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How to Attract (And Seduce) An Aries Man in 7 Steps

Aries men are some of the sexiest guys of the Zodiac. It is no wonder they are so irresistible to most women. These men have a way of ticking all of the boxes and making women go crazy for them. But what attracts an Aries man physically? Are looks important to an Aries man? These are just some of the questions I often get from my clients.

Are you wondering how to attract a hot Aries man? How to make an Aries man weak in the knees? And if you manage to get an Aries man’s attention, how can you seduce him? Well, girls, I definitely have all the answers you have been looking for.

There are a few steps you need to take to get an Aries man’s full attention. These steps will help you to grab his attention, make him feel attracted to you, and have fun while seducing him! Remember ladies, love should be fun! Continue reading to find out exactly how to tick all of his boxes.

First, Some Aries Man Fundamentals…

It is important for you to know that an Aries man is a Fire sign, and not only that he is the first sign in the entire Zodiac. This paints a lovely picture of what to expect from these guys…

An Aries man needs to be first. He wants to know that he is the best of the best. He is passionate, intense, and full of life. His sign is also ruled by the planet Mars, and this is why he is such a force to be reckoned with.

He is a warrior and always up for the challenge. He tends to be very athletic and this is how he drives all the women crazy with his good looks. This guy is pretty amazing and has a lot he can offer a woman.

He thinks he is a big mystery, but it is pretty easy to win an Aries man at his own game, all you need to know is how to play the rules!

What Are Aries Men Attracted To?

Aries men are most certainly a guy’s guy of the Zodiac. These guys are up for a laugh and love to have fun. And when it comes to their romances, they’re up for anything.

An Aries man really loves a woman who is independent! This is the thing that he is looking for most in a woman. It makes him happy to know that the woman by his side has her own life and doesn’t need him for entertainment.

He is also really into a woman who can be quite physical, someone who looks after her body through regular exercise. Being quite sporty really does it for him. He is also into a woman who can be quite daring and spontaneous. She should be able to go on adventures on a whim.

Here is my secret plan to help you seduce him.

7-STEP Plan to Attract and Seduce an Aries Man

Step 1 – Impress Him

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Aries men are known as the leaders of the Zodiac and this is why these guys tend to go for really strong women. They need to know that there is someone extraordinary by their side.

It is so important that you impress him and stand out from the crowd. He is going to need to remember you. Incentivize his ego, and make him want to impress you in return.

Don’t be a showoff or boastful, but you can casually mention some of your achievements that you know will get his head spinning. But try to do this in the most nonchalant manner possible.

Step 2 – Put Your Best Foot Forward

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Looks are very important for an Aries man. These guys get off on knowing that they have a very sexy woman in their arms. It is really vital that you make yourself look amazing when you are around your Aries man, don’t slack off!

Put in some effort, do your hair, and wear something that makes you feel confident. Remember, the Aries man is always going to want the best. He needs to know that he is number one, and having the hottest woman by his side is going to drive him absolutely crazy.

Step 3 – Ignore Him, Even Just A Little

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The best way to ignore an Aries man is not to be so available all the time. He might ask you out on a date but say you have plans with your friends and that you’re unable to see him.

When he texts you, don’t respond immediately. Make him wait for a little – this will create attraction and mystery for him. He’ll wonder what and who you are so busy with.

If you see him sending you texts, it might be good that you don’t open the messages super soon. You don’t want him to think that you have been waiting to hear from him all day.

When the two of you are chatting, especially if you’re talking about something deeply personal or perhaps romantic that he has shared with you, pretend like you didn’t see the message.

Just ignore it and respond to something else he has said. This will confuse him and make him wonder if he’s made a mistake by revealing something to you. Build that tension and then after a few minutes respond to it directly. This will make him stress out a bit, which is never a bad thing when it comes to attraction.

Step 4 – Attract Him Through Texts

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How to attract an Aries man through texts is a field on its own. These guys can be complicated in some ways, but for the most part, they are pretty straightforward. The biggest thing you need to remember is that he just wants to have some fun.

One of the best ways to convey this is to add some unique emojis to the texts. This will make him think that you’re an interesting person with a unique perspective.

Using unique emojis can definitely help you to stand out from the crowd. It’ll also show your Aries man that you are fun and up for a laugh. It is important that his prospective partner doesn’t take herself too seriously.

Make your texts irresistible, only text him when you have something interesting to say because the last thing you want to do is come off as monotonous and boring. That is a definite way to get an Aries man turned off.

Discover here The Four-word Flirty Text Message That Makes an Aries Man Addicted To You! 

Step 5 – Be Affectionate And Touchy Feely (This Includes Intimacy)

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Mars, the planetary ruler of Aries, is the planet that presides over passions of all kinds. This is why it makes an Aries man so happy to be with a woman who can’t keep her hands off of him!

Another thing to note is that the Aries man is associated with the first house of the Zodiac. This is the house of the self and the physical body. As a result, you can imagine that an Aries likes to be touched all over!

Since Aries rules over the head, try playing with his hair or maybe biting his ears…

He loves physical touch and the feeling of seducing and being seduced… as long as he has a certain amount of power in the matter!

An Aries man is going to have an endless sexual appetite. If it were up to him, he would be having sex five times daily or more! Mars rules over sex, after all.

A woman who partners up with an Aries should have a high sex drive as well. This is going to keep the Aries man plenty preoccupied with you… and the times that you are gone he won’t be able to stop thinking about all the ways he’d like to pleasure you when you return!

Aries men are very connected to their bodies and their physicality. Sex is of the utmost importance for these men. They need a lot of sex to be happy, but it should never be the only thing the two of you do.

Dancing with an Aries man, or doing sports together will make him connect with you through his main love language – physical touch.

It is very important not to hit it in the bedroom the first couple of times you see each other. (I don’t judge you if you do!! It’s just that making him wait for the real fun – can make an Aries man super hot! You’ll thank me later!)

Depending on which stage of dating or your relationship you are in – you can do different things. Be creative!

Explore more about what drives an Aries man crazy in bed here.

Step 6 – Be Daring And Adventurous

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An Aries is all about heroics. He isn’t afraid of much, since Mars is the planet of war and risk-taking behavior. Mars is the type of planet to rush in and attack head on!

An Aries man is going to appreciate similar qualities in his lover. He’ll thoroughly enjoy being able to take a woman with him to his riskier activities. So, buckle up buttercup, this guy may give you a run for your money!

This may sound strange but Aries is a man of action. If you have a bucket list of things you’d like to do or places you’d like to hit up; he may actually find interest in some of the things or places you are.

That being said, it’s at least a great topic for conversation. It may get him to open up and talk to you about his own bucket list if he has one. If he doesn’t he may consider making one because… why not?

Discussing exciting and adventurous scenarios will get his attention assuredly. He absolutely loves adventure. Talk about all the places you’d like to see and experience their culture.

Perhaps you can even talk about things like cuisine in the different cultures of the places you want to go. Seriously; anything you can think of that sounds really fun and would be amazing to take your Aries guy with you will be appreciated.

This is one of the more exciting topics for this guy and though you may not think of normally discussing your bucket list; he’ll adore it and realize that you could be an amazing match for him.

Step 7 – Make Him Laugh

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An Aries man wants a woman who is very intelligent and well versed in many different subjects in life. Being active; you will have many stories to share with each other.

He’ll also be turned on by a great sense of humor. Either you tell him some really good jokes or you’ll laugh at his jokes. If you have really witty comebacks to the things he says; he’ll be really turned on.

Quick wit is something that some women are born with. Some women learn it. It’s one of those things can develop over time when you get to know someone really well also.

If you’re able to have snappy responses to the things he says; he’ll absolutely adore you. There’s nothing worse than making a joke and your partner responds with an eye roll.

Aries Man’s Turn Ons – What turns an Aries Man On?

1. Confident Attitude

Aries men tend to like women who are confident in themselves. I don’t mean cocky or over the top but rather a woman that knows what she wants. He loves to see a woman that carries herself well.

When a woman is confident; she is beautiful and alluring to him. The meek women tend to be somewhat ignored by the Aries man. Seeing a woman who knows who she is and where she’s going will turn his head for sure.

No matter what the confident woman is wearing; she’ll wear it well. She knows she looks good and she knows the Aries man is looking at her. She’ll be able to draw him in with very little effort.

He himself is confident and so he’s looking for a match that will complement him in his life. He’s very outgoing and social so the confident woman will surely be into the same type of life.

Being able to try things at least once will be a big turn-on for him as well. If you’ve tried something and then decide you don’t like it; he’ll see that at least you gave it a whirl. He’ll appreciate that more than you know.

2. Being Honest

The Aries man wants a woman who will not be afraid to tell him as it is. Now I’m not saying he wants a woman who is going to gripe at him constantly or nag him. He just wants the woman he’s with to tell him the truth.

Even if it’s something that will piss him off; it’s better you tell him before he finds out later. He’ll get over his original upset. If you lie to him though; then he’ll hold that against you longer.

He wants a woman who is going to call him on his crap and tell him honestly how she feels about him. He doesn’t like mind games so he will appreciate truth even when it’s not a pleasant truth.

Talking honestly and openly is the only successful way to maintain a relationship with an Aries man. Being candid with him will get you further than hiding or keeping secrets from him.

He will be able to tell if you are being dishonest so be very careful what you say to the Aries man. No matter how mad he may be, tell him what needs to be said.

3. Physically Active

Since the Aries man himself is often very active; he’ll seek a partner who is equal to him. He wants to get out and do stuff so he’ll want someone who can keep up with him.

He may be involved in sports, rock climbing, jogging, or various other things. If you enjoy these things or similar activities then you’ll get along with him just fine. It’s more fun for the two of you to take on some of these things together.

Aries man CAN do it alone but would prefer his mate to be with him. It’ll give him a sense of security in knowing that you two are building something wonderful together.

Whether you’re working out or doing something for fun; being active will be something he looks forward to and will drive his passion in life with you. He typically will not do well with women who are non-active or lazy.

If the two of you have children; he’ll likely want them to be active in activities with the school as well. He may want them in sports or into doing something that keeps them busy.

4. Allowing Him To Take Charge

He isn’t expecting the old-school scenario of the woman in the kitchen barefoot and pregnant. However; the Aries man will want you to allow him to be the man of the house.

He takes this role very seriously and it’s engrained in him to take care of his family. Even if you do not have children but are living together; he’ll want to take care of you.

If you allow him to feel like the leader in the house; he’ll treat you like a queen. It doesn’t mean you have to put up with any of his guff if he gives you a hard time. However; allowing him to pay the bills and do the “manly” thing will make him happy.

He wants to be the partner, husband, and father role. As long as you let him have that; he’ll always make sure that you have everything you need and/or want in your life.

Don’t let him bully you though. If it gets to a point where he’s trying to tell you what to do; that’s when you need to be honest and tell him where to stick it. Communication is important and so is compromise.

If you’re interested in what are the biggest turn-offs for an Aries man –  continue reading here.

How To Talk To An Aries Man?

1. Talking About Sports

Most Aries men love sports. If you’re a sporty type of gal then you may actually succeed with this very well. Now if you’re the type of woman who really isn’t into sports; you may need to learn just enough to squeak by.

Getting to know his favorite sport or favorite team will win you lots of brownie points with this guy. In fact; if he finds out that you went above and beyond to learn this information; it will likely turn him on.

He’ll see that you like him enough to find things that interest him. That will quite possibly make him interested in you. He may find it cute or adorable that you’ve taken the time to get into something he really likes.

You could even buy a t-shirt or jersey of his favorite team just to get him talking. This will definitely be a head-turner for him. I’d suggest getting the women’s version so that it’s clingy and looks sexy on you.

Your curves plus sports; what is there to not love? Aries men will find your allure very irresistible. So if you’ve never been into sports before; perhaps it’s time to give it a fair shake to win the attention of that Aries guy.

2. Delicious Treats to Taste

While I mention “taste”; start getting your Aries guy revved up by talking about some really yummy food or snacks. This way at some point you can actually make something that will appeal to his love of food.

So keeping this in mind; if you haven’t yet been able to bring him a tasty snack; talk about your love for food or the love for making exquisite treats. Again; if you are a wonderful cook; make him something he’ll never forget.

In the case that you aren’t much of a cook; find out what he really likes and hit up the nearest bakery or deli to pick up some of the very best of what they have. Bringing him something that makes his tummy happy will make him happy.

Ultimately the Aries man is a manly man. That means he loves all thing that appeals to a typical guy. Food is one of these things as is sports. Striking up a conversation bout cuisine will appeal to his senses.

He’s the Alpha male looking for the woman that will be nurturing and caretaking for him and for his future children. So you see how this could help you seduce hi into your world right?

3. Talk With Flirtation

Try to talk to your Aries guy in a way that arouses him in many different ways. He loves brainy women so this would be a good thing to consider. Talking about something you are well versed in may be a hit.

Whatever it is you do decide to talk to him about; make sure you make it sound sexy or arousing in some way. Touch his hand, flip your hair, and just look sexual while you’re talking.

He may stop listening to the words and start picking up on your body language which is good. That’s what you’re trying to achieve is for him to notice what your body is telling him.

It may be wise to implement teasing in some way. Pretend there is something on his face and lean in to get it, give him a naughty look then back away. You want him to come toward you.

However much you’ve got him wanting you by this point; you’re going to want to pull back a bit. Aries loves to chase and so just by teasing him a little; you’ll have his curiosity peaked.

He will likely take that sign and ask you out. If he doesn’t right then and there then he may ask for your number so he can text you later. When he does; make your texts somewhat sexy but not in a way that he feels you are chasing.

The thrill of the hunt is what gets his juices flowing. That’s what you want him to do. It will be exciting for you both when he gets to this level. Remember though; don’t give everything away up front.

You will definitely want to hold back a little bit. If you go too fast, it will be passionate, hot, and wonderful; but it will fizzle out fairly quickly as he becomes bored and could want to look elsewhere.

Keep it sizzling by drawing it out and giving him only clips of who you are and what you’re capable of doing in bed over time.

Continue learning about things an Aries man loves to hear from a woman here.

How To Make An Aries Man Obsessed With You?

Being Deferred To

Remember, an Aries man isn’t necessarily a backward guy. He understands women’s rights and he has no issue with them. But this doesn’t change the fact that no matter who is around him, he wants to be the boss.

He is ruled by the planet Mars which represents that sort of ‘boss’ energy (along with the planet Saturn). He has a deep urge to be the leader, in work, relationships, and otherwise.

If you’re the type of woman who enjoys a manly man who wants to take charge then this will be a great match for you!

An Athletic Woman

An Aries, as has been discussed, rules over physicality, exercise, and self-improvement. As a result, a high rate of Arian men are gym rats.

As you can imagine, he wants a woman who echoes this love of working out. It makes him happy that he and the person he is partnered with can go and enjoy the gym together.

It’s such a central part of so many Aries lives that it would be a huge plus if you shared the interest in fitness. It will not only allow you to get healthy together, but it will help the two of you bond and spend time together as well!


An Aries is someone who can’t fake confidence –it’s genuine. They also can’t be bothered to watch over someone else’s feelings… they expect those around them to be able to handle their own emotions.

Since they are not highly sympathetic or empathetic sign, it’s best if their partners are full of self-assurance. This is going to ensure that any of Aries’ jokes or pokes are going to bounce off of their partner and no feelings will be hurt. Everyone wins!

A Feminine Woman

Mars is the masculine planet in the solar system and this is represented through the Aries. Too much of the same thing doesn’t feel that great to anyone, and so they aren’t looking for a very masculine woman.

Mars defers to only one planet and that is Venus. An Aries who is properly evolved is going to respect the feminine Venusian-type women since they embody everything he can’t be!

An Aries is going to go wild for feminine charm, style, and couth. He can do a lot of things, but being demure and graceful he struggles with. For this reason, feminine people are the ones who will get his attention and respect with ease.

The Chase

An Aries man is all about games! He doesn’t appreciate a highly predictable romance. In fact, the best way to get an Aries man to obsess over you is to make him think he can’t have you!

Try playing a little cat and mouse with him. Act interested, just to go cold, just to fire it back up again. NOTHING will get an Aries to chase you like this sort of hot and cold behavior!

Make Him Feel Useful

An Aries wants to be your knight in shining armor. He wants to be seen as the most capable and the best for any job you have to offer him.

If you ask him to come over and help you hang up some shelves, set up some furniture, or help you out with some home improvement he will be all over it! Anything to impress the fair lady.

Pick On Him

An Aries is going to openly accept a verbal battle! They think that this is the definition of flirting and fun. They will never pass up the opportunity to roast and be roasted!

Just be warned, an Aries won’t hold back! Only engage in a battle that you’re prepared to fight in!


There are some common questions I often get when it comes to attracting and seducing an Aries man. I have compiled a list of questions that come up which might help you to get this fiery man!

What Attracts An Aries Man Physically?

This man loves beautiful women. He isn’t quite hung up on any particular size, shape, type, or weight of a woman. He wants to see the woman in her natural beauty state.

However; if you’re going to lure him in; it would help to look your very best. You don’t need to look like a supermodel or look like someone you’re not. Having your hair neatly done and just making yourself appealing will help draw him in.

More than your exterior; your whole aura should give off an energy that draws this man in. That means being authentic around him. He will absolutely appreciate this. Aries men are themselves most of the time which means they hope to have the same from the woman of their heart. Be sweet, be funny, be witty. Whatever you’re best at; let it shine.

Flirt with him and allow him to flirt back. Then talk about things you know he finds interesting. These things combined will draw his interest for sure. You’ll stand out among all the others. Try not to put on too much makeup as he really does like a natural beauty far more than someone who wears a mask to cover up who they truly are. He wants to see the real you. Give it to him!

What Impresses An Aries Man?

The Aries man doesn’t mind having a verbal joust with you. In fact; it’ll impress him if you’ve got something intellectual to discuss. It lets him know how intelligent and alluring you are.

The thing to remember here is that even if you debate; be very careful not to break him down by criticizing him or talk with a condescending voice. He won’t respond well to this.

If you’re going to debate; be careful how you do it and make sure it stays clean. An example would be that you’re both into football but you like different teams. While you explain why your team is better; allow him to do the same.

Then to diffuse things and not make it too intense to where it sends up in a verbal brawl; you can then deflect and start talking about other teams and how both your teams are far better than the rest.

It acknowledges his choice as well as yours and yet you’re teaming up against the others but together. This will make him feel included and that both points of view are valid.

Does An Aries Have A Prefered Type Of Woman?

While you may see eye to eye on many things with your Aries guy; he’ll also appreciate your feminine side. Bat your eyelashes at him or blow him kisses.

Even if you’re a tomboy type; show your inner girl to him. He will love this. He loves tough women but women that can also show their feminine side. He wants the best of both worlds.

Wear a skirt from time to time to show off your lovely legs. He’ll absolutely love it. Even if you’re still wearing your boots or sneakers; you’re still revealing that you’re a woman. If you’re already fairly feminine then this should be quite easy for you. However; he will respond to you best by being able to keep up with his favorite topics of conversation. Those may not be that feminine.

So you see, find a balance where you can be who you are and yet reveal your natural dual nature. He wants to see the real you through and through. Looking nice is great but being nice is even better. Show him kindness, show him how wonderful you are but also show him that you can take care of yourself. Show him that even though that is the case; you’d still prefer a little assistance from him.

It can be hard to blend everything but if you’re really into your Aries guy; you’ll do what you can to be yourself and let him see it.

I’ve covered this question as well as what attracts an Aries man in a woman, and his general likes and dislikes in women and relationships in my recently updated article. Make sure you check it out.

Should You Text Him First?

Aries men love initiation, they like it when a woman shows her interest by letting him know that she is interested in him. However, an Aries man still wants a conquest so it is important that you don’t make it too easy for him.

You can text him first sporadically, but it is probably best for you to wait for him to initiate a conversation. You don’t want to take out all the fun he has in pursuing you in the first place.

If you’re really bold you can try this 3-word message to text your Aries man to see how he might respond. Say to him “I want you” and see what happens. You might be pleasantly surprised, but this is for the very bold amongst you. 

If not, try this mind hack that makes an Aries man text you first.

Conclusion – Aries Man Love Language

An Aries man in love is something you definitely need to experience once in your life. He is so affectionate and will make you feel like the most special girl on earth.

He has a way of zoning in on you and making you feel like only the two of you exist. He has quite a full-on way of expressing his love. He will give you so much of his time and his energy. This just happens to be his love language.

As an Aries man, he is one of those people who really need words of affirmation to feel loved and appreciated by their lover. They want to hear that they are these amazing men. That they are perfect.

An Aries man needs to know that their partner could never live without them and that they are the greatest person on earth. With any Aries, they feel like they can be their most authentic self when someone just accepts them for who they are at their core.

All an Aries man truly wants is acceptance because they realize that their personalities are quite out there and not everyone can always handle it. Aries men are direct people, and so they tend to take things that others say at face value, further emphasizing the weight of your loving words. You have the ability to melt him with what you have to say.

Affirming words mean more to an Aries ma than you could possibly understand. An Aries man tends to get quite riled up when someone criticizes them. This makes him want to prove himself more because an Aries man just cannot settle to be anything other than the best.

Words of affirmation should be used to tell an Aries man what they have done right, not to scold him or criticize him. Words of affirmation will make your Aries man feel really loved and like you are proud of him. So lay it on thick, but of course be genuine, when you are with your Aries because he is good at sensing inauthenticity.

Over the years, I’ve had a lot of my clients send me advice they got from dating coaches. They wanted to know if it would work with their Aries man. And I literally wanted to scream with frustration.


Because most dating advice definitely will NOT work if you use it with an Aries. You see, Aries men are VERY different than men of other signs. And if you use standard dating advice with an Aries, it can backfire. He might disappear forever and you’ll never hear from him again.

I don’t want that to happen to you. Especially when it is SO easy to draw him to you and get him to connect deeply with your heart.

You just need to know the specific phrases to tell him… So he’ll never want to lose you. He’ll be attracted to you like never before and he’ll cherish all the time you spend together.

And it won’t take him long to put a ring on that finger either. These phrases are the EXACT thing you need to turn everything around with him.

They give out the same advice for ALL men… which is really just too superficial. We can’t all be the same and we can’t put all men in the world in just one single category and treat them as if they are all having the same temperament and personality. It just doesn’t make any sense.

And really, your wonderful Aries is NOT like other men… at ALL.

So go here now to find out the specific things your Aries man needs to hear to melt his heart.

Wishing you so much love and happiness

Your friend and relationship Astrologer

Anna Kovach

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