define what is so magical in your appearance.

Dream of the Lonely Soldier

Aries guy belongs to the category of simple men. He is born as a soldier and his needs are very straightforward. However, his heart is sensitive and his dreams are noble. If you treat him with kindness he will automatically like, and even start to love you very fast.

If he is silent and nothing unpleasant happened recently in his life, then he surely has some fragile feelings about you and you should try to show patience when you around him.

Aries guys can’t hold their grudges for too long and if something is wrong he will show it very soon.

But in the case he likes you, he won’t think about it for ages. He will simply try to be somewhere close and he will start a somewhat confusing conversation with you.

Be His Safe Place

If he acts in a vulnerable way, then this is the surefire sign that he is into you. Don’t laugh at him, this is a big no-no. Try instead to be supportive and this will give him the green light to start chasing you at last.

If your initial conversation goes something like this:

  • “I’m not sure did I do this in a proper way…?”

Then your answer should be:

  • “Oh don’t worry, this was exceptionally good and I just loved the way how you handled this whole situation.”

This will give him the impression that you admire him and also, that you can be his safe place in life.

Pay Attention to His Body Language

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Throughout the years of my long praxis as the astrologer, the most Aries men I have seen were all very good and honest guys, the proper marriage material. They weren’t capable of lying or playing games and they were unable to hold any grief, anger or love feelings inside for too long.

This is why they are easy to read and even easier to handle. You will know right from the start from his body language does he fancy you or not. And if he has some feelings toward you, then you will have extremely good chances to make him love you by simply being good to him.


What are your experiences when it comes to a shy Aries man? Were they faithful or you have encountered someone who doesn’t match this story of the noble warrior?

Tell me your thoughts and are there any of your natal planets placed in the sign of Aries which made you attractive to those guys?

I would love to read your comments about this subject.

If you’re ready to understand more about shy Aries man, and if you want to catch him and keep him click here to learn more about Aries Man Secrets.

Your friend and astrologer,

Anna Kovach

24 thoughts on “Shy Aries Man: How to Know What He’s Thinking?

  1. I’m obsessed with an aries man. But I can’t figure out if he’s shy or just not interested. His birthday is April 4 and mine is September 17

    1. Hi Tacey! Thank you for writing in about your confusing Aries man situation. Aries men are typically straight forward but if he’s shy it could be due to his moon or rising sign being a sign that is more reserved. My suggestion to you is to go ahead and flirt with him. Let him know that you’d be interested in getting to know him better if he’d be up for it. If he’s interested, he will certainly take you up on it. Invite him out for coffee or a drink. If he digs you, he’ll take the bait. If he isn’t, he’ll either say he has a girlfriend or come up with some other excuse as to why he cannot go. You should learn more about what the Aries man is like by taking a look at my book “Aries Man Secrets” at

  2. Now I’m kinda lost.
    My Aries man is born on 21 March.
    His mars on Taurus and Venus in Aquarius. He’s also INFP. I’m a Leo woman. Actually he so calm for an Aries and he’s not impulsive at all. I feel I’m a typical a firey sign comparing to him. Even I was doubting what should I read to get him right. I mean yeah I understand him very well without reading anything many times, but when I did I feel he’s kinda not the typical Aries at all. Okay and when it comes to sexual part (we haven’t did it yet). what should I read? Aries? Or his mars in Taurus? I’m a bit confused. Our relationship is 5 months.

    Thank you Anna

    1. Hi Sanchez!

      Your Aries guy may be more chill based on what his Moon or Rising signs are. Mars is just who he is as a man in relationships which Taurus would make him more mellow or hard to upset. Venus is what type of woman he’s likely to look for which can either be Aquarius, another air sign, or someone who is similar to the Aquarius woman. You could even have Aquarius as your moon, rising sign, or Venus which would make you more his type. There are lots of variables here sweetheart. You should check into his Moon and Rising signs though to get more clarity.

  3. Hi Anna .My aries man seems to be into me. He talks to me in a very confident way but I can understand that he wants more to do both physically and mentally. His birth date is 27 March and mine 25 November

    1. Hi Fariha!

      To get clarity on what your Aries man wants, you should just be very open and honest with him. Tell him how you feel about him. As a Sagittarius woman, you know it’s important to tell the truth and be forward with what you want. If you don’t communicate with him then you’ll be left wondering what he wants and if it’s what you want. Don’t do that to yourself. Open up to him and learn what is possible between you two.

      1. Hello
        I am a Pisces, moon in Virgo, and venus in Aries. I am currently dating an Aries with Scorpio moon and venus in Aries.

        We are emotionally different at times but we compromise. He also contacts me all the time and that’s what I love about him. But, sometimes he is not good at remembering dates and also, when I tell him sweet words he smiles sweetly only.

        1. Hi Karlen!

          It sounds like you’ve got a good match with your Aries guy. He may not be good at remembering dates but as long as he’s being good to you and treating you well then keep it going for as long as you can. That’s important! I wish you all the very best!

  4. Hey I know an Aries guy who is a moon in aquarius and venus in aquarius who is into me but never makes the first move. I’m not sure if aquarius moon makes him shy.

    1. Hi Lena!

      Aquarius moon shouldn’t make him shy at all. That would make him more outgoing and fun to be around. Perhaps he’s not sure if you really dig him and is waiting on a sign from you. Try letting him know that you like him and then maybe he’ll take the plunge in asking you out!

    2. I am with an Aries guy April 18.. I am older than him 20 years of gap…?he is he always tells me he wants me to be his wife and even planning to our future.. but sometimes I’m confuse coz I’m afraid that one day he’ll realized he wants to be with younger woman., but he keeps on telling me, he cannot do that and he loves me so much… he even introduced me to his whole family.. and as of now I’m too close to his family.,and he admitted than he is already committed to me,.. I’m afraid that I will lose him.. what should I do to make him stay in love?

      1. Hi Catherine!

        If he’s doing all the right things then you need to work on your own insecurities. If he’s acting like he loves you and tells you that he does then that’s all you need to focus on. Keep going out on dates that are exciting and romantic. He’ll appreciate that. Keep things fresh and new and I have no doubt it will last. If you don’t work on your fears then you may end up manifesting an ending so please be careful.

  5. Hi Anna!
    I’m a Sag female (12/06) and I’ve been afraid of commitment most of my life. Now pushing 40!! I’ve made a New Years resolution to drop the act and settle for good. About a month ago I met an Aries guy 5 years younger. Extremely sexy, my initial thought was that he was not marriage material and didn’t even give it a 2nd thought. I’ve been treating him like a boytoy, and yet he’s not giving up on me. I’ve had boytoys before and he seems to fit my usual use-and-ghost characteristics. He thinks we have some potential, and I’m wondering if he would ever be able to get past my poor behavior and mistreatments? Btw… I tried to scare him away by telling him that he was nothing but a f**-boy to me, ghosted him a few times day after sex (x3), and yet he managed to get a hold of me by other routes. Should I spend the last of my 30’s “trying” it out with this guy, is it worth it? Oh and also he can’t give me a straight answer as to what he really wants with me, he can’t say if he wants a fling or something serious… his answer is always “I want you, I don’t want to lose you” … ?… I don’t know if I should let my passion and emotions flow or keep this bad-girl guard up??

    1. Hi CentauroGirl!

      The only way you’re going to know if he’s got more potential than a fun boy, you’ll have to give it some time to see where it develops. If he truly has feeling for you, he’s going to fight for you and chase you. Unless you have something else important going on why not give him a chance? 5 years younger is nothing honestly. He could actually end up being someone very special to you. Give yourself a reasonable time limit on how long you will wait for him to figure out if he ant to be serious or if he wants just a fling. If he says he doesn’t want to lose you then it sounds like he’s trying to decide if he wants to be more serious. When that time frame is up, ask him again then move on if he doesn’t give you the answer you’re looking for. If he does give you a good answer then there you will have it!

  6. Gemini here and i’ve got an aries man. he is very different from the stereotypical aries. he likes to be touched everywhere and he demands attention everytime. his venus is in pisces while mine is in gemini, this bothers me.

    1. Hi Lei!

      Well if his Venus is Pisces, that means that a water sign is best for him typically. Either a Pisces woman or a woman with prominent Pisces influence such as moon or rising sign. If not a Pisces then another water sign such as Cancer or Scorpio. He’s looking for a very sensitive and emotionally equipped woman. As a Gemini, you probably don’t have those aspects very strongly which would be why it bothers you. Your Venus in Gemini makes you a bit more detached as a lover. You don’t like to be touchy feely and aren’t someone who wants a needy partner. Venus is the woman so for him, it’s who he needs and for you, it’s who you are. See what I mean? You need to find out what your Mars is as that will tell you the type of man you need. You two have to look for a common ground or you may find yourself uncomfortable and will move on.

  7. Hi Anna,

    I’m an Aries man, moon Sagi, ascending Gemini, venus Pisces. Friends describe me as sociable and flirtatious. Not sure what’s considered flirting but I’ll be in the trying to “attract/get you” mode for the excitement. Can’t help it.

    Until I met my Taurus fiancee, venus in Taurus. She has all those you have mentioned. Literally melted in her eyes, for the first time and always. Brought all the shy characteristics out of me though my 7th house is in Capricorn. Magical indeed.

    1. Hi Capt. Ted!

      Yes, it sounds like you are indeed a flirt. It’s part of your nature and what Sagittarius does without even really giving it too much thought. It comes naturally and is why so many people love Sagittarius. With you being Aries with Sag moon then yes, it’s influencing you in a positive way as long as you don’t hurt someone who is serious about you. Oh wonderful! It sounds like you’ve found a near perfect match in your Taurus lady. That’s fantastic! I wish you all the very best. Thank you for sharing!

  8. Hi Anna, my name is sayri and I am a Scorpio born on nov 10th with a Pisces moon and Gemini ascendent . My Aries man is born on April 4th with a pisces moon and cancer ascendant . We aren’t together but I am certain that he likes me but I don’t really know. I catch him staring at the corner of my eye and everytime I look at him he laughs and smiles. I want to get close to him but he usually just stares from afar without talking to me and disappears. I feel like he does this to cope with his emotions but I’m still quite uncertain. He hasn’t opened up to me about anything either. Please help me.

    1. Hi Sayri!

      If you don’t know for sure whether or not he likes you then take the first step and find out. Talk to him and ask him to have a cup of coffee with you. Be brave and bold. It’s a way to break the ice. If he does like you, you’ll know it because he’ll not only agree for coffee but he’ll probably then plan the next get together after that. Take a chance! If you want to know more about the Aries mind, check out my book Aries Man Secrets.

  9. Hi Anna,

    My crush is Aries. He likes to joke about marriage when we with others off mate during discussion/meeting. But he never initiates any personal conversation / move with me. It just Aries habit to joke around is it?

    1. Hi Mya!

      Aries men sometimes are pretty quiet. They can be shy, yes. That being said, the best way is to help him get started on conversation by you initiating. It’s not a bad thing for you to initiate. With time, he’ll get comfortable enough to do it himself. Aries men are kind of strange because they can talk for hours with friends or around friend but then alone with their significant other, they would rather cuddle or do something nice to show you they care without talking too much. They can joke around though as well. I just don’t see why he’d joke about marriage though because that’s kind of a serious thing. I’d ask him why he jokes around about it to find out where his head is at. If you need any other help, check out my guides to Aries Man Secrets. I wish you all the best!

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