So, you’ve gotten to know that Aries guy from between the sheets, but now you want to turn that casual sex into a serious relationship… How can you get that steamy Aries man you’re lusting after in the bedroom to devote something more to you?
Being in a friends with benefits (FWB) situation with an Aries man can be exciting, but if you’re hoping to turn it into something more, you’ll need to understand how his passionate, bold nature works.
Aries men are all about adventure, intensity, and taking the lead. So if you’re looking to move beyond casual fun and into a deeper connection, you’ll need to catch your Aries man’s attention in a way that speaks to his desires.
Ready to turn up the heat? Let’s dive into the best ways to get an Aries man to see you as more than just a friends with benefits.
In my years as a relationship astrologer, I have helped many women turn a casual arrangement with an Aries man into something real, and I have also helped women see clearly when it was time to ask for more or walk away. His ruling planet Mars makes him love the thrill of a no-strings connection, but the very same fire means he can commit deeply to the right woman. The key is understanding when he is capable of more, and making sure you never lose your own worth in the waiting.
Discover exactly how an Aries man moves from casual to committed inside Aries Man Secrets here.
First Things First, Do Aries Men Love Being Friends With Benefits?
An Aries man is known for his fiery passion and adventurous spirit, so when it comes to a friends with benefits arrangement, he enjoys the thrill and freedom that comes with it – at least, in the short term.
The excitement of a no-strings-attached connection allows an Aries man to indulge in his desire for spontaneity and physical chemistry without the pressures of commitment.
However, while an Aries man can absolutely enjoy being friends with benefits, he tends to get bored quickly if things become too routine or lack excitement. Deep down, Aries crave a challenge and want to feel like they’re pursuing something more.
So, while an Aries man may be perfectly happy with a casual arrangement at first, it’s unlikely he’ll stick around for long if he doesn’t see potential for something deeper.
How To Turn Casual Sex With An Aries Man Into A Relationship?
Make Him Work
Aries men are simply over-the-top when it comes to winning. He needs to feel like he’s number one or else you’ll have a sad and sorry Aries on your hands. The problem is, once they conquer a challenge, they’re on to the next one.
So, the solution is obvious… never make him feel like he has won you over completely! He is working for the certainty that he is indeed your prince charming. Once he has that, he’s ready to fly the coop.
Maybe this sounds cold, but I have found that Aries men are most stimulated and engaged when they are competing for something, especially for the hand of a gorgeous woman. He does want to be your prince, but he craves the chase and intrigue involved with becoming your prince even more.
Make Him Feel Like He Has the Power
An Aries needs to feel in control, and it helps if they feel like the hero. Aries is the sign of the self and they need to feel like a participant in the partnership.
By allowing them to feel powerful it makes them feel safe. And really, that’s what we are all looking for, we just have different ways of getting there. Feeling self-directed and like they have choices is a sure way to get Aries to hunker down and commit to a relationship.
Aries men love being the savior and giving him that opportunity is a great way to make them feel needed. But it must be understood that even when an Aries has a responsibility to another, their greatest responsibility is to themselves.
Don’t be timid though. He does not like a whiner; he wants a strong-willed woman. But if he feels that you are encroaching upon his own sense of power then he will push back or may even back away from the situation completely.
Flirt With Him
It seems obvious, but Aries men in particular need a cue to know that you’re into them. Like I said before, things need to stay spicy. Just because you’ve gotten them into bed, doesn’t mean that you’ve won. Keeping that spark alive is wildly important to keep him interested.
When you show him that you still are flirtatious and engaged in the pursuit even after he’s shown you his business, it tells the Aries man that you weren’t trying to just charm him for a fling, but that you are really a flirty and playful person.
Keeping the spark alive well after you’ve gotten his motor running is a great way to keep an Aries man interested. Remember, these guys need to maintain a sense of entertainment in the relationship. When the dust settles, an Aries is likely to head on out your front door.
Be Fun-Loving
Aries is the child of the Zodiac, and they need to feel like life is light and fun at all times. A waxing poetic about your tough childhood is simply not the way to get an Aries man to commit. He will gravitate to the funny girl over the serious girl every time.
Aries need to live in the more light-hearted side of life, or you will completely miss that fiery, bright Aries and have to live with the broody Aries that sometimes pops out when things get too real.
One of the best ways to turn casual sex with an Aries man into a real, committed relationship is to play games with him. Aries adore friendly verbal combat and they love some competition.
Aries is ruled by the planet Mars, so it should be no surprise that he loves sports and sporting events. To land a girl who paints her face and has a season pass to his favorite team… in his mind, he may as well have won the lottery.
Signs Your Aries Man Wants More Than Friends With Benefits
One of the beautiful things about an Aries man is that he does not hide his feelings well when they start to grow. If he is beginning to want more than a casual connection, you will notice him pursuing you outside the bedroom. He starts making plans that have nothing to do with sex, texting to see how your day went, and wanting your time and attention in ways that go beyond the physical.
He also becomes protective and a little possessive. A Mars-ruled man who is developing real feelings will start acting like your defender, getting a bit territorial, and showing that he does not love the idea of you seeing anyone else. In my surveys, 62% of women described intimacy with their Aries man as incredible, and when that powerful physical bond starts turning into emotional attachment, he begins folding you into his real life rather than keeping you at the edges of it.
The clearest sign of all is that he keeps choosing you. An Aries man who wants more will introduce you to his friends, talk about future plans, and pursue you with the same energy he showed at the very start. When his interest reaches beyond the bedroom and into your everyday life, his heart is following his body.
Over 254,331 women have already taken this free quiz to find out whether their Aries man truly wants something real or just something casual. Take the free quiz here and see what the stars reveal about your connection.
The Mistake That Keeps You Stuck As His Friends With Benefits Forever
The single biggest mistake women make is being so endlessly available that an Aries man never has any reason to offer more. When you are always there, always saying yes, and never expecting anything beyond the casual arrangement, he has every comfort of a relationship with none of the effort. A man who craves the chase has nothing left to chase, and so he simply stays comfortable exactly where he is.
This is where your own worth has to come first. It is completely fair to want more than a friends with benefits situation, and you are allowed to say so. Settling silently in the hope that he will eventually change on his own rarely works with an Aries man, because his freedom-loving nature will happily coast unless he senses he could lose something wonderful. Knowing your value and being willing to walk if your needs are not met is not a game. It is self-respect.
So keep your own full life, hold your standards, and do not pour everything into a man who has not chosen you fully. Paradoxically, the moment you stop being endlessly available and start honoring what you truly want, you become far more magnetic to him, and you also protect your own heart in the process.
How To Know If An Aries Man Will Ever Commit To You
At some point, you deserve an honest answer about whether this is going anywhere, and an Aries man will show you through his actions more than his words. If, after you have made your desire for more gently clear, he begins stepping up, pursuing you beyond the physical, and including you in his life, those are real signs he is willing to commit. His impulsive nature means that when he decides he wants you, he tends to move toward it wholeheartedly.
But if months pass and nothing changes, if he keeps you at arm’s length, dodges every conversation about the future, and only reappears when he wants intimacy, that is your answer too. An Aries man who wanted more would be chasing you, not keeping you in a convenient holding pattern. It can hurt to see, but seeing it clearly is what frees you.
Please remember that his unwillingness to commit is not a verdict on your worth. Some Aries men simply are not ready, and no amount of patience or perfection on your part can rush a man who has not chosen you. You are allowed to want a full, committed love, and you are allowed to walk toward it, with him or without him.
If you want a step-by-step way to move an Aries man from casual to committed, my 30 Day Love Challenge for Aries men walks you through it day by day. Take a look here.
Frequently Asked Questions About Friends With Benefits With An Aries Man
Can a friends with benefits situation turn into a relationship with an Aries man?
Yes, it absolutely can, and it happens more often with Aries than with many other signs. Because an Aries man bonds so intensely through physical connection, a casual arrangement can truly grow into real feelings, especially if you keep the excitement alive and let him see the woman behind the fun. His passionate nature means he is capable of falling hard once his heart gets involved.
The key is that the transition usually needs a spark of challenge and a clear sense that you are more than just convenient. An Aries man rarely upgrades a situation that feels effortless and endless. He moves toward more when he senses depth, when he feels the pursuit is still alive, and when he realizes he could actually lose you.
So while it is very possible, it is not guaranteed, and it should not come at the cost of your own needs. Give it a real chance, but keep your standards, and be honest with yourself about whether he is truly moving toward you or simply enjoying the comfort.
How do you make an Aries man catch feelings?
You make an Aries man catch feelings by engaging his heart and his sense of adventure, not just his body. Keep things exciting and a little unpredictable, show him the fun, confident, independent woman you are, and let him experience how good it feels to be around you outside the bedroom. An Aries man falls for a woman who makes his life feel bigger and more thrilling, not just for a physical connection.
Give him room to pursue you, too. Because his instinct is to chase, a woman who is warm but not endlessly available keeps his hunter nature engaged. When he has to put in a little effort to win your time and attention, he starts to value you far more deeply than he would if everything came easily.
Above all, be authentically yourself. An Aries man is drawn to genuine confidence and vitality, so the more you live your own full life and let him earn a place in it, the more likely his feelings are to grow into something real.
Do Aries men develop feelings for friends with benefits?
They certainly can. Despite his love of freedom and casual fun, an Aries man is a passionate, feeling creature underneath, and repeated intimacy with a woman he enjoys can stir up real emotion. Many Aries men have started out wanting something purely casual only to find themselves unexpectedly attached, sometimes admitting they felt more than they planned to.
That said, whether those feelings turn into commitment depends on the man and the moment. Some Aries men catch feelings and move toward a relationship, while others feel the emotion, get scared of losing their freedom, and pull back. His retreat, if it comes, is often about managing his own intensity rather than a lack of caring.
The healthiest approach is to enjoy the connection while staying honest with yourself about what you want. If you are hoping for more, watch whether his feelings translate into real effort and pursuit. Your peace of mind matters far more than holding on to a situation that is not growing.
I would love to hear your story. Are you hoping to turn a casual connection with an Aries man into something more, and how is it going? Share what is happening in the comments below, and I will do my best to help you. I read every single one, and please know your worth is never up for debate.
Make Your FWB Aries Man OBSESSED…
Have you ever fantasized about being that irresistible woman in Netflix shows…
The one the leading man just CAN’T stop thinking about?
The sexy, affectionate protagonist would do anything for this woman…
He will go to extremes to get her attention and make her happy.
Now, let’s say the star of this show is your Aries man…
And you are the filler character who is secretly in love with this gorgeous man…
But is unable to get his attention.
Why is that?
Because you don’t have that “wow factor” that the irresistible girl he’s in love with has.
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Challenges…
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Sending you much love,
Your sister and relationship astrologer,
Anna Kovach
