An Aries man is straightforward and direct, and he may be hiding his feelings to maintain control and avoid obvious vulnerability. An Aries man holding back is not something you rarely see; in fact, it is a very common trait.
Are you dating an Aries man who seems emotionally detached? Trust me, he isn’t! An Aries man hiding his feelings does not necessarily mean he is incapable of experiencing emotions. He may choose how and when to do so, and he needs to feel trust in order to open up to his special person.
Based on research about emotion suppression, masking emotions can deeply impact physical and emotional health. Here are some interesting points that may help you understand him a bit better and find out why Aries men hide their emotions.
It may explain why do Aries hide their feelings in front of you.
Why Do Aries Men Hide Their Feelings?
Aries men are not wimps, or so they believe. They are alpha males, and that means they have to appear hard and strong to everyone else around them, especially to their women.
They typically suppress whatever it is that they are feeling because they do not want to be perceived as feminine or weak. Even though most people know it’s ok to cry and let it out, they refuse to do so.
To the public, they really want to be seen as pillars of great fortitude and strength. To be seen as less is a blow to the ego, and this isn’t something they can cope with very easily.
One of the features of an Aries man is an ego issue. They tend to think very highly of themselves and can be somewhat narcissistic. This means they have the attitude toward others that they are not worth their time.
They will appear cold, they will blow strangers off, or they may even act like they don’t want to be where they are because the people around them are not their cup of tea. Sadly, unless it’s their actual friends, they aren’t all that keen on strangers.
There is also the possibility that some Aries men carry around past hurts and sleights that cause them to avoid showing emotion in front of others. It makes them shut down and only think about it in private.
He doesn’t want anyone to see him as weak or wounded. From a general standpoint, pity and empathy aren’t things he wants to have. He will rely on his partner to calm his flames, though.
Actually, he may really lean on his partner to keep him balanced. The problem is, he needs to learn to balance himself instead of relying on someone externally. This is likely a lifelong lesson for an Aries man.
Do Aries Men Ever Get Emotional?
To his partner, he could come off as very cold, controlling, and demanding. He could seem immature and unresponsive. The thing is, that’s only a mask. That’s not who he truly is, but Aries men do get emotional.
Keeping this in mind, please note that he hides the true emotions he has for his partner. In the interest of not getting hurt, he’ll sometimes not let his partner know how much he truly loves her.
Overall Aries men DO get emotional but unless you’ve earned his trust or been with him for years, it may be hard to detect. Anger is the one exception to the rule and is the one that you’ll always spot right away.
How To Know If An Aries Man Is Hiding His Feelings — 4 Signs To Look Out For
1. He Is A “Strong” Guy
This means that he isn’t the type of guy who is going to be so forthcoming with his feelings. He doesn’t quite know how to process them very well as it is. He will mull things over for long periods of time.
That being said, if he can’t be honest with himself about his feelings, this could make it hard for him to articulate his feelings about you or to you. Even when there is something on his mind, he feels it’s not manly to open up to you.
It’s not that he thinks less of you; it’s that he feels that showing you his feelings will make him weak or vulnerable. Being the alpha male type, he will not want to show any weaker emotions.
So he may not even talk to his friends about whatever it is that is on his mind. It could be about you, his family, or anything else under the sun that irritates him.
He has to maintain that macho “I’m strong” image so that he doesn’t feel inferior to anyone. He wants you to think he can handle just about anything that comes his way, even if he really cannot.
2. His Coping Mechanisms
Processing his own feelings will be a hard enough process but to let anyone know he’s dealing with it would open up extra questions he’s not yet ready to answer or face for that matter.
He’ll put his feelings on hold until he can spend some time alone to process. This is one of the reasons he likes to have time and space of his own even when he’s in a relationship.
It’s not that he wants to be away from you or that you get on his nerves; it’s so he can wrap his mind around anything he may be dealing with. It can even be things that have nothing to do with you.
He may be having issues at work that he isn’t sure how he wants to deal with, and instead of talking to you to get some ideas, he’ll keep it to himself. Far be it for him to bring problems to your doorstep.
His buddies may not hear anything about it either. He wouldn’t want to seem like a weakling to them. He’ll want them to think he has it all figured out and that his life is just fine.
He’ll go drinking with him and just shoot the breeze about anything except his own life. In this way, he’ll be rather private. He will not even mention he’s dating someone unless she’s someone really special to him.
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3. He May Not Feel Close Enough To You
Another aspect to look at would be how close he actually feels to you. If he doesn’t feel as though you’re someone he can confide in, he may not want to open up to you very easily.
This is something that may come with time, but Aries is good at concealing his feelings. When he’s angry, everyone knows it, though, so watch out! When it comes to softer feelings, he won’t be so clear.
Since he often will not open up even to his closest friends, it will take him being really close to you and feeling comfortable with you for him to want to talk to you about his problems, much less ask you for your advice.
While you may have some amazing advice, he’s not going to want to basically put it in your hands, as he’s the man and he wants to solve the problem himself. So if your Aries man isn’t opening up to you, you’re not alone.
It’s not very macho to open up to your woman and show her your weakness. Asking for her advice is that much worse. This is very much how many Aries men will think when it comes to talking about their problems or feelings.
If he doesn’t feel as though you’re the woman he wants to settle down with and form a life with for the future, he won’t open up to you about how he feels about anything.
He will need to feel VERY secure in who he is with before he will open up, if at all. He’s a hard nut to crack, for sure.
4. He May Feel Scared You Will Leave
If he does actually feel close to you, he may be afraid to open up to you, as you could see him as a lesser man and leave. Again, he sees opening up to someone as a form of weakness.
Baring his soul to you is not something he is able to easily do. Should he do it, though, it means he’s in love with you and probably feels you’re the woman he wants to be with for the long haul.
Naturally, he’ll be looking to you for sound advice as well as to lift him up. Admitting his feelings for you will take a lot of courage, but once he does, he’ll love you as hard as he knows how.
He’s very one-dimensional; there is no in-between for him. If he finally opens up and tells you how he feels about you or anything else for that matter, he’s beginning to really trust you.
How To Talk To An Aries Man About Feeling
Aries men are known for being independent, confident, and assertive, and they may not always feel comfortable expressing their emotions openly.
Here are a few tips for having a productive and respectful conversation about feelings with an Aries man:
- Build trust. Aries man values honesty, and it is important to be sincere in your interactions with him. Be open about your feelings and encourage him to do the same.
- Choose the right time to talk. Avoid having a conversation with him if he is tired or under pressure. Try to find the time when he is relaxed and well-rested.
- Be direct. Don’t sugarcoat; hit him with the truth. Believe me, he can handle it! If you want to let an Aries man know you love him, you need to do it in an open and honest way.
- Give him space. Respect his need to be alone. Aries man is independent and values freedom. Don’t pressure him to talk. Instead, give him time to process his emotions.
- Offer your support. It is important to let him know that you are there for him, no matter what. This will give him a sense of security that you are taking care of his emotional needs.
Dealing with an emotionally unavailable Aries man is challenging but not impossible. Patience and understanding play important roles in navigating such a relationship. It is very important to avoid pushing him to share before he is ready.
You can use some tips on how to get an Aries man to open up and apply them to your relationship with him.
When He Sends Mixed Signals
The thing is, he isn’t thinking about relationships or what it will do to you if he dives into bed with you. He only thinks about what he wants at that moment. His focus will be on what he wants and nothing less.
This gives him the “coming on strong” appeal that women fall for. It makes the woman feel special and shows that he wants more from her than he may actually want. Sadly, this may sometimes be an illusion.
His impulsive behavior often gets him into hot water. He doesn’t think things through and just goes with what he feels rather than what logic would help him truly discover.
If you sense your Aries man is sending you mixed signals, you need to be emphatic. You need to give him positive signals to assure him that you care and that you are devoted to him because he may feel you are not into him.
When He Turns Cold
Aries men crave excitement, so when they meet someone who sparks that thrill, they tend to gravitate toward her. He will think it’s “love at first sight” without getting to know her or whether or not she’s even good for him.
When he does this, at some point, he’s going through things, and when he does, he realizes he jumped into a situation or relationship too quickly. He will start pulling back and trying to mull things over a bit.
He gets excited and dives right into whatever he wants without any regard for the consequences that may follow. Once he really understands that he shouldn’t have done it, he backpedals.
He may figure out that the person he got into a quick relationship with wasn’t the one; maybe he realizes he likes someone else as well; or he could have realized he’s not really ready for any relationship at all.
In such cases, ask him how he sees this relationship going. You can ask him directly where you stand with him. That will shed light on this confusing situation. It is important to give him enough space and act supportively.
Check out here for more info about why your Aries man blows hot and cold and what you can do about it.
When An Aries Man Is Mad At You
This truly is one of the emotions that is extremely difficult for an Aries man to contain within himself. If he gets really angry, it comes out via him yelling, throwing things, cussing, or possibly just becoming eerily quiet.
There is no hiding the wrath of anger from an Aries. I suggested that he either go off by himself to calm down or that his lady love volunteer to take off for a while to give him time to calm down.
This is the one emotion he wears on his sleeve. He can hide the sadness when he tries, and he can hide hurt. Anger, however, is something that is part of the Aries man’s fire.
With him being a fire sign, his temper is serious business. He can be very quickly lit up. His fuse is rather short. Over time, you can learn what pushes his buttons so that you can also learn to avoid those.
I would recommend never using his buttons in order to get back at him for any reason. Trust me when I tell you that it will undoubtedly backfire on you, and you’ll wish you never even thought about it. Let him speak his mind and don’t interrupt him. Let him vent because he will quickly calm down.
When An Aries Man Is Hurt
If an Aries man feels hurt, he will withdraw and spend some time by himself. While he’s away, he’ll sulk and maybe even cry, depending on the circumstances.
It’s highly unlikely for him to cry in front of you, but it IS possible sometime down the line after he’s been with you for a very long time and knows he can trust you. Otherwise, he’ll hold it in.
Because Aries is an alpha male personality, he should not show his sadness when something has hit him in the gut.
If he is hurt, you can always tell him that you love him and that you are there for him. Help him get over his pain. Tell him you are not going anywhere!
Are you struggling to figure out what to do about your Aries man and how this will affect your relationship?
Well, luckily for you I have compiled a list of questions that might come up in your relationship. Hopefully, this can help you navigate the difficult times you might experience with your Aries man.
How Do You Tell If An Aries Man Is Confused In Love And Is Hiding His Feelings?
He will radiate insecurity, which is something rarely seen in Aries men. You are more likely to see him confident and charming, rather than confused.
Should I Express My Feelings To An Aries Man?
Yes, by all means! You need to tell him how you feel as soon as possible! While he will be accepting of you telling him you’re interested in him or that you like him, he doesn’t want you to be the one pursuing him.
What Does It Mean When An Aries Pretends Not To Care About You?
That means he’s either hiding his true feelings for you or playing hard to get. Aries men are known for their directness, so pretending not to care is something you will not often experience.
Does Aries Man Catch Feelings Fast?
An Aries man is impulsive and passionate, and as such, he can catch feelings quickly. He is adventurous and may be drawn to a woman who shares the same excitement.
Is Your Aries Man Avoiding Commitment?
Does your Aries man pull away or get quiet when you’ve just had a deep emotional connection? Does he seem to disappear just when you thought he was getting closer? Have you felt confused by his hot and cold behavior?
If so, then he might have an avoidant attachment style.
He could be Dismissive Avoidant and completely terrified of commitment… Or he could be Fearful Avoidant and REALLY want commitment…
But get scared when he feels himself getting closer to you.
If he has either one of these attachment styles, you’re going to end up feeling extremely confused at times. And both are caused by childhood trauma.
When you can see the scared little boy inside him that had to shut down his feelings if he’s dismissive avoidant…
Or have a parent not provide his needs consistently if he’s fearful avoidant…
It can make it easier to have empathy and compassion for his confusing and frustrating behavior. But that won’t fix it.
And while advice on attachment styles can be helpful… What you really need to stop this frustrating hot and cold cycle is to understand him better.
Thankfully, there is a simple system to TRULY understand how he ticks based on his astrology.
It will stop him from pulling back when you begin feeling closer.
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So no more crying yourself to sleep when he pulls back… No more feeling incredibly confused. And no more wondering what in the heck is going on with him…
Even if he has an avoidant attachment style.