What Not To Say To An Aries Man (7 Annoying Things)

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
When communicating with your Aries man, there are a few things you need to remember about him. Here's my list of what not to say to an Aries man.

Hello, my gorgeous women! Knowing what not to say to an Aries man can be somewhat confusing at times because they can be quite hot-headed and sensitive, simultaneously.

Sometimes the most innocent comments can really ruffle up his feathers and ignite his fiery temper. Of course, when you are dating him this is definitely something you want to avoid, as it can lead to unnecessary conflicts, misunderstandings, and all kinds of heartbreak I am sure you would rather want to skip.

There are certain things to never say to an Aries man if you want to maintain a harmonious relationship with him and I am going to help you understand what those things are so you can have an amazing and fulfilling connection with your Aries man.

If this is exactly what you need to hear, then keep on reading to discover the seven annoying things you should never say to an Aries man.

What Not To Say To An Aries Man (7 Annoying Things)

Here is a list of the 7 most annoying things an Aries man never wants to hear:

“You just don’t have what it takes…”

One of the biggest insults you could ever say to an Aries man is that he is not capable of doing something. He is known for his leadership qualities and confident nature so this can be a really massive blow to his ego.

This will hit such a sore spot for him because I can assure you that he definitely sees himself as someone who is very capable and effective in achieving whatever it is he has put his mind to.

He thrives on the belief that he can conquer any challenge, so questioning his abilities will only ignite his fiery temper and drive him away. He usually shows great passion and courage in everything he does, so undermining his abilities will only bring out his defensive side and potentially damage the relationship.

An Aries man wants to be with someone who can recognize and appreciate his character and confidence, not someone who tries to undermine him and make him feel small. It is better to be supportive and encouraging.

“Calm down, it is not a big deal.”

Telling an Aries man to “calm down” or that something is “not a big deal” can be incredibly infuriating to him. It is in his nature to be passionate and expressive, and when someone dismisses his emotions or belittles the significance of a situation, it can make him feel invalidated and disrespected.

He feels things very deeply, and when he is upset or passionate about something, it is important to acknowledge and validate his feelings rather than downplay them. Invalidating an Aries man’s emotions can lead to him shutting down and becoming distant.

He will always value honesty and directness, but he will not stand someone who tries to invalidate his feelings or someone who lacks empathy for his situation. He needs tact and a constructive approach to what he is feeling instead of dismissing or downplaying it.

You may also want to readMixed Signals From An Aries Man: Why Is He Confusing Me?

“I wish you were more like [another person].”

Comparing an Aries man to someone else or implying that he should change certain aspects of himself can be extremely insulting and hurtful to him. He really believes that he is one of a kind, and truth be told, he is!

Comparing him to someone else diminishes his individuality and suggests that he is not good enough as he is or that he needs to improve in some way. And of course, everyone could use some room for improvement in their life, but an Aries man doesn’t want to hear that you want him to be someone else.

He is very unique and prides himself on being true to who he is. Comparing him to someone else can make him feel like he is inadequate or not valued for his authentic self.

He wants to be with someone who knows how to honour his sense of self and avoids making comparisons that could undermine his confidence and self-worth. Focus on his strengths and the positive aspects of who he is, especially if you are looking to give him constructive feedback.

“Why can’t you just follow the rules?”

An Aries man is highly independent and definitely a bit of a rulebreaker. Nothing irks him more than feeling constrained by societal norms and expectations. He values his freedom and autonomy greatly, and being told to conform or follow the rules can make him feel suffocated.

And this is the absolutely worst feeling for an Aries man to experience. This statement will definitely irritate your Aries man as he is driven to chart his own course and make his own decisions in life. He is a pioneer and doesn’t follow the rules for a reason.

An Aries man thrives on challenging norms and breaking boundaries, so asking him to comply with rules goes against his very nature. He prefers to forge his own path and make his own rules, and being told otherwise can make him feel restricted and misunderstood.

Instead, try to understand his need for independence and support his desire to follow his own path. By respecting his independence and allowing him the freedom to be his authentic self, you will strengthen your connection with him and show that you value and accept him for who he truly is.

“You need to think before you act.”

Saying this sentence to an Aries man can really rub him up the wrong way. Aries men are known for their impulsive nature and their tendency to act first and think later.

It is their spontaneity that makes Aries men who they are, and they take pride in their ability to make quick decisions and take immediate action. They know how to think on their feet and act in the moment, which is a trait they value in themselves.

It’s important to appreciate and understand his “do first, think later” mentality and avoid criticizing or trying to change this aspect of his personality. You are basically criticizing a fundamental aspect of who he is, and this won’t sit very well with him.

Yes, he is going to make a lot of mistakes in his journey, but these mistakes are essential for him to learn and grow. It is all about trial and error and he needs you to give him this freedom otherwise you will just stifle his spirit and hinder his personal growth.

“Let’s play it safe.”

Knowing your Aries man means knowing that he is an extreme risktaker who likes to take chances and push himself to the limit. He is all about adventure, exploring, and pioneer. It is an integral part of his personality.

Playing it too safely goes against his very nature and can be a major turn-off for him as he sees it as dull or unchallenging. That is the last thing he wants to hear from his romantic partner.

Aries men thrive on excitement and the thrill of taking risks, so suggesting to play it safe can dampen his spirits and make him feel like you are holding him back from living life to the fullest.

He is motivated by challenges and the opportunity to prove himself, so encouraging and supporting his adventurous and daring nature will keep the fire alive in your relationship.

If you go against this he might see you as someone uninspiring or restrictive to his growth and aspirations. Show enthusiasm for his adventurous spirit and be open to stepping outside of your comfort zone with him.

“I don’t need your help.”

Your Aries man is a mucho man, he loves to be the hero and the man to save the day. His favourite role is being the protector of the people he loves the most. This makes him feel useful and appreciated.

If you decline his help you might be hurting his pride and undermining his sense of worth. He wants to support and care for you, so rejecting his help can make him feel rejected and unimportant in your life.

It’s important to let him know that you value his support and appreciate his willingness to help. But if you feel like you want to do something on your own, perhaps express this in a gentle way and show great appreciation for his willingness to support you.

Let him know that you are open to his help, but that you would first like to try it out on your own. He will appreciate this and feel a lot less rejected by you if you take this gentle approach. “I don’t need your help” is a statement that can hurt an Aries man’s pride and make him feel rejected and unimportant in your life. Feeling useful gives him a sense of purpose, so get him to do little tasks for you whenever you can.

7 Phrases You Should NEVER Say To An Aries Man You Love

If you care about an Aries man and want to maintain a positive relationship, here are seven phrases you might want to avoid:

  1. “Stop being so impulsive.” – Critiquing his natural inclination to act swiftly could be taken negatively.
  2. “You always have to have it your way.” – This can challenge his leadership and question his flexibility, which might not be well received.
  3. “You’re just being stubborn.” – While determination is a strength, calling it stubbornness can be seen as a negative judgment.
  4. “Can’t you be more patient?” – Aries men often thrive on immediate results and might see patience as a hindrance to progress.
  5. “Why do you always need to be in charge?” – He often naturally takes the lead and might feel undervalued if this trait is questioned.
  6. “You’re overreacting.” – Since Aries men can be passionate, he might feel misunderstood if his reactions are downplayed.
  7. “I told you so.” – This can be seen as belittling, especially if he’s made a mistake based on his quick decision-making.

Watch the video below to get some more insights on what an Aries man really hates to hear:

Tips On How To Communicate With Your Aries Man When You Are Upset

When communicating with your Aries man, there are a few things you need to remember about him. He is a very direct guy, and typically he responds best to very straightforward communication. It is so good to be honest and clear about what is bothering you, without pussyfooting about what is really bothering you.

You need to be prepared for honesty, though, as Aries men are known for their brutal honesty. And he is likely going to give you feedback that might be scary to hear, but remember that his honesty comes from a genuine place of caring and wanting the best for both of you.

Another important insight to have is to remember to stay calm when you are expressing your feelings. You need to manage your emotions and recognize that the way you are feeling can escalate or deescalate the situation. Try not to get into an argument with him, because this is where he can really show his temper.

I know it is very easy to get personal when you are upset with your Aries man, but it will save you both a lot of heartbreak if you just stick to the issue of what is bothering you rather than making personal accusations or attacks. Try your best to stick to the facts instead.

One last thing: remember to give him the space to respond to what you are saying. He might have a different point of view and perspective than you, and it’s important to give him the opportunity to express that without interrupting or becoming defensive.

Here’s more on how to make up with an Aries man after an argument.

Normal dating advice can backfire with an Aries man

Over the years, I’ve had a lot of my clients send me advice they got from dating coaches.

They wanted to know if it would work with their Aries man.

And I literally wanted to scream with frustration.


Because most dating advice definitely will NOT work if you use it with an Aries.

You see, Aries men are VERY different than men of other signs.

And if you use standard dating advice with an Aries, it can backfire.

He might disappear forever and you’ll never hear from him again.

I don’t want that to happen to you.

Especially when it is SO easy to draw him to you and get him to connect deeply with your heart.

You just need to know the specific phrases to hell your Aries man…

So he’ll NEVER want to lose you.

He’ll be wrapped around your finger

And it won’t take him long to put a ring on that finger either.

These phrases are the EXACT thing you need to turn everything around with him.

So… for heaven’s sake… DON’T listen to normal dating coaches!

They give out the same advice for ALL men… which is absolutely insane.

Because your wonderful Aries is NOT like other men… at ALL.

Click here to find out the specific things your Aries man needs to hear.

Sending you love,

Your sister and relationship astrologer,

Anna Kovach

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5 thoughts on “What Not To Say To An Aries Man (7 Annoying Things)

  1. I said that my ex boyfriend Aries ♈ man he told me to walk in front to see my wiggle but he was very quiet and strange this day not like him I knew something was not right so I got angry with him and frustrated and disappointed I shouted at him he was weird he had tears in his eyes ? and wee changed the subject we got something to eat then he dropped me off I bought him a t-shirt from river island ?️ so I gave him it then said Terry IL tx you tomorrow I did but he blanked me and got bk with his wife the next day ..he cannot open up I knew he wanted bk with his wife but didn’t have the courage to tell me plus in the car I said Terry IV tried and tried with you and he said Charmaine IV never been dumped before so he wanted away from me he’s a coward that he could not have told me the truth and lead me up the garden path I’m angry about that as he left his wife and came on very strong he just wouldn’t leave me alone and then does this to me plus in the car he broke down crying saying I should not have treated Marie his wife like that plus looked at her pics afew times so he wanted bk with her

  2. It’s easy to try to impress an Aries man to show them you can do whatever they need you to do…but don’t overdo it, it makes him feel like you’re trying to do his job for him.

    1. Hi Aqueelah!

      Thank you for tuning in and giving some of your own advice. Not all Aries men are exactly the same so there may be more to it with some than others. It’s important for women looking to learn about Aries men to check out my book “Aries Man Secrets” and all the other guides I have to offer. I absolutely appreciate your input sweetheart. I wish you the best!

  3. I’m currently dating a Aries man but he seems to be quiet different from my sons father who is an Aries. So I am trying to take into consideration some of the things that are stated in dealing with him

    1. Hi Toinette Armour!

      Yes, Aries men can be different due to what else is in their birth chart. They may have very different Moon signs and Rising signs. Personalities are not all exactly alike. Thank goodness for that! I’m glad you’re looking at other sides. You should find out what his Moon sign is as it may give you more information to work with. His rising sign would help also. I wish you all the best but if you’d like more info check out my guide “Aries Man Secrets”.

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