Some men just love to argue—and most Aries men are among them! If you’re sick of bickering—or all out warring—with your Aries man, I can help you handle your serial arguer and restore harmony to your relationship.

Few people really enjoy arguing. Most of the time, it’s hurtful and destructive. But some men seem to consider it an art form!

If you’re dating or married to an Aries man, you might be all too familiar with the concept of “explosivity.” Explosions may happen very regularly indeed, and as the “war” sign, Aries is not afraid of confrontation—and sometimes it might seem like he’s arguing for sport!

It can be exhausting to live with, as anyone who loves an Aries knows. You’re either invigorated by his fiery energy, or you have just had enough of it! How do you bring more harmony into your relationship with an Aries man? It’s not easy, in all honesty. But there are ways! 

Let’s explore why the Aries man likes to argue, and what to do when an Aries man argues with you. Finally, we will look into how to bring more harmony into life with an Aries man! 

Why He Argues So Much

How often will these arguments spring up? Once a week? Once a month? Every day? Well, for a typical Aries man, arguing is normal every day of his life. 

Whether he’s arguing with you, the teller at the bank, or anyone else, the Aries man lives and breathes conflict. He’s assertive, dominant, and fiery, and this is just part of his personality. In this case, any amount of arguing is normal—for him. 

It becomes a problem when it doesn’t feel normal for you.

The truth is, an Aries man heats up and cools down very quickly, and once he’s exploded, he goes back to normal, forgiving and forgetting so fast he’ll give you whiplash. 

For some women, this is great—especially if you are very similar. For others, this can feel tiring and painful. 

However, the anger from an Aries man is usually neither toxic nor manipulative; there is no malice behind his temper. He never means to hurt you, and he won’t lie to you.

He’s frustrating, to be sure, and his defensiveness is probably rather annoying, but he truly does not have a nasty bone in his body. In this way, you can always trust that the arguments are not usually heavy or psychologically driven. An Aries man will never gaslight you try to twist your thinking. He’s just prone to putting his foot in his mouth!

The bottom line is that an Aries man is ruled by Mars—the planet of war, lust, desire, aggression, and fighting. How can you expect anything else from a Mars-ruled sign? 

This Mars energy also makes him sexy, manly, warm, loyal, passionate, and willing to lay his life down for you. It makes him protective and willing to deal with any challenge. 

The trade-off is that temper! It’s just who he is.

How an Aries Man Argues

The Aries man is extremely direct and honest. He’ll tell it like it is, and he won’t spare your feelings. That’s just his warrior nature. 

He’s a “man’s man”—which can mean he’s not all that sensitive to your emotions. However, surprisingly, an Aries man is very sensitive himself! He will take things personally, and when he feels rejected, put down, ignored, or dismissed, he will act like a big baby and throw a tantrum.

So how does an Aries man argue? The same he does everything else—passionately, directly, and with a whole lot of heat. 

He will raise his voice, stomp around, declare war, and use all of his defensive and attacking tools. He will not stop until he’s won, and seldom does he admit when he’s wrong. He will only apologize if he has done something really wrong—if he has hit below the belt or betrayed you.

This is a flaw in his nature, and it will take a lot of patience to show him the error of his ways. He does try to do the right thing, though, despite his temper. 

He argues honestly, and in that way, you can always trust your Aries man to be true and authentic.

3 Tips for When He Argues with You

So, what do you do when an Aries man argues with you? 

Do you lie down and take it? Do you fight back? Play games? Soothe him? Ignore him? 

Here are a few handy tips for the next time your Aries man picks a fight. 

1. Challenge Him

This is not exactly the most harmonious option, but an Aries man does appreciate someone who can stand up for themselves. 

He likes to have a worthy opponent, so when you just take everything he throws at you, you may actually lose his respect. 

This doesn’t mean you have to hurl back as much fire as he’s throwing your way. But if you feel he’s in the wrong, stand your ground and believe in yourself. 

The chances are good that the fire between you will burn itself out quickly enough. And even if it doesn’t seem like it in the moment, he’s hearing you.

Challenging him now might just make it easier to see eye to eye when you’ve both cooled down.

2. Lower Your Defenses

This is a great tool, but it’s not the easiest to use because it might hurt your pride a bit!

When you recognize the times you’re in the wrong—and admit it rather than staunchly defending yourself—you’ll douse some of his fire.

Make sure to listen to his words, even when his delivery leaves a lot to be desired. Open yourself up to his message, and if you find he has a point, be willing to accept it.

3. Take a Little Space

If things get too heated, just step back and take a breather. 

There’s only so much arguing you can do before you’re both talking in circles, and that’s when the big guns come out and things can get really hurtful. 

If you feel your argument is veering into the danger zone, call a time-out.

Once the fire has cooled, he will be much more likely to try to work things out in a peaceful, constructive way. 

Is There a Bright Side?

Is there anything at all positive about arguing with an Aries man? Of course, there is! 

Those little fights can allow you to air out your grievances, and they can even stoke the fire between you if you manage to avoid hurt feelings.

Healthy arguments for some couples are a sign you care about one another and you’re engaged in your relationship.

To be honest, when you’re dealing with an Aries man, it’s more worrisome if you suddenly stop arguing. For him, apathy is far worse than heat. 

If you can learn to compromise, you can develop a constructive argument style that’s almost a form of therapy for the two of you. 

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What Now?

The first step toward harmony with an Aries man is, oddly enough, to accept that he’s not the most harmonious guy. 

He enjoys battle, conflict, and fire. It makes him feel alive. 

Life with an Aries man is not going to be butterflies and roses—at least not exclusively. There will always be conflict and moments of frustrating passion. You have to learn to start arguing smart. 

One of the best ways to bring more harmony into your relationship is patiently teach him that arguing is not the only way to communicate. 

Accept that he will lose his temper and don’t lose yours, but do stand your ground. Lower your defenses, be calm, and wait for him to cool down. Remember, Aries is the “infant” of the Zodiac, and he can be so self-absorbed that he may not even realize how often—or how intensely—he’s fighting with you. 

Lastly, if any argument gets abusive in any way—physically or emotionally—know that you absolutely should not put up with it. There’s a line between argument and abuse, and you should never let him cross it. 

With the vast majority of Aries men, he has a good heart. He wants to be his best for you, so help him overcome this obstacle in your relationship—and look at it as a learning opportunity for you, too. 

Work on your communication and argument style, as well, and grow together. Your relationship is worth it!