Aries Man Blocked Me After A Breakup (Is He Done For Good?)

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
Are you about to break up with an Aries man? I'll give you some information that should help you determine what to expect from a breakup with an Aries man.

Hello Ladies! I’ve had many of you asking me what to do about an Aries man after a breakup. Those of you who have asked clearly want to get back into a relationship with him, and this is why it hurts so much when an Aries man blocks you.

He is fiery and passionate and doesn’t always think before he acts. I guess his being so impulsive is what makes him so attractive. When an Aries man cuts you off, it can feel devastating, I really sympathize with you and I am sorry you are going through this.

One of you just sent me an email saying “My Aries man blocked me after an argument? What can I do and are we still together?” Don’t worry, I am here to help and give you all the answers.

If you have recently gone through an argument or a breakup with your Aries man then you have definitely come to the right place. Keep on reading so that I can assist you in turning things around with your Aries man. I promise, not all is lost…

4 Possible Reasons Why An Aries Man Blocked You

There could be all kinds of reasons why an Aries man would block you, let’s explore all the different scenarios together:

1. He Needs Some Space

Being with an Aries man is very exciting, but sometimes the relationship can also be pretty volatile. These men are impulsive and do everything without thinking it through very thoroughly. This is why you may have had a fight and then boom you’re suddenly blocked.

Leaving an Aries man alone is always a good course of action when he gets in a mood like this. Trust me, you don’t want to add fuel to the fire. Leaving him alone will give him the space he clearly needs to calm down.

Sometimes when an Aries man needs space, he doesn’t realize it and thinks that the problem lies with you, and not with him. This is why he will create drama to get away from everything. Give him the space to calm down, and I am sure he’ll come running back sooner rather than later.

2. He Has Commitment Issues

An Aries man may be wonderful and exciting to be around, but these guys can be pretty non-committal. This is probably the reason why they are so exciting because they tend to keep things very interesting…

The motto of an Aries man is “You only live once”, and because of this, they want to try out everything they possibly can. These guys are all about exploration and experimentation. This is why it can be pretty hard for them to settle down and commit to someone.

Some Aries men have serious commitment issues and when you want more from your Aries man than what he is willing to give, he might want an easy way out and this is when he will just block you and disappear for good.

3. He’s Angry At You

Aries, known as the God of War in ancient Greece, clearly has some passion boiling inside of him. And if you have ever dealt with an Aries man, you would know that these guys can get riled up quite easily.

When an Aries man is angry, he only sees red and doesn’t think very clearly. He will act out of impulse and make some silly choices along the way. This guy really isn’t the best at cool, calm, and collected.

So when he is angry at you, he might choose to block you because he isn’t really thinking clearly. Luckily, an Aries man’s anger is quick to grow and quick to dissipate. He’ll soon realize he made a mistake and probably unblock you. 

If you are constantly fighting with your Aries man, here’s more on how to deal with an Aries man in an argument.

4. He Is Trying To Break Things Off

Some Aries men can actually be quite immature… They are the first sign in the Zodiac after all and they have many lessons they need to learn, including how to break things off with a woman in a respectful manner.

Your Aries man might block you because he wants to end things with you and instead of having a conversation about it, he would rather leave you in the dust and block you than go about things the proper way.

This says a lot about him and where is at. He is clearly not mature enough to have a serious relationship with you. Try not to take this personally as this says much more about him than it does about you.

Aries Man Blocked Me After A Break Up — Is He Done For Good?

You’ll need to understand that an Aries man is always right. At least that is what he believes in his life. Therefore, accepting hurt feelings or emotions outside of anger is just intolerable to him.

He will hold in his feelings until he cannot take them anymore. At some point, he will blow up like a ticking time bomb. At that point, you’ll know what he feels, and it won’t be pretty.

However, he will do his best to make you flip your lid first. It looks better for him when you do. Then he can tell all his friends that you were awful to him and how much you were against him.

Everyone will feel bad for him and give him a pat on the back for being so brave. Honestly, it gets him the attention he may not deserve. That is, of course, if he was the one who caused the breakup.

He probably will not want to communicate with you very well either. If you want to talk about why things went down the way they did, he won’t be ready to hear it. He’ll be too angry.

It will take some time before he simmers down enough to want to talk to you about it, if ever. Aries isn’t the easiest guy to get through to. He also isn’t easy to get back if a breakup occurs.

Here’s a number one reason why an Aries man avoids your texts.

What Happens When An Aries Man Cuts You Off

There are definitely signs that an Aries man is done with you and wants to end it. The first is that he stops wanting to spend time with you. He’ll find excuses not to get together and be around you.

When an Aries man wants to break up with you, he will ignore you as much as possible. He will stop being intimate with you. He’ll stop talking to you almost completely.

Your Aries man may also get snippy with you or disrespects you in an effort to piss you off. Why? Because he wants YOU to be the one to look like a jerk breaking it off with him.

If he breaks it off with you, he’ll look like the jerk that he cannot have. If everyone is going to find out, it may as well be your fault. He has too much pride to want to admit any sort of defeat.

Just as he’ll react badly and treat you harshly if you break up with him, he’ll do the same when he’s about to break up with you or will attempt to piss you off enough for you to tell him you’ve had enough.

Either way, it will not be a pleasant experience, to say the least. You’ll have to keep your wits about you and understand that you are doing your absolute best for yourself.

Will Ignoring An Aries Man After A Breakup Make Him Miss You?

In the case that you are considering breaking up with your Aries guy, you may want to really think it through before you do. If you do it too impulsively, you may have a very difficult time getting him back.

He will hold it against you for a long time, if not forever. So weigh the pros and cons and be sure that the breakup is really justified. Otherwise, you may burn a bridge that you cannot rebuild.

The thing is, when you leave an Aries man and break up with him, you are giving him the go-ahead to be free and independent. Especially if you have hurt his ego, he’ll probably go out and get right back on the horse again.

He is unlikely to be the one sitting in the corner crying about the breakup. So he probably won’t even message you to know that you are ignoring him. This is really the type of guy to move right on after a breakup.

So I wouldn’t hold out your hopes that an Aries man is going to miss you, especially not right after the breakup. If the two of you had a strong connection, he might realize that he misses you down the line, but don’t expect it immediately.

Watch this video if you want to make sure what happens when you ignore an Aries man:

FAQ On Breaking Up With An Aries Man

How Does An Aries Act After A Break-Up?

An Aries man after a breakup is the epitome of single living. He is not the type of guy to sit around and mope about not being in a relationship anymore. He probably welcomes the freedom and independence he has now.

He is likely to ignore you because he is busy with other better things in his life. And is trying to get some distance from the situation. It might feel like he is a stranger to you now because he isn’t acting in the way you know.

On a deep level, he is probably really hurting, but the way for him to handle this is to pretend like nothing happened.

Will An Aries Man Come Back After A Breakup?

An Aries man is unlikely to come back after a breakup. He is the type of guy who moves on when he is done with someone. He doesn’t believe in rehashing the past. In his opinion, what is done is done.

This is why you need to be really sure that you want to break up with him because he is the type of guy you only get one shot with. So be sure that you don’t want to be with him anymore or else you might live to regret it.

2nd Chance With Aries Man…

Would you like to have the opportunity to ‘reset’ your relationship with an Aries man? What if you could start over, and turn the clock back to before things got – more complicated than they had to…?

Now while I can’t promise your love will work out (without analyzing your birth charts), you can certainly improve your chances – first, by understanding what happened.

Yes. You might even be able to rewrite your love story altogether… 

Usually, it’s a simple mistake that confused an Aries man or turned him away. Perhaps you’ve misunderstood each other. This is normal – especially in relatively new relationships.

If you need some clarity and guidance on getting his attention and interest back on you… If you’re not sure how to approach him again (without being rejected)…

And if you’d like to put some practical, astrological tools & wisdom – working for you…

You’ll really like this:

2nd Chance With Aries Man <<

I explain the exact 3 step process to win his attention, interest, and love back.

I hope it proves as valuable to you as it has to others seeking an Aries man’s heart.

Your friend & Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach

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45 thoughts on “Aries Man Blocked Me After A Breakup (Is He Done For Good?)

  1. Iv been having an affair with an Aries man( not married but in long term relationship)
    He wants to be with me, swears undying love says sweet things to me and says he can’t live without me!
    Iv got hurt and upset at his dragging his feet waiting for his ( Aries partner) to throw him out so have just stopped meeting him!
    Iv not seen or spoken to him since Wednesday morning and he hasn’t tried to see or speak to me!!
    I’m done with men!! I will stay on my own and live my life as a Scorpio woman hurt!

    1. What a co-incident.Im Aries,and She was a Scorpio.we broke up 3 years,and im still single,missing her voice damn hell alot,her smile..She was the Best thing in my life ever happened to me…i dont know she miss me or not.

    2. Hi Linda! I realize the Aries man can be very frustrating for you. Either he is actually in love with you and not sure how to change the situation he’s in or he’s telling you everything you want to hear to keep you on the side. There are many other things you need to know about Aries men and try not to type cast them all as being the same. I don’t blame you at all for being tired of waiting on him. There are some key things to be said to an Aries man when they are doing this. If you’d like to know more and give it another chance, try reading my book.

  2. Ive been seeing an Aries man for 7 months. He tells me he doesnt want a relationship with anyone because he wants to “air out” from previous relationship of 17 years. When i confronted him about our status, he didnt want to talk about it, ignored me and when i did see him, he acted as if nothing was said. He txtd me every day since, i saw him last night, had sex but havent heard from him all day. I saw condoms in his drawer 2 weeks ago, at the time there were 2, last night only 1. Too many head games.

    1. Hi Cat! Baggage can be a problem for anyone, especially the Aries man since he’s so hard to get a commitment out of in the first place. If he gets burned, he tends to become jaded. It sounds like your Aries guy is confused as far as what he wants. Condoms might be a sign of him having casual sex with no strings in order to figure out what he wants with life. He hasn’t answered you because he doesn’t know yet what to say. There are other things to look out for and now about the Aries man. You should check my book out sometime if you’d like to know more about this sign.


    1. Gemini & Aries

      I was with an Aries man for 3-4 years on and off, he cheated on me constantly, he was obsessive and controlling, and at time physically violet towards me. We would break up all the time, he loved playing head games with me and always sneaking and hiding his phone from me, but would always take my phone and go through it. When I found out I was pregnant with his child I knew I had to made the decision to kick him out of my home and have my baby on my own. From time to time he might send me a message on social media, but never wants to know about his son, never has he paid a cent for his child. To be honest, I sometimes miss him…because when he was good we used to have a great time together.

      My point is, Gemini woman need to be free, we are spontaneous and carefree, Aries men are too controlling for us.

      You made the right choice, Aries & Gemini are too different

      1. Hi Helena!

        It does sound like he was a bad match for you. Aries men are not all alike and I’m sorry you had a crappy experience with one. He sounds very broken and so he’s taking out that brokenness on other people which is toxic. A healthy Aries man who has his act together will not act like this. Try not to write off the sign due to a bad seed honey. Some of them are amazing men. Though with you being Gemini, you would do quite well with the RIGHT Aries. Keep your heart open but always watch for red flags.

    2. Hi Bri! Yes, one of Aries man’s character issues is how possessive, jealous, and controlling they can be. They can also be very pig headed and stubborn. However, they can be taught how to be more calm and less demanding of the right woman. They absolutely will have choice words for someone when they are angry. Aries man does have some redeemable qualities and can actually be quite fantastic. If you aren’t too badly burnt, perhaps you would be interested in checking out my book to learn more (especially if you still love him).

    1. Hi Adi! Aries men certainly have some character flaws just like any other sign in the zodiac. Not all Aries men are liars or projectors. In fact, most Aries will tell you exactly how they feel even if it sound crass. As far as lying and making excuses, that’s odd but could be signs of a narcissist rather than the sun sign Aries. Narcissism can strike any sign out there. Sorry you had this experience.

      1. I have been in a relationship with an sun Aries moon libra man for about a year. I am a sun Leo rising Leo moon cap gal. He dump me due to the fact I lied to him about plans I made for the night, I went out with some girlfriends instead of being home. Part of the reason why I lied, was because he was so controlling, and every time I stepped out he would find a reason to be upset, literally just wanted me at my house, even if he couldn’t make time to hang out with me on his end. I fessed up to the lie explain the situation and I was so apologetic, I asked for his forgiveness, but he Insisted in ending it. Does not want to meet me in person to talk, and blocked me off social media, I’m beginning to think I really have no chance in winning him back.

        1. Hi Lea!

          The thing with Aries is, you stand up for yourself from the get go or they start having expectations of you that are unrealistic. You should have been honest. It would have played out better. He would have been mad but now he sees you as a liar even if you didn’t intend for it to be that way. If he cannot trust you, he cannot accept you back. Maybe in time you can try again but if you do, please be careful not to let him think he can dominate you in an unhealthy way. Boundaries are important!

  4. A lot of the above is not true. A break up is a break up. You tell them to their face and they are gone. If your girlfriend betrays you then yes they are worthless. Hate is a strong word but pity and despise go hand in hand. When your in your a queen, our everything. Once your out your out. As good as dead. Aries do not forgive and we never forget……Next ♈

    1. Hi Chad, thank you for your input. However, in Astrology, there is always wiggle room. While I agree that he’s probably done due to all the stress he possibly endured in the relationship, it’s important for all women to understand that there are different sides to Aries men. Rising signs and Moon signs can affect an Aries man personality which means not all men can be pegged by their sun sign alone. However, in Zonke’s case, she needs to learn more about Aries man if there is any hope for her to get him back or in case she meets a new Aries man. She needs to understand the way the typical Aries man is. As such, I advise all women who are into Aries men or who have tangled with them to check out my book “Aries Man Secrets”.

  5. I have dated my aries for like 3 years for the first two years we were so inlove early last year he cheated on me and I started to be insecure but I forgave him because he apologised and we continued but we were always fighting because he was not making time for me but he told me that he was busy with his business but I was kinda not happy I would sometimes dump him if he is not answering my calls but then again he will explain himself and we will be good but this year January I told him that I want to go and work on another city he was fine he said he supports me and all that but when I was on the other side he said he can not dealbwith long distance we are 11 hours apart and I said I am coming back because anyways I don’t love this city and he said I must not come back we are over…by the way I am a Capricorn

    1. Hi Zonke! It sounds like maybe your Aries man is possibly seeing someone else again or has decided that he’d rather be alone than deal with a back and forth type of thing. He may be giving relationships a break because of all the things he’s gone through so far. Dumping him for not answering your calls probably added up and he decided he had enough. Also, you moving away gave him an out but then when you said you’re coming back, he decided he better tell you the truth about what he really feels and is why he broke it off. Aries men are goal oriented to what they want and can be selfish at times. However, there are things that you really should know about Aries including if there is a way you can get him back. You may want to check out my book “Aries Man Secrets”.

  6. I’m a Cancer/Leo cusp and my now ex-boyfriend is an Aries/Taurus cusp. We were in a very blissful, passionate, exciting and happy relationship for over a year. Then one day, I found out he was making inappropriate comments to women on social media. Things like telling them their beautiful, etc. I was distraught, hurt and felt like a fool. I was a great girlfriend to him, the sex was amazing and he told me he loved me constantly… so why would he do something like that, knowing it would hurt me if I found out?! Anyway he sincerely apologized, he said it was a lapse in judgement and asked if we could work past it. However, I promptly dumped him because now I feel like I can’t trust him. Everything was great and still can’t believe he would do something so childish that jeopardized our relationship. I love him still and I miss him terribly, so much so that I would consider taking him back (with stipulations). However we haven’t spoken in weeks. He’s acting like he doesn’t even care or miss me (even though he’s stalking my social media). If he loved me like he said he did, shouldn’t he be trying to get me back???

    1. Hi Zoe! Thank you for writing in regarding your difficult Aries man situation. This sounds like something that an Aries man may due to his self-esteem not being up to par. This means that if he wasn’t feeling desired or feeling as though he wasn’t being “taken care of” for some reason, he decided to seek attention elsewhere. He probably had no intention on following through and was seeking out attention from these women even if it was inappropriate. I understand your hurt but on some level, he doesn’t get why you blew up so far as to break up with him. That hurt his pride and is why he’s acting like this. Aries men can be quite difficult to deal with and since he has a Taurus cusp, he is also super stubborn because both signs are this way. You can get him back but it’s going to take finesse and patience. Call him up and ask him to meet up to talk through everything. Be honest and ask him what he wants and if there is a chance for you two or not. Ask him flat out. There is much more you should know about Aries man. I can help! Check out my book “Aries Man Secrets”.

  7. I’m a Scorpio woman and have been with my Aries man 3 months. I was his first ever girlfriend. In the 3 months he admitted that he is extremely jealous. We agreed to always talk about things that might bother us and twice he got really mean and angry. The next morning he would just wake up, apologize and expect everything to be right. I’ve decided that I do not need this in my life (i am battling a chronic disease and depression) and although I really do love him, i just had to break it up with him as i cannot deal with all of his insecurities as well. He has since blocked me on social media and i know for a fact he is not telling the truth about our break-up and the reasons i gave him. I made a definite decision to just keep quite and i am not going to badmouth him in any way. He still is a good person with an amazing heart. My friends say that he handled me more like a possession than his girlfriend. I would love to have him as one of my closest friends as we shared a lot and he really does mean a lot to me. But it now seems as if that would never happen. I’m sorry we ever dated, we just should have stayed friends.

    1. omg my aries and i were like that we dated for 6 years we broke up because of the distance since he had to move for work, he broke it off with me and i was like do what u wnna do i didnt have the energy to fight him or fight for him it got me so angry for a long time but i got over it, until like 2 weeks ago he sent 3 frnd requests on fb only accept by the 4th one, he asked me do i miss him, hes coming back home is there still an us, i can ask him anything he will be honest with his answers telling he crashed and burned and im like wat do u want exactly? and he was like nothing nvm and he just started arguing and being mean to me i was f*** this guy hes rlly crazy now like i did or said something to get him mad…i just dont know with him. help scorpio

      1. Hi Mandisa!

        It sounds like your Aries man has no respect for you. He tells you the truth but he’s also mean to you. If he’s being mean it’s because you’re not standing up to him. You say you don’t have the energy to fight but Aries men love women who are strong and won’t let anyone push them around. You need to evaluate if he’s really the one for you. Weigh your happiness versus your unhappiness. Which one seems bigger? In the grand scheme of things, you have to do what is best for you. If you’re often more unhappy than you are happy, you should do something about that. It may require moving on unless he’s willing to work it out. Talk to him about it and be totally honest. You’ll find out how he feels!

    2. Hi Hannah!

      Thank you for sharing your experience with an Aries man. I’m sorry that it was so difficult for you. He sounds like a very broken version of an Aries. He’s riddled with insecurity as you pointed out. He’s probably been quite burned in the past or has learned this behavior from his family life. Either way, you’re right for doing what is best for yourself. He needs a bit of healing. I hope this doesn’t give you the impression that all Aries men are this way. They aren’t! Don’t close your heart off to them. There may still be another one out there that is amazing. You never know. Blessings!

  8. I have been with my Aries man for 2 years, he broke up with me last August due to my insecurities,jealousy,arguments sometimes. u know am a sag female so u know the rest 🙂 anyways I tried apologizing 2 months in sept and October, he blocked me the same day he broke up with me ,,, till this day ,,, is he done for good? Do Aries man come back ? Am still not over him and I love him so much , I stopped contacting him since early October was my last try through email and I felt it’s going no where,, I didn’t cheat nothing of this nature was happening between us except silly fights and arguments and again my insecurities… however am still blocked on his social media though… have anyone of u knew an Aries who blocked or came back after months ? Please let me know ! Thanks

    1. Hi A!

      Typically when an Aries man blocks you after breaking it off, that’s his way of saying he’s done totally and completely. He won’t go backwards and isn’t likely to want to re-kindle anything. If you’ve been trying to get in touch with him and he’s not responding, he probably won’t. If he does, it will be a long time from now when he’s had time to process everything. Otherwise there isn’t much you can do to improve the situation that you haven’t already tried. Apologizing and waiting is all you can do. You have to decide if you’re going to wait longer or if you’re going to go ahead and work on moving forward and being open to love again with someone else possibly.

  9. Hi, I’ve been with an Arie guy for 8yrs, we lived together. I still love him but I had to move out cuz he ignored me completely. I didn’t knw he was back on Facebook and idk how long he was on there but he left me alone for two weeks so I jus moved out even tho I didn’t want too. Now i heard he’s with someone that he met in Facebook and im still heartbroken, trying to figure out what I did wrong n this relationship. I miss him and I care abt him alot. I dnt want to go on Facebook and see what he’s doing. Is he thinking abt me still….?

    1. Hi Christy!

      I don’t believe you did anything wrong sweetheart. He just decided to move on for his own reasons. That’s what happens when they go dead silent and you don’t hear from them again. Unless he contacts you still from time to time then he’s most likely just over it. Don’t take it as something being wrong with you. I’m sorry you’re still so hurt. It takes time to heal and probably best that you ignore what he’s doing or not doing on Facebook. Focus on you and your healing so you can move forward and find someone who will give you the world! You deserve it!

  10. Hi Anna, I seriously need your help or comment for my situation. Me and my Aries bf have had a great time together for 5 months, love each other so hard, travel together and everyone thinks we gonna last. I’m a scorpio btw. I’m 9 years older than him (I’m 29) but I feel his is mature enough so i fall in love with him. He talked about how he thinks I’m his right person and about the future and stuff so i thought we will be fine. But after a few fights, he started becoming very cold suddenly and then i knew he wanted a break up. Two days ago he told me that he wanted to end this saying it’s about our age different and i shouldnt wait around him even if i want to. Also he said he wants to be alone and single again (he is a popular guy on the internet so a lot of girls love him). But he said he still loves me. So apparently I cannot let him go yet and I told him that i need time, plz stay with me for awhile. He agrees to it. We agree that we will tell our friends that we break up but, in chat and while we are together we will still stay like couple. More like friends with benefits style. I hate it but that’s the only way I can still be around him. He said he agrees but he wants me to promise that I will try to move on. He will try to love me less too he said. I said, why dont we try to get back together being in silent relationship since we still love each other. He said he has decided. What shall i do now. i dont know if i made the best decision or not anymore. I want him back. I love him deeply. Please advice me. 🙁

    1. Hi Elizabeth!

      I don’t think age should be a problem with you two. If the maturity level matches then that works very well for you both. He’s using the age difference as a way to take a stab at you since things aren’t working like he wants them to. The situation you are in though is not healthy. Settling for friends with benefits is not going to work for the long term. If he wants to move on, he’s going to do it whether you’re ready for it or not. He said he’s decided and for Aries man, that’s hard to change. All you can do is let go and keep a friendship but not one with benefits as he’ll learn to disrespect you. Sex isn’t going to win him back, I’m afraid. If you’ve already poured your heart out and he’s adamant about moving on then there isn’t much you can do but give it time and see if maybe it changes later on. Be careful with yourself and work on your own inner healing honey.

  11. Ive been seeing this aries man since december it was fun in the beginning but as months pass he began to lie to and I even saw him with his girlfriend at his house with my own eyes and he still continue to lie to me about it i finally broke it off but ask if he can help fix my car which he agree only because he didn’t want me to confront him about what he was doing he never even said he was sorry for what hes done he just keep saying things like don’t worry about him or since I dont trust him don’t worry about him even when he telling the truth its so hard to believe him and say i always think the worse of things even after expressing that I love him and wants whats the best foe him he still puts the blame on me

    1. Hi Dee!

      I’m sorry to hear about what has happened with you and your Aries guy. It sounds like he has some insecurities that lead him to not only hold a grudge but gave him a bad attitude. Unfortunately this are a couple of the Aries man flaws that are hard to deal with. They’re not totally impossible though. Since I don’t know more of your story, I think you really should check out my comprehensive guide on the Aries man called “Aries Man Secrets”. It just may help you figure him out and get back on top.

  12. I met this Aries guy online and we really clicked. For the first time in a long time I felt butterflies. After a couple of days of talking online he told me he may go live in another country for a bit sometime next year. I have trust issues so I freaked out in my head. I told him it’s best if we go our separate way. He wished me the best and I deleted him. Every day sense, I have regretted that decision. I thought I could just get over him and that hasn’t happened. I feel like I missed out on someone amazing because the baggage I have from my past. Anyway, I came across him online again and I swiped on him because I wanted to apologize and to see if he would be open to reconnecting. It’s been almost 2 days and he still hasn’t accepted my swipe. Do you think he’ll give me another chance or is the damage already done?

  13. I’ve known this aries guy since high school. He is my brother’s best friend and we have always been close. We discovered that we had feelings for each other when we got to varsity and decided to start a relationship and see how things go. We kept our relationship hidden from my brother because he would have been upset but this was both a blessing and a curse because my brother would unintentionally tell me about the things he does with girls and that would make us fight a lot. I told him to come clean to my brother to prove that he is serious about us but he never got the courage too and kept giving excuses. Long story cut short, I moved to another country and he to another city. We lost contact for about 2 years but recently started hooking up again, things were as if we never left each other but then again…my brother found this out and was not really happy about it. I again, told my aries guy to talk to my brother and just be a man about it because I want something serious and not in the mood to play around. He said he is still a bit confused and not sure about what he wants so I decided to cut off communication with him until he knew what he wants. During about no contact phase, my brother finally approached me and told me that this aries guy is an asshole and apart from being his best friend, he is just not the right guy for me. I decided to end things because honestly, he wasn’t really proving my brother wrong now, was he? He said he understood and that his only intention was to love me and nothing else then…he blocked me. Which was now the confusing part, why block me? How is he the angry one in all this?

    Confused gemini woman

    1. Hi Kim!

      Well to put it mildly, he was butt hurt when you told him that he wasn’t the right guy for you. His temper led him to a quick reflex of blocking you. It’s not uncommon but why worry about it if you don’t want to be with him. He needed time to get himself together but you took your brother’s advice instead. Now… if you want him back, you’re going to have to tell him that you were only doing what he thought you wanted him to do but it wasn’t what you really wanted. You have to eat a little sand in order to get him to even talk to you again. That’s only if YOU want to do that though. If you need more advice, I’d be happy to help if you check out my book “Aries Man Secrets”. I wish you the best.

  14. Hi Patricia!

    The only way you’re going to know the answer to your question is by taking the risk and reaching out to him. What’s the worst that happens? He doesn’t reply or tells you he’s not interested? You’re not losing anymore than you already have. What you could gain though is a possibility. I’d try it but hey, if you need more help, you really should download my guide “Aries Man Secrets”. I wish you all the best darling!

  15. I have been dating an aries man (moon in Aquarius, rising in libra) for just over a year now. I am a gemini (moon in libra, aquarius rising) woman. A couple of days ago he broke up with me because he said I have been failing to meet his needs and he felt like he couldn’t grow with me anymore. I suffer from anxiety and have trouble being positive and having the motivation to work on the things that he is unhappy about. The signs were there that he wanted to end things but we live together and my negative headspace couldn’t help the situation. I am completely heartbroken about this split because of how in love we still are. the bad times were always over the top and dramatic but the good times were filled with love and so much care and affection. We have been speaking everyday since as ‘friends’ and it feels as if nothing is different but I can tell he thinks he is doing better without me and the affection level is obviously not there. I know in my heart we are very good for each other in many different ways. I am taking steps to improve myself and my mental health and I want him to recognize that I am taking his needs seriously and I value how he feels. I want him back but I don’t know how to approach this or change his outlook on things because he seems so sure that this is the right thing for us to do… he is a stubborn aries man after all. I’m in desperate need of some guidance on how I can win him back. he is so important to me and I’ve never felt a love like this before. We have broken up in the past but always find our way back to eachother. This time feels more like a breakup but knowing us – it still doesn’t feel like our time is up.

    1. Hi Lauren!

      Well if you two are still speaking and it feels alright then there is still hope. What are his needs though? Has he told you what they are? Are they unrealistic for you or are they needs you can compromise on and find a way? I think you need to give it a bit more time of showing and proving that you’re working hard to help yourself. Making yourself whole shows him you don’t need him to do it. I think you will find your way back just like you have before but this time with healing! To learn more about Aries man, please read my book “Aries Man Secrets”.

  16. Im an Aires man. My partner was an Aquarius… she was my best friend. She tied me down by being my best friend and protecting me as much as I did for her. I didn’t know how to communicate and I expressed myself with dysfunctional habits. (Anger) I would be hurtful. Once I learned how much I hurt her… it killed me. I’m crying even as I write. I was in the wrong. We had our problems but I know I’m the one who pushed her away. I fought tooth and nail for her for 2 yrs. then she up and ghosted me. Most people I would not want anything to do with you if you can just cut me off like this. With that being said, I have been begging and praying that this pain stops. It’s been 3 weeks. Sense she ghosted me. 2 yrs of working on things. Over the last 3-4 years our of our 9yr I have been trying to be a better partner… no longer reacting with anger or being petty. If we argue or fight it’s actually a conversation. I’m lost and heartbroken. All I know is I want to do everything I can to be sure that she knows I love her. The door is not completely shut. Because I know this must have not been easy. I also knows he propbaly thinks I’m shutting the door on her. Maybe that’s what she wanted. She didn’t know how to end it because I was doing everything I said I would. I was consistent. I think the issue was deeper and she thought those things where the issue. Or maybe it was just to late. I hope she’s happy. I hope she knows, that i would be there in a heart beat. I hope she knows that every promise i ever gave her… that I am still holding them true to me.
    I’m waiting right now because I’m not ready to move on. But I’m afraid she will always have me and I don’t known how I will allow that part of me to close forever. For the first time I don’t want the door closed. I was wrong. I hurt her emotional and I worked my ass off to fix this. It was to late. And I hate myself

    1. Hi Dom!

      Thank you for writing in and sharing your story as an Aries man. It sounds like this was a huge life lesson for you. I know you feel remorse but it’s not healthy to carry that going forward because if someone does want to come into your life, you won’t see it or want it. You may turn away the very best of life. Please do what you need to in order to heal yourself. You can write a letter to her that you will not send. Put all your feelings out there on paper with the apology, etc. When you are ready, go outside on the night of a full moon and burn that letter. It will go out into the universe and will help you start the healing process in a big way. I wish you all the best!

  17. Hi, I need help in understanding my Aries man. We have been arguing a lot and recently broke up because he had enough of the arguments and got tired of them. He’s going through a lot of stress with school and with his finances. He would spend frivolously and because I would complain to him he found that to be nagging and broke up with me. He says that he wishes to spend however he pleases but I know he is struggling with money. Will this Aries man ever come back? It’s been about 3 months since we broke it off with me 🙁 we’ve been dating for a year before this happened.

    1. Hi PiscesGrl!

      Oops yes, if you complain to him too much, he will definitely see this as a negative bothersome thing. If he’s already aggravated with other things going on in his life, he will try to alleviate stress wherever he can and unfortunately this mean letting go of you. That’s the way Aries man saw it. If he is struggling he will need to work on that and get back on his feet. Until that happens, he probably will not get involved with anyone. Your best bet is to give him some time to do that while you work on your own life path. Perhaps when he gets it together, he’ll reach back out and talk about getting back together. If he really does care for you, he will. To learn more about Aries man, check out my books on Aries Man Secrets.

  18. I have been in a relationship with an Aries man going on for almost two years this July. Everything was fine at first, but now he is exhibiting everything that you say is a sign that he is about to break up. My question is:

    How long will I have to wait for him to leave me?

    I read Aries is energetic and adventurous, but I don’t see it. On his days off from work all he wanted to do was lay in bed and play on his phone all day, until supper. He even did that when he lost his jobs. At first, all he wanted to do was watch movies with me and we would critique them. Now, He mostly plays on his phone when we are supposed to be watching the movies together.

    I found out, after he moved in, that he does not like cleaning. He only started helping clean, after I told him that he was going to have to help clean up the messes that he helps to create or he was going to have to leave. Now, it has been just about 2 days and it seems he is sliding back into being like that again.

    I can’t take his moods. I thought Scorpios are supposed to be the moody ones. I know I can be quite moody when I am sick. I suffer from the occasional depression from childhood events and anxiety from them, as well. I have chronic back pain from someone hitting me, as a child, with a metal pipe. He seems not to care, until I get onto him about him seeming not to care.

    I can’t take it, if there is a nasty breakup, because of my earlier stated maladies. I went through a bad separation, with my ex-husband, who is a Capricorn, but he and I remained friends.

    I am tired of crying and hiding my tears. For me it is getting so bad that my acid reflux is coming back. My Aries bf acts like nothing is wrong and when I do mention anything he, like you said, blames me. My ex blamed me also for our split.

    I don’t want to salvage this mess. I want to know how I can get out of it with my sanity still intact.

    Also, I don’t like hurting anyone. That’s why I want to know what I can do to speed up his dearture and make him be the one to end it.

    Something else that he does when he would get a new job. When he meets a woman at each job, he would start hanging around her and that is when he starts working overtime. This last time, I think he discovered the woman that he was liking decided that she didn’t like him, because now he is complaining that he is being forced to work overtime.

    I was planning to call a Private eye tomorrow, to see if he is cheating, so I can have a reason to tell him to leave. what is your thought on that? If I can have proof that he is doing something behind my back. Will it lessen his blaming me? I know he will still blame me, but will it be worse or not as bad as it could have if I just kicked him out?

    1. Hi Maria Moore!

      It sounds like he’s making excuses to do what he wants then try to make you the bad guy somehow. That sounds like a narcissist in action. I don’t think you’d be doing much for yourself by proving he’s cheating. If you already feel it then that is your intuition telling you he’s doing something wrong and it’s not your fault by any stretch. A person cheats because they want to. If they blame anyone else then they are a fool and don’t want to accept responsibility for their bad decisions. It’s time to let him go and find a man that will love and respect you sweetheart. Focus on yourself from here on out. The right guy will appreciate that. I wish you all the luck in the world!

  19. My aries man…we broke up today after 6 months of being glued to each other. He would always come over to my house. As a tidbit, he was my first love 40 yrs ago, and I his. We broke up then, and he married. Sadly, four years ago, his wife passed away from Cancer, and we spoke after that…3.5 years ago is when I found out his wife passed.
    We picked up right where we left off so many years ago. We both are fire signs, I’m a Saggitarius and of course his is Aries. We are very much attracted to one another as we have the exact same sense of humour, etc. Passion is off the charts!
    But slowly, I started realising that he does like to be controlling and in charge. Being a Saggi, I don’t like being controlled at all by a man. I have independence and while I invite communication, I don’t like drama OR silly temper tantrums. Aries are hot-headed in the moment. You really have to have patience until your patience runs out. Today, it ran out with me. Right away, he textedd me saying he will pick up his belongings, etc. Like, it wasn’t even an hour after I saw him and had a row. He is very impulsive and hot-headed. He likes to have “the” idea rather than listen to yours.
    So, now my Aries seems to be gone from me because he “seems” like he would rather lose me than admit to his arrogance and temper.
    That’s okay with me for now. I’m a Saggi and we also can be fiery! I’m all for compromise and communication, but if he is not willing to provide me with that, then he can date/sleep/have dinners with all the women he wants! I’m very okay being on my own instead of putting up with temper tantrums when something doesn’t go the way he wants.
    If you notice, an Aries man will be looking for a comeback, rather than actually “hearing” what you are trying to explain to them. Defensiveness is their best friend.

    1. Hi Darcy,

      Yes, I agree. But if he is just having a temper tantrum in your presence or expressing frustration at something you’ve done or said, that can be normal for Aries. But again, do discern if it crosses the line into abuse/direct attacks.
      First and foremost- just because he’s angry, doesn’t mean he’s right. If he is annoyed by something and lets you know, that’s his way of telling you his boundaries, but just because he can be loud doesn’t mean he wins. This is important to remember. If you reconnect, the two of you can balance each other out, but he has a habit of being domineering and needs to work through that in order to create balance. Best of luck to you!

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