Playing hard to get can be fun, but knowing how to play hard to get with an Aries man can be difficult to master as an Aries man is usually the king of driving women crazy with this behavior.
An Aries man playing hard to get is something you are going to have to get used to if you want to be with him. You have to understand that this is a guy who is going to chase you down when you seem disinterested, and who is going to run away when you get clingy.
It is all about finding the balance with this fire Zodiac sign, and this can be kinda difficult to do if you aren’t totally sure of what you are doing. But don’t stress my love, I am here to guide and support you.
If you are interested in learning more about how to play hard to get with an Aries man then you have come to the right place! Keep on reading to find out how to drive him crazy.
In my years as a relationship astrologer, I have worked with thousands of women who love an Aries man, and I can tell you that the push-and-pull you feel with him is not in your head. In one of my recent surveys of over 400 women dating Aries men, 23 percent described their situation with a single word: complicated. His Mars-ruled heart is wired for the chase, and once you understand that, playing hard to get stops feeling like a game and starts feeling like a language he actually speaks.
If you want the fastest path to becoming the woman he pursues without losing yourself in the process, my 30-Day Love Challenge for the Aries man walks you through it step by step. But first, let me show you exactly how his mind works.
Does An Aries Man Like A Clingy Woman?
Aries men are seriously weird creatures to understand, when this guy knows that he can’t have you, he is going to act so super into you and do absolutely everything he can to win you over.
However, if you come on too strong and act too clingy then he is going to run away faster than you have ever seen. In short, with an Aries man, it is probably a lot better to not be super keen than it is to be clingy.
So if you have more of an anxious attachment style, then being with an Aries man may possibly be quite challenging for you. You need to be quite secure and independent if you want to be with an Aries man.
Being clingy is the sure fire way of getting him to want to stay at arm’s length from you. Remember, Aries is the conqueror, and he needs to be with a woman who he can conquer and constantly “win” over.
Aries men love women who play hard to get. Check here the list of female traits that make an Aries man weak in the knees.
Does An Aries Man Like Playing Hard To Get?
Playing hard to get comes extremely naturally to an Aries man, this isn’t even something he is consciously aware of. He just acts this way out of instinct because nothing gives him greater joy than winning and being a conqueror.
This is a man who loves having something to fight for. He has an extremely competitive streak within him, and any woman who awakens this within him is going to win his heart.
His ego will get a massive boost if you don’t make things super easy for him, he needs to know that he has won you over to really fall deeply in love with you. Challenge him and he’ll absolutely adore you.
But, you need to keep in mind that you still need to drop subtle hints to make him believe he has a chance with you. Flirt a bit with your Aries man, and then go radio silent for a few days. The push and pull are going to create strong attraction in your Aries man and this is what you want.
This guy sees the beginning of a relationship (or its possibility) as a game. He doesn’t want you to give in so easily. He may pursue you but it would be best if you will actually pull back a little bit.
Obviously, you don’t want to pull back so much that he feels you don’t like him. However; you’ll want to not always be available when he calls or texts. Knowing you’re sitting there waiting on him will turn him off.
What else turns an Aries man off? << check out here.
He’d rather hear back from you later on after you’re done doing whatever it is that you’re doing. This lets him know he’ll have to work hard for your affection.
This is actually a turn-on for him. Knowing he has to come to chase you is alluring for him. He’ll be delighted to be able to do what he can to pursue you. If you make it too easy for him, he’ll lose interest.
Why Playing Hard To Get Works So Well On His Mars-Ruled Heart
To understand why this approach works so well with an Aries man, you have to understand the planet that rules him. Aries is governed by Mars, the planet of drive, desire, and conquest. Mars does not want what is handed to it. Mars wants what it has to earn. When you make yourself a little less available, you are not manipulating him. You are simply giving his ruling planet something to move toward.
This is why the beginning of a relationship with an Aries man can feel so electric. He is in full pursuit mode, and pursuit is where he feels most alive. The moment the chase disappears, so does a piece of his spark. That is not a character flaw, it is his cosmic design.
The survey data backs this up in a way that surprises most women. In our situation survey, 28 percent of women said there had been a strong connection with their Aries man, but it was fading. Not gone. Fading. That distinction matters, because with an Aries man, a fading connection is almost always a connection that stopped being a challenge. Reintroduce a little mystery, a little of your own life that does not revolve around him, and you often watch that fading spark reignite.
Playing Hard To Get With An Aries Man — When You Shouldn’t Do It?
Playing hard to get at the start of a relationship with an Aries man is usually the safest time to do so because he needs to win you over. However, once you’re settled and in a committed partnership it can be dangerous territory if you continue playing hard to get because your Aries man might perceive this as you not liking him very much.
These guys are so complicated, so I applaud you for wanting to go there but their actions can be very confusing. An Aries man still wants to feel desired and wanted by his woman and if he never gets that from you he is going to feel unloved.
Don’t play hard to get when you can see that your Aries man needs your support or that he is going through a stressful time. He needs to know that he can rely on you and this should help him move through the muck.
An Aries might start pulling away himself if he thinks you’re just interested in games and not anything more serious, especially if that is what he wants. Discover what NOT to do when an Aries man is pulling away.
The One Mistake That Turns Hard-To-Get Into Pushing Him Away
Here is where so many women go wrong, and I do not want you to be one of them. There is a fine line between playing hard to get and playing cold. An Aries man reads coldness as rejection, and rejection is the one thing his ego cannot tolerate for long. If you go silent for days with no warmth at all, if you answer every text with one flat word, if you never let him feel that spark of interest underneath your independence, he will not chase harder. He will assume you are not interested and move on to protect his pride.
The secret is warmth with a boundary. You drop a genuine, flirty hint that tells him the door is open, and then you step back into your own life. You let him wonder, but you never let him feel unwanted. Think of it as leaving a light on in the window while you go about your evening. He sees the glow, he knows he is welcome, and that is exactly what pulls him forward.
This balance is especially important given who reads this blog. Many of the women I hear from are not in casual flings. They are in serious, meaningful situations where an Aries man came on strong and then cooled, and they are trying to bring back what they felt at the start. If that is you, the goal is never to punish him with distance. The goal is to remind him, gently, that you are a prize worth winning.
How To Play Hard To Get With An Aries Man — 3 Steps To Leave Him Smitten
It is a lot easier to play hard to get with an Aries man than you might think. Just follow these steps and I promise you he will be smitten:
1. Play It Cool With Communication
When an Aries man calls or texts you first you know he is already into you. It is so easy to reach out to people with today’s modern technology, but when dealing with an Aries man it is sometimes best to keep it cool and wait for him to reach out to you first or take time to respond to you.
Get him to communicate with you and set the tone. You don’t want to chase him by constantly calling and texting him because this will only put him off and have him run away.
Let him come to you!
2. Make Him Wait For Sex
If there is one sign that really loves to have sex, then it has to be the Aries man. This is an extremely sexual and physical man who needs that stimulation and connection often.
An Aries man in bed is amazing, so it can be quite hard to resist his advances but if you make him work for it you will be much better off. You always need to remember that he needs to win you over.
Don’t give yourself to him too easily because he won’t see you as the prize that you are.
3. Let Him Chase You
I am all for female empowerment, but sometimes I think the modern narrations of female empowerment have made the divine feminine act out in more masculine ways.
We are encouraged to go for what we want, but in actual fact, our divine femininity truly comes out when we can sit back, flow, and trust in the process. Let your intuition guide you and don’t try to control things so much.
Let your Aries man chase you, you want to be the prize. Focus on yourself and everything that makes you truly amazing. Allow the connection to unfold naturally because the more you step into your masculine, the more you are going to push him away.
How To Tell Your Hard-To-Get Game Is Actually Working
One of the most common questions I get is, how do I know if this is working or if I am just pushing him away? With an Aries man, the signs are usually loud, because subtlety is not his strong suit. When your approach is working the way you want, he starts initiating more. The texts come from him first. He suggests the plans. He gets a little competitive, maybe teasing you about who else might be after your attention.
You will also notice his physical intensity ramp up, because for an Aries man, desire and pursuit are deeply linked. In our surveys, 62 percent of women described intimacy with their Aries man as incredible, the highest of any sign, and that fire tends to burn brightest when he feels he is chasing something worth having. If he is leaning in, making an effort, and clearly trying to close the distance you created, your hard-to-get energy is working exactly as intended.
If you want a clearer read on where you truly stand with him and how your energies align, this is the perfect moment to check the stars.
And if you want the word-for-word approach that keeps him leaning in over the long run, my 30-Day Love Challenge gives you the daily steps that turn a chase into real commitment.
Become His Dream Woman In 30 Days (Or Give Up Forever)
Looking to become the woman of your Aries man’s dreams, but getting frustrated with how slowly things are progressing? Do you wish you had a magic ball to see into the future to KNOW for sure if he’s “The One” for you?
It’s time to stop trying to figure him out and start taking action!
Well, I have fantastic news for you!
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This powerful program will give you everything you need to know if your Aries is your forever guy.
He WILL respond quickly to this approach if he IS the one for you, and if he doesn’t, you will know in 30 days so you don’t waste any more precious time.
We all know that Aries men can be stubborn, and leave you waiting and wondering for a very long time.
But with this program, you’ll have the tools to get him to commit quickly. And if he doesn’t, you’ll know he isn’t the right man for you and can set him loose to find your true soulmate.
So no more waiting around or playing it cool. It’s time to get your Aries man to step up or move on.
Don’t miss out on the opportunity to become his dream woman in just 30 days or give up forever.
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XOXO, Anna
Frequently Asked Questions About Playing Hard To Get With An Aries Man
How Long Should You Play Hard To Get With An Aries Man?
Play hard to get for as long as you are still in the pursuit phase, but not a day longer once he has clearly committed. In the early weeks, when he is trying to win you over, a little mystery is your best friend. Let him initiate, let him plan, let him wonder. This is when his Mars-ruled drive is fully switched on and every bit of distance you create feeds his desire to close it.
Once he has made his feelings and his intentions clear, though, the strategy has to soften. An Aries man who feels he has won you still needs to feel wanted. If you keep him guessing after commitment, he starts to read it as coldness or disinterest, and that is when he pulls back. The rhythm changes from chase to warmth. You keep your independence, you keep your own full life, but you let him see how much you enjoy him. That combination of secure and affectionate is what keeps him devoted for the long haul.
Do Aries Men Lose Interest If You Play Too Hard To Get?
Yes, they absolutely can, and this is the trap most women fall into. An Aries man loves a challenge, but he hates feeling rejected. If your version of hard to get looks like total silence, constant unavailability, or never showing any warmth, his pride kicks in and he decides you are simply not interested. Rather than chase harder, he protects his ego by walking away.
The fix is to always pair your distance with a spark of genuine interest. A warm, teasing text before you go quiet. A real smile when you see him before you head off to your own plans. He needs to feel that the door is open even when you are not standing in it. Get that balance right and he stays hooked. Get it wrong and he assumes there is nothing there to win.
Will An Aries Man Chase You If You Ignore Him?
An Aries man will often chase you when you pull back, but ignoring him completely is riskier than most people think. There is a difference between being less available and freezing him out. Being less available makes him curious and competitive. Freezing him out makes him feel disrespected, and a disrespected Aries man does not beg, he retreats.
The most effective approach is to reduce your availability while keeping the warmth intact. Take a little longer to reply. Do not always be free when he asks. Have your own life that clearly does not revolve around him. But when you do engage, be genuinely warm and present. That contrast between busy and warm is what triggers his hunter instinct without bruising the pride that runs his entire personality.
How Do You Make An Aries Man Miss You?
You make an Aries man miss you by giving him room to feel your absence. He cannot miss what is always in front of him. Step back into your own passions, your friends, your goals, and let there be moments where you are simply unreachable because you are living your life. An Aries man is drawn to a woman with her own fire, and nothing makes him think about you more than realizing you were perfectly happy without checking your phone for him.
When you do come back into contact, keep it light and positive. Do not explain where you were or fill the silence with reassurance. Let him do a little of the reaching. That small gap between his message and your reply is where the longing grows, and longing is the emotion that pulls an Aries man straight back to your side.
What Happens When You Stop Chasing An Aries Man?
When you stop chasing an Aries man, you hand him back the role he was born to play, the pursuer. For a man ruled by Mars, chasing is not a chore, it is a thrill. The moment you stop doing his job for him, the natural order is restored and his interest almost always climbs. Suddenly he has space to want you, room to move toward you, and a reason to prove himself.
You may notice this shift quickly, because Aries men are not slow movers once their drive is engaged. He starts initiating, he ups his effort, and he treats you more like the prize you are. The key is to hold your position and resist the urge to jump back into chasing the second he responds. Let him lead, enjoy being pursued, and trust that the connection is strongest when he is the one closing the distance.
Your Turn, I Would Love To Hear From You
Every Aries man is a little different, and I know your situation feels uniquely complicated right now. Have you tried playing hard to get with your Aries man? Did he chase harder, or did he go quiet? Share your story in the comments below and tell me what is happening with your Aries man. I read every single one, and I will do my best to help you figure out your next step.
ANNA, I read from you a great deal…I like the work that you do. However you and others just don’t realize the extent of all of this…Astrology is beneficial and it does help me some, however I will just be happy when YOU and other astrologers realize that AGE yes AGE has ALOT to do with all of this…When the men want and the women want actually changes with AGE. Once men and women hit 55-60 things start to change. They are NOT the same as younger people. They do NOT in many cases have anywhere close to the same energy level…They don’t need to be OUT and active as much as the younger people…Trust me in this. I just turned 72, my boyfriend is 56 this year (next month). I am Aquarius and he is an Aries…We get along well so far…Planning a trip this summer to Colorado from North Carolina…I imagine he was ALOT more like what you write about in his younger years but now at almost 56 he has changed. He’s already been through his male mid-life crisis, he is a mature man who is still serving in the Marines…SO point here is PLEASE realize that when you write about these signs, you might consider including a note at the bottom telling your readers that this may not apply to men and women over 55-60 years of age b/c with age things do change. Such as the “hunt” that you mention about certain signs (men that just LOVE the chase), not all and certainly NOT after they age. They may want stability and they look for intelligence and commitment and monogamy and affection…They are looking at that age to grow OLD with one woman and they do change and some of them drastically…SO, just food for thought. Your articles are helpful to the under 55 crowd (male and female), however when people are older their attitudes change, they are more in control, more awake, aware, alert than ever before and what applies to the younger generation of folks is not a one size fits all for all of us…Bless you, keep up the good work. Would be great if you did some research/studies on older people and the zodiac. hahaha
Wandakate in N.C.
Hi wandakate!
Thank you for chiming in. I perfectly understand the complexity as an Astrologer honey. I can only write articles about basics though because its what most people understand and can relate to. Trust me, to totally know someone, you have to pull up their natal chart and really dig in. There is so much more to be found there. Of course age plays a role in things. When they’re young and immature, they are very different than when they’re older, wiser, and more experience. That goes for all signs though. Again, it’s hard to cover the range in just one article. I have to keep it basic. The women that are 55 and older tend to write in to me after they’ve read the books to get personal guidance from me. I’m well versed on all ages 😉