When it comes to Aries men, commitment isn’t always the easiest choice for them. They love their freedom and independence. It takes a very special woman to make an Aries man want to commit.
This sign is passionate, bold, reckless, and will risk anything for love. However, they’re all about the chase and conquering their lovers, than actually wanting to commit to them in the long run.
Aries is ruled by Mars, the planet of passion, war, aggression, and sex. It is a very intense planet that makes love feel like a war to all Aries men. They need to win the challenge and get the prize.
This makes Aries men extremely passionate and enthusiastic when it comes to love. They throw everything they have into the person they are interested in. This is a man who is all in or nothing.
However, it takes a lot for an Aries man to commit to a woman. Sure, he’s loyal once he’s made his commitment, but he also needs his freedom and independence and he feels like relationships take this away from him.
Are you struggling to get your Aries man to commit? Then you have come to the right place! Keep reading to find out how to get an Aries man to commit. You’ll be amazed at how practical these tips and tricks can be!
In my years as a relationship astrologer, getting an Aries man to commit is one of the questions I hear most, and I understand exactly why. He gives you all the passion of a man who is falling hard, and then the moment things feel settled, his Mars-ruled need for freedom kicks in and he pulls back. It is confusing and it can be heartbreaking. The good news is that his hesitation follows a predictable pattern, and once you understand it, you can work with his nature instead of against it.
Discover exactly what makes an Aries man commit for life inside Aries Man Secrets here.
First Things First, What Makes an Aries Man Commit?
There are certain qualities in a woman that make an Aries man want to commit. These are the things that will make an Aries want to have you by his side:
1. Be Strong & Independent
Although the Aries man often loves a lady in distress (to attract him); he will not want a woman who needs his help constantly. That being said, it’s often better for him to show you how and learn.
In other words, let’s take changing a fuse in your house for example. You blow one and have no idea what to do or how to change it. You ask him for his help. He comes over because he doesn’t want you to sit in the dark.
He goes to the fuse box to change it; follow him! Watch what he does and tell him “I’ve never done this but I’m watching so I can learn just in case it happens to me again and you’re not around”. He’ll be impressed.
This way next time it happens; if ever; you’ll know what to do and won’t have to call on him to come out yet again. This will show him that though you needed his help; you were willing to learn so you can do it.
So be the woman who needs help sometimes but learns from what he does so that you can also do things for yourself. Independence is a nice quality to have whether you’re with someone or not.
2. A Woman Who Is Kind & Compassionate
Aries men have fiery tempers and need a partner that will cool them off or balance them better. Staying calm during the storm is necessary to have a healthy relationship with this hot-headed man.
When you’re with him; be really sweet and tender. He’ll really love it and reciprocate. He craves this type of attention. When he feels comfortable with how nurturing you are; your Aries man will be more likely to commit.
But whatever you do; don’t push him to commit. He won’t take well to commands or demands of any sort. It is better that you gently nudge him with being a total sweetheart.
3. A Woman Who Can Be Patient
The true core of getting it to last long term with an Aries man is going to be making sure you don’t dive in too quickly. Aries men tend to jump in head first and rather fast.
Do not allow him to do that. I know you want him to commit but if he commits too fast; he’ll possibly back peddle or cause problems for you two later on. It’s much healthier to take your time.
While you’re daydreaming about what it will be like to be in a long-term relationship with him; stay cool and relaxed. Remember he needs the yin to his yang.
Take a deep breath and take your time. Try to take your mind off of him by doing things you really enjoy or spending time with friends. Remember, if an Aries man misses you; he’ll want to spend more time with you.
If you don’t allow him to have space or time; he’ll dive in and you’ll both end up bored in a fairly quick amount of time or butting heads. You don’t want either of those two scenarios to happen.
Read also: What An Aries Man Likes And Dislikes In A Woman?
How To Get An Aries Man To Commit (4 Effective Ways)
Any woman can make an Aries man commit, she just needs to play her cards right and make him think that it was his idea in the first place. Here are my best tips to help you win over his heart and make him commit to a long-term relationship:
1. Make Yourself A Priority
If there is one thing an Aries man respects more than anything, then it is a woman who will always put herself first. I know this sounds counterintuitive, but the thing is, an Aries man always puts himself first no matter what.
This man always practices radical self-love, always. And when he notices a woman do the same, he can’t help but respect her deeply for it. When a woman goes for gold and follows her dreams, it inspires an Aries man and makes him want to commit.
You don’t want to chase an Aries man, ever. This will only put him off, the best way to get his attention is to live and a full and happy life, and he won’t be able to help himself but want to commit to you.
2. Always Be Yourself
The number one thing that will turn an Aries man off, is a phony. He can quickly pick up when someone just isn’t being themselves and is wearing a facade. This makes an Aries man totally uncomfortable.
He can never understand why anyone would pretend to be someone they are not. When an Aries man notices someone who is completely herself and makes no apologies for this, it really intrigues him and makes him want more.
An Aries man is always going to be attracted to a woman who doesn’t care what the world thinks of her. The more a woman can be herself, the more likely an Aries man is to want to be with her.
3. Be Fun
One of the most important things to remember about an Aries man is that he is extremely young at heart. This isn’t a man who is super serious all the time. In fact, he just wants to have fun and enjoy his life.
The last thing he wants is to be with someone who is negative and drags him down all of the time. He wants to be with a woman who can let down her hair and enjoy her life, hopefully with him by her side.
If you want to make an Aries man commit to you, then show him how playful and fun you can be. The positivity will make an Aries man excited and enthralled to be in your life.
4. Be Kind And Compassionate
If you’ve ever been around an Aries man you would know how friendly this guy is. He is a super positive person and tends to see the best in every situation and he wants the same quality in his partner.
This is a man who values kindness. He doesn’t want to be with a woman who is rude and unsympathetic. This is someone who would bring down the quality of his life and make him feel miserable.
He wants to be with a woman who is kind and compassionate. A woman who treats everyone with respect and integrity. These are very important values for the Aries man, and any woman who can show up like this is pretty special to him.
5 Reasons Why An Aries Man Stays Committed
Aries men seem to be one of the signs that find it easiest to lose focus when it comes to relationships. It is not that they are disinterested in their partner, they just sometimes get distracted by other things going on in their life.
If we look superficially – we’d even say that Aries men have the biggest fear of commitment out of all zodiac signs. But then, there are also Aries who seem to be the exception in the case. The ones who commit, and stay committed over time.
But what exactly makes an Aries man stay committed in a relationship? And is there a secret to keep an Aries man hooked? Keep reading to find out!
1. They’re Stimulated
Aries is the first sign of the Zodiac and they’re represented by the infancy stage of life. If you’ve ever spent time around a baby, then you know that they need near-constant entertainment.
Aries don’t need you to jingle keys in front of them to stick around, but they definitely need something new and exciting around every corner to stay engaged in a relationship.
He is easily bored, which is partly why they have a reputation for being a serial dater. When they’ve learned all of one woman’s tricks then they are off to see what else they can discover.
2. They’re Allowed To Express Passion
Aries is ruled by Mars, a hot and fiery planet. Just like the planet, Aries can find themselves turning red occasionally. They are passionate about what they believe in and they will stand up for it.
An Aries man might piss a lot of people off, but man, he will not hide his true opinion. He will stay committed to a partnership that allows him to go into full rant mode once in a while. Aries needs someone who will listen to their spicy takes without consequences.
If you can provide the Aries with a safe space to unleash his true inner fire, then you’ve got a much higher chance of keeping him around for the long run. Like they say, if you can’t stand the heat then get out of the kitchen!
3. You’re Not Easily Offended
One thing about Aries is that they are like toddlers in many ways. Curious, excitable, and unpredictable! They are also brutally honest. I think we’ve all facepalmed over a toddler or child’s incredibly blunt statements before.
Aries is also going to say it like it is. If they don’t like your idea then you will know. It’s not that they want to hurt your feelings, rather, they have a deep inclination to be honest.
If you can handle the truth then Aries might be your perfect match. They will feel totally relieved that they don’t have to wait for arrows to fly after they speak their mind. They will feel great for being able to share their real opinions with you, something they can’t come by everywhere else.
4. They Can Be Their Authentic Selves
Aries are so straightforward that they cannot be anyone but themselves. They don’t really understand the concept of toning themselves down for others. The way they see it, others should also be themselves. Aries can handle the less savory parts of others, so why can’t they handle him?
Aries wants to be able to be mad, sad, happy, and everything else without worrying about how their partner will perceive them. This is difficult to come by since many people take what Aries says and does personally.
Instead of letting your feathers be ruffled, consider thinking of them as a child. Would you tell a child to be anything but who they are? I hope not! Aries has a naive side to them that hopes that they’ll receive that level of understanding. If you can offer that to them then you might have the Aries for life. Someone so understanding is hard to come by.
5. The Relationship Is Just Challenging Enough
Aries do like things to be quick, but they also enjoy a challenge. They really appreciate winning and coming out on top… there is no greater thrill to them! No one will give it their all to win as an Aries will.
If you want to keep an Aries man engaged, then you have to make them feel like they haven’t “won” yet. The Aries who feel like they’ve conquered the challenge of your relationship will simply move on and look for someone new.
Instead, it helps to create relationship goalposts to work toward together. Then create another once you finish one. This will give the Aries the feeling that they aren’t actually finished with the relationship yet. They will feel the need to keep fighting until they have nothing left to fight for.
You may also want to read: Mixed Signals From An Aries Man: Why Is He Confusing Me?
The Real Reason An Aries Man Pulls Back Right Before He Commits
Here is something almost no one tells you about the Aries man. His deepest retreats often happen not when he is losing interest, but when he is falling harder than he expected. Multiple women in my surveys described the same striking moment: their Aries man admitted he had not planned to feel this much, this fast, and then he backed away. His boldness at the start is also a vulnerability, and when the stakes suddenly feel real, his instinct is to protect himself by creating distance.
This is why the fading you feel right before commitment is so easy to misread. In my research, 28% of women said there was a strong connection with their Aries man that had begun to fade. Not gone. Fading. With most signs, fading points toward the end. With an Aries man, it very often points toward a man who is scared of how much he wants you and is buying himself a little time to feel safe again.
The worst thing you can do in that window is chase him or demand reassurance, because that confirms his fear that commitment means losing his freedom. The best thing you can do is stay warm, stay rooted in your own life, and let him come back on his own steam. When he sees that getting close to you does not cost him his autonomy, the pulling back stops and the commitment conversation gets much easier.
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How Long It Takes An Aries Man To Commit (And What Speeds It Up)
There is no single timeline with an Aries man, because his pace is defined by extremes rather than a steady middle. In my surveys, 29% of women said things were moving quickly with their Aries man, nearly the highest quick-progress rate of any sign, while 38% said things were moving slowly and 33% said there was no real progress at all. That polarization is pure Aries. He either surges forward at full speed or stalls completely, with very little in between.
What speeds him up is not pressure, it is excitement combined with security. When he feels that the relationship keeps giving him something to chase, something fresh to look forward to, and a partner who admires him without smothering him, he moves toward commitment faster. When he feels boxed in, questioned, or like the challenge is over, he stalls, no matter how much time has passed.
So rather than counting the weeks, watch the momentum. An Aries man who is planning future adventures with you, folding you into his goals, and choosing your company over his freedom is a man on his way to commitment, whether that takes two months or a year. The timeline matters far less than whether he still feels that being with you is the most exciting choice he could make.
The One Mistake That Makes An Aries Man Run From Commitment
If there is a single mistake that pushes an Aries man away from commitment, it is treating his need for space as evidence that he does not care. When he takes a couple of days to himself and you respond with anxiety, accusations, or a flood of texts, you accidentally confirm the very thing he fears most, that being your man means losing his freedom. His independence is not rejection. It is how a Mars-ruled man recharges.
This is the most common theme in all my Aries research. The need for freedom and autonomy came up in well over a hundred of the women I heard from, again and again describing a man who was wonderful when present but who needed room to breathe. The women who panicked during his space pushed him further away. The women who stayed calm and full in their own lives are the ones he came back to and eventually committed to.
The fix is a shift in how you hold his freedom. Give him room without making him pay for it emotionally when he returns. Welcome him back warmly rather than with a list of grievances. When an Aries man learns that he can have both you and his freedom, commitment stops feeling like a trap and starts feeling like the best of both worlds.
FAQs About Aries Men And Commitment
How To Know If Aries Man Is Ready To Commit?
Aries men aren’t the type to commit to someone without knowing this person is the perfect person for them. They love their freedom and independence and would choose the life of a bachelor if they really could.
But then there is the odd occasion where an Aries man feels like he has met the right woman and is ready to commit to her. Here are some signs that your Aries man is ready to commit:
- He Tells You He Wants To Be With You
- He Spends His Free Time With You
- He Goes Out Of His Way For You
- He Prioritizes You In His Life
- He Introduces You To His Friends And Family
As you can see, many of the signs an Aries man gives when he is ready to commit are pretty much the same as any other man would give. He’ll prioritize you and make sure you know how he feels about you.
Read also: Will An Aries Man Leave His Wife? (Hopeful Signs)
How do you know an Aries man will never commit?
The clearest sign that an Aries man will not commit is not distance or slowness, it is a consistent lack of forward motion combined with a refusal to include you in his real life over a long stretch of time. If months pass and he still keeps you separate from his friends and family, avoids any talk of a future, and only reappears when it suits him, he is showing you he prefers the freedom of keeping things casual.
Pay attention to whether his actions ever match his words. An Aries man who says sweet things but never backs them up with consistent effort is enjoying the chase without wanting the commitment. In my research, women often described this exact gap, a man who was intense and affectionate in person but who dodged every step toward something official.
That said, be careful not to confuse his natural need for space with unwillingness. The difference is direction. A man who is slowly moving closer, even with pauses, is still moving. A man who has been static for a long time, giving nothing more than he did at the start, is telling you where his limits are, and you deserve to take that seriously.
What age do Aries men usually commit?
There is no fixed age, because commitment for an Aries man is driven far more by readiness than by the number of candles on his cake. That said, many Aries men do settle down once they have had enough freedom to feel they are not missing out on adventure by choosing one woman. For some that comes in their late twenties, for others much later, and plenty of Aries men commit deeply in their fifties, sixties, and beyond.
In fact, a striking number of the women I have worked with met their Aries man later in life, sometimes reconnecting with him after decades apart, and found him more ready and more devoted than he ever could have been when he was younger. Maturity tends to soften his fear that commitment equals confinement.
So rather than watching his age, watch his hunger for the chase. An Aries man commits when he finally feels that the most exciting adventure available to him is building a life with you. That realization can arrive at almost any age.
How do you make an Aries man commit without pushing him?
You make an Aries man commit by making commitment feel like his idea and his victory, never like an ultimatum. Pressure is the fastest way to trigger his freedom instinct, so instead of asking where things are going, focus on being the woman his life feels richer with. Live fully, keep your own passions, and let him experience how good it feels to be chosen by a woman who does not need him but truly wants him.
Keep the relationship exciting and give him space to miss you. An Aries man values what he has to pursue, so a woman who is warm and available but not clinging keeps his chase instinct alive well past the early stage. When he feels that being with you is the best and most thrilling choice he could make, commitment starts to feel like winning rather than surrendering.
And when he takes steps toward you, reward them with warmth and appreciation rather than a demand for more. Every time he feels admired for moving closer, he associates commitment with feeling like your hero, which is exactly the feeling that keeps a Mars-ruled man devoted for the long haul.
If you want a step-by-step way to deepen his commitment over the next month, my 30 Day Love Challenge for Aries men walks you through it day by day. Take a look here.
My Final Thoughts About Aries Men And Commitment
An Aries man in love is something you definitely need to experience once in your life. He is so affectionate and will make you feel like the most special girl on earth.
He has a way of zoning in on you and making you feel like only the two of you exist. An Aries man has quite a full-on way of expressing his love. He will give you so much of his time and his energy. This just happens to be his love language.
An Aries man is one of those people who needs words of affirmation to feel loved and appreciated by their lover. They want to hear that they are these amazing men. This is how an Aries man commits to a woman. He needs to know that he is her prize.
An Aries man needs to know that their partner could never live without them and that they are the greatest person on earth. With any Aries, they feel like they can be their most authentic self when someone just accepts them for who they are at their core.
I would love to hear your story. Where are you and your Aries man right now on the road to commitment, and what has been the hardest part? Share what is happening in the comments below, and I will do my best to help you figure out your next step. I read every single one.
Does Your Aries Man Become Distant After Intimacy?
Does your Aries man pull away or get quiet when you’ve just had a deep emotional connection? Does he seem to disappear just when you thought he was getting closer? Have you felt confused by his hot and cold behavior?
If so, then he might have an avoidant attachment style.
He could be Dismissive Avoidant and completely terrified of commitment… Or he could be Fearful Avoidant and REALLY want commitment…
If he has either one of these attachment styles, you’re going to end up feeling extremely confused at times. And both are caused by childhood trauma.
When you can see the scared little boy inside him that had to shut down his feelings if he’s dismissive avoidant…
Or have a parent not provide his needs consistently if he’s fearful avoidant…
It can make it easier to have empathy and compassion for his confusing and frustrating behavior.
But that won’t fix it.
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Sending you love,
Your sister and relationship astrologer,
Anna Kovach
