Primary Navigation

Aries Man Being Hot And Cold All The Time – What To Do?

Have you been dating or seeing an Aries man who at first was warm, loving, and intimate but then he became ice cold? Does he have a habit of going back and forth so much that you just aren’t sure if he even wants to be with you or not? Keep reading to find out why is your Aries man being hot and cold all the time.

Jumped in Too Fast

Aries men crave excitement and so when he meets someone who sparks that thrill; he tends to gravitate toward her. He will think its “love at first sight” without getting to know her or whether or not she’s even good for him.

When he does this; at some point; he’s going thing things through and when he does; he realizes he jumped into a situation or relationship too quickly. He will start pulling back and trying to mull things over a bit.
He’s not as much of a critical thinker as some of the other signs. He’s intelligent but his mind is so busy that he often doesn’t take time to really get things in order before he makes decisions.

He gets exited and dives right into whatever he wants without any regard for the consequences that may follow. Once he really understands that he shouldn’t have done it; he back peddles.

He may figure out that the person he got into a quick relationship wasn’t the one, maybe he realizes he likes someone else as well, or he could have realized he’s not really ready for any relationship at all.

When Aries man goes too fast; he is doomed to throw the brakes on and finally think about what he’s doing. Sometimes it results in him figuring out it’s the right thing and then sometimes he figures out she’s not the “one” for him.

Fears Creep In

aries man being hot and cold

This sometimes hits any man no matter what their sign is. However; with Aries men; they tend to build up walls once they’ve been hurt. Though his “instant satisfaction” kicks in when he meets a wonderful lady; his instincts kick in later.

I mentioned that he back peddles or pulls back. If he realizes that he still has fears of getting hurt; he’ll also wonder if he has the potential to hurt the woman he’s getting involved with.

He doesn’t want to intentionally hurt anyone else because he’s been hurt but sometimes he gets so wound up and excited about someone new that he bypasses the healing process.

If he’s still harboring difficult problems within himself due to a past relationship or heartbreak; he will inevitably shut down or back off. He knows he has walls and he knows it will take the right person to tear those down.

He won’t give in easily and even though he seemed so warm and caring at the beginning when you met him; if he’s carrying this heavy load on his heart; he’s going to worry that someone is going to get hurt therefore he steps back.

Patience is required to get through the times where he disappears, go radio silent, and doesn’t want to make plans. He may need some personal time alone to work on his inner issues.

If he’s able to heal himself successfully; he’ll come back arms open. Of course you as a woman; need to decide if he’s worth waiting for at all or if there is perhaps someone else better for you out there.

When he warms back up

Naturally, if he’s thought things through and decides to make a go of the relationship; he’ll seemingly come back around with passion again. The thing is; you’ll be leery about whether or not he means it.

This is absolutely a normal reaction. The problem with this is that if he senses that you’re leery; he’ll feel offended and get ticked off. In other words, if he feels you’re doubting whether he’ll stick around or not; he’ll get very upset.

Again; it’s totally legitimate for you to feel this way. However; it may be something best discussed with your friends rather than him. If you somehow find a way to tell him you are doubtful; he may disappear again.

That doesn’t mean you should never talk to him about how you feel but I can tell you that Aries men get offended by a woman who questions their intention or integrity. It’s a dicey situation and you’ll need to be very careful.

I’d say give him another shot and let him prove to you that he’s going to stick around. If he disappears for the 2nd time; it may then be time to reconsider if he’s really what you want.

No one wants to worry about their mate suddenly disappearing whenever it suits him. You certainly don’t deserve this either. I’ve had letters from clients who take him back multiple times only for him to end it or have an affair.

If your Aries man disappears once and comes back warmed up to you again, it’s alright if you let him back into your world as long as you keep your antenna up and eyes open.

What can you do?

aries man being hot and cold

Many women ask me what they can do when their Aries man gets hot and heavy then goes cold. The best thing to do is to wait and see what happens. If he cares but was afraid; he’ll come back.

If he had second thoughts and disappeared then he may have decided to move on. In the event that he has up walls and is fearful; there is still a chance he’ll come back around.

A great deal of patience is required for these men. If they disappear, you can send one text expressing your care and that you’re there for them. Then they have to decide if they want that or not.

I hope this helps give you an idea of what he’s like when he is very warm and goes very chilly. Always trust your gut and do what is right for yourself!

Click here to learn more about the Aries man. It may help you figure out if you’re what he really wants.

Share your story (or situation) with our community in the comment section below (don’t worry, it’s anonymous).

Wishing you all the luck of the universe

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach

8 thoughts on “Aries Man Being Hot And Cold All The Time – What To Do?

  1. You understand an aries very well, how this possible to know so much about someone with their birth sign.

    1. Hi Bangladesh!

      It’s a study that you have to undertake. I’ve done years of it. You can also dig even deeper into someone’s persona by looking into their full birth chart. Sun sign only scratches the surface. If you’d like to know more about Aries man, you can also check out my book “Aries Man Secrets”.

  2. I’m in a new relationship with an Aries man (2 months) and I find him so hard to read! When we are together he is funny/passionate/attentive but when we’re apart I might not get a message for hours or all day some times!
    It leaves me questioning where things are at.
    He doesn’t express emotions very well, and being a Scorpio, I’m all about expressing every emotion!
    I want to hang in there but I need more from him, I need constant reassurance and I’m not sure he can give me that.

    1. Hi Scorpio Lady!

      He sounds like a very typical Aries man my dear. All of what you say is true. Patience is key to winning your Aries guy over to open up and be more in tune with you. Tell him exactly what you told me… that you need more from him and reassurance that your relationship is headed somewhere. Check out my books on Aries Man Secrets for more useful tips.

  3. I’m in a relationship with an aries man for almost 2 years now, and even now he just vanishes for two days or more because his mood isn’t good or because of something I did that I didn’t even know triggered him. And even though I am patient I just can’t stop thinking if he will ever be the same affectionate person he used to be and share the same bond we used to have.For the days he is gone I can’t get over it and focus on my life and when he is back to being normal I get to know that he has probably had really good time with his friends. This makes me very irritated because when I was constantly worrying about us he was enjoying with his friends. Help me with dealing with this and him and how do i tell him this affects me alot

    1. Hi Zoe!

      I’m sorry your Aries guy is so frustrating. If he is vanishing it’s because he doesn’t know how to deal with his emotions very well. Going to spend time alone or with friends allows him to zone out and de-stress. I think what you need to do is “let go” of expectation. Not for him but for you. Start doing things for yourself or with your friends when he does this. Don’t try to text him or reach him. When he comes back around act casual instead of with worry. It will make him wonder what is going on with you and then maybe he’ll want to talk about it and try to make things right. If not then you need to confront him and give it your all with how you feel. If he cannot come around you will have to decide if this is a relationship you should stay in or if you should get out of it to start anew. I wish you all the very best sweetheart!

  4. Hi everyone,
    I am in a situationship with an Aries man-Pisces Moon-Scorpio ASC, but he lives in another country so we only talked online and by phone and in the beginning for the first 2 weeks everything was perfect, like I never experienced before with anyone else. Then he started to pull away when the time to meet was getting closer, and right before flying over (he even bought the plane ticket because he has shown it to me) he said he met a girl there and his plans changed. We stopped talking for 3 weeks and then I reached out and said to him that I hope he is alright, and that I am OK with everything has happened. He responded and we started talking again for a few days, but not with the same energy, because he told me he didn’t know what else to say and he feels that he did me wrong and any other words wouldn’t justify. I asked him when can we talk more about what happened and what is happening in the present, and if he still has feelings for me and if he still wants to see me live, and he said Yes to both questions. He said that he will fly over to meet me and talk f2f about everything in the weekend. But then again in the day when we were supposed to meet, after he already told me he is in the country and he was supposed to travel to my city, so in that day he left me waiting and never replied back until the next day in the midnight. In the meantime I sent him a lot of messages and told him that i will block him forever if he doesn’t give me a sign. At almost midnight he reached out and said to forgive him for everything, and I told him I want to talk with him on the phone and don’t want to hear anything else in written because I was sick of this after what he did. And he said he has nothing to prove and to explain, I said ok then, you are right, and we stopped talking again for almost a week.
    What might be going on? Is he testing me because he has feelings as he told me, or is he playing me because he doesn’t have feelings and he is just a psycho?

  5. I’m so appreciative of this websites info seeing other women and knowing what I’m going through with the Aries man in my life is not out of the norm but definitely a decision I need to make for myself. I’m a Capricorn and we are known to be consistent/grounded people so I can’t really be in a relationship with a flighty man especially if I’m considering having a husband/father of my further kids. So I think I know what best to do in this relationship with the Aries man.

Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *