The Aries man communication style is fast and furious. This is thanks to their very fiery and passionate nature. When an Aries man feels something, he is going to say it, no second thoughts or questions.
This might make you wonder how to communicate with an Aries man, if you’re a woman who isn’t really used to this super direct and forward way of communication. If you aren’t used to an Aries man, it can be a little intense.
The Aries man communication style is definitely something you are going to have to get used to. Luckily, I know just how to help guide you and understand how to communicate with an Aries man.
If you are struggling to understand the Aries man communication then you have come to the right place. Keep on reading to find out more and how to deal with an Aries man.
In my years as a relationship astrologer, I have helped thousands of women learn to talk to an Aries man in a way he can actually hear, and I can tell you the problem is almost never that you are saying the wrong thing. It is that Aries men are wired to receive communication differently than most signs. Ruled by Mars, he responds to directness, energy, and confidence, and he shuts down fast when he feels managed or cornered. If you want the exact wording that reaches an Aries man instead of setting him off, my Aries Text Magic guide gives you message-by-message scripts written for his Mars-ruled mind.
Aries Man Communication Style — How Do Aries Men Communicate?
When you think of an Aries man, there are two things you need to first consider about him. Firstly, his sign is a sire sign. Fire signs are known for their passion, ambition, force, and drive.
And then secondly, his sign is ruled by the planet Mars. Mars is all about direction, passion, and initiation. As you can probably tell, the Aries man is quite the force to be reckoned with.
Without a doubt, this informs his communication style in quite a profound way. This tends to make the Aries man very direct, straightforward, and passionate when it comes to communication.
When he wants to say something, he is going to say it and not think about it twice. He is very direct, honest, and sometimes even blunt. There is a bit of a childishness to the way he speaks as he doesn’t give any of this much second thought.
This also of course, influnces his texting style. He won’t think twice about texting you. There won’t be any dillydallying and playing games. If he wants to text you, he will!
This can be quite refreshing, but there is a downside to it, because when you don’t hear from an Aries man it can be quite concerning. This is usually is an indication that his interests lie elsewhere.
What Does An Aries Man Like To Talk About?
Now that you know about Aries men, their element of Fire and that Mars rules their sign, it can give you a very good idea about what these men want to talk about in general.
There is a lot of energy surging through these gentleman, and this means that the Aries man is often quite preoccupied with his body. As an example, Aries men tend to be really great sportsmen and athletes.
These guys will talk about their sports and how they like to stay active as this is such an integral part of their personalities. These men like to push the limits and are usually adrenaline junkies so don’t be surprised if he ever comes to you with a proposition to jump out of a plane.
The Aries man will also always talk about the topics that they feel passionate about. They will talk about their ambitions, goals, and what they would like to achieve.
Talking about achievements, the Aries man has no problem bragging about what he has accomplished. He is quite chuffed with himself, and if he is into you he is going to want to share this with you in the hopes that this impresses you. It is good for him to have his ego stroked.
The Aries man will also talk about the things he finds fun. He is a very playful sign and wants to share this joy with the world, so whatever lights him up and gets him going is something that will always excite him to chat about.
And when an Aries man likes a woman, his mind will become consumed with her! He will want to know everything about you and enjoy talking about you and what makes you tick!
How To Communicate With An Aries Man — 3 Effective Ways
Be Cool, Calm, And Collected
This guy has to be handled with kid gloves. Aries men are alphas so they are aggressive naturally. They need a partner who can sooth their fiery temper. This means they need someone to calm them.
In order to calm someone else high strung or temperamental; you yourself need to be as calm as you can. If you are a fiery type of woman; you may not make it with an Aries man. Two fires are great for passion but not so good for life.
If you’re an Aries woman, this means you’re fire also BUT you may understand your Aries man more than most other signs. Be careful though because either one of you could go off the deep end at any moment.
Communication with calmness is absolutely the biggest key to be used with an Aries man. This doesn’t mean you should be a wimp or doormat to him. There is always a way to say “no” without it sounding like “screw you”.
Most Aries men take “no” to be a form of rejection and they don’t deal well with this. So perhaps if he asks you something and instead of no, you explain the reasons why it’s not a good idea.
When he’s angry he needs to hear “ok what can we do to work on this?” Say it in a very calm way though. If you let your temper get the best of you then the gloves come off and you two will have a heck of a battle going on of which he intends on winning. Scorpio or Aries women may give him a heck of a run for his money.
Be Patient With Him
Dealing with an Aries man will require a very understanding woman who is patient. If you are impatient; you’ll have a hard time surviving this man as he will test you over and over.
You’ll have to take a deep breath and let him finish what he needs to say without interrupting him. After he finishes; you’ll look at him in the eyes and say “Ok, here is how I feel about this” but in a calm manner.
Yelling will get you nowhere quick with this guy. He will throw you a cold shoulder and either leave for awhile or he will just keep throwing sleights in your general direction.
Taking a calm approach will seem weird to him. He’ll wonder what your angle is and why you’re not as livid as he is. This is good because it will make him listen to you when you finally do talk.
You’ll tell him what you think and how you feel. Do it without belittling him or making him feel less about himself. If he’s hurt you by what he’s said you can say something like “when you said that, it really hurt me a lot and it would be great if you didn’t say that again please”.
Don’t put too much emotion behind it though because he’ll take it as a form of attack and then you’ll start back from square one with him barking at you. This man has to learn to sit still and listen quietly.
He needs balance and the only way he’s going to achieve this is by a very kind; loving, patient; calm type of woman can get him to chill out. While he can light her fire; she can quench his thirst.
Aries men have a very specific love languages. And I have covered his entire Astrology love profile in my Aries Love Language guide. I suggest you get your copy if you really want to master his love language and finally connect with him in the right way.
Stand Your Ground When You Believe In Something
Many young Aries men will try to dominate their ladies to the point of “you do what you’re told”. It’s not that they want to abuse you; it’s that they want to be sure of their hold on you.
This is not good for either of you as it’s not at all healthy. The best way to deal with this is to let him know that it’s not Ok for him to place demands on you. This doesn’t mean you have to get into a brawl.
You can very easily tell him that you are unavailable at that time or day. If he asks why, tell him why. If you don’t want to tell him then tell him you have some things you need to take care of.
Just as he doesn’t really want you asking 101 questions about your whereabouts; it should work both ways. Only then can trust be built between you two. Remember that what you allow is what he will do.
As long as you allow him to do it; he’ll continue without batting an eyelash. So set the pace and make sure he understands that while you love spending time with him; you still have other things going on in your life.
Make sure he understands that you are not there for his disposal. You are with him to share time together and share love together. If you’ve already let him have his way; you can still change it.
Next time he tells you to do something; simply say “well actually; I think I’m going to do it this way at this time”. He will not like it but, he’ll accept it. He’ll quickly learn that it’s best not to bark orders at you.
The more you two learn each other the better off you will be and the less anger will be present. Just remember, deep breaths and calmness before you discuss anything of significance.
How To Deal With An Angry Aries Man — What Not To Say?
When an Aries man gets angry it can be quite a scary force to witness. He has a lot of passion and energy within him, and when he gets angry it can really make a huge difference in his personality.
Aggression and anger are things that come quite naturally to an Aries man. These are emotions that he knows well, but the good thing to remember about an Aries man is that these feelings don’t usually last very long.
He’ll feel them very strongly in the moment, and then quickly forget about it because he doesn’t hold a grudge and gets over his issues swiftly.
But of course, when he is angry you don’t want to add fuel to the flame so you definitely need to be careful of what you say to him to stay on the safe side. I would never encourage you to goad him as this will only drive him over the edge.
The best thing you can really do is give him some space to calm down. Just leave him in peace to let his anger run out on its own. I would suggest you to just stay silent and tell him that you will speak to him again when he feels better.
Related: How To Cheer Up An Aries Man When He Is Sad
Why Is My Aries Man Not Communicating? What Upsets Him?
As I mentioned above, the Aries man is quite quickly angered and he doesn’t keep this anger in. It isn’t very difficult to make him him angry, but luckily he doesn’t stay this way for too long.
The Aries man oftens gets angry when his patience is tested. He can’t stand it when someone says to him he can’t do something as he really gets annoyed by boundaries.
If you want to see an aries man angry, then you should say no to him and see what happens. He will do whatever he can to prove you wrong and that he can do whatever he wants.
An Aries man will especially get very angry if there is something he wants and he cannot get it. This man is very competitive and when he loses it makes him go crazy. He wants to be number one all of the time, and when he isn’t, it drives him to be very angry.
Sometimes it is actually just best to let him win, otherwise you will have a very angry and upset Aries man on your hands, and trust me, this is the last thing you want from him.
How To Emotionally Connect With An Aries Man
Being emotionally vulnerable can be extremely tough for an Aries man as it can make some of them feel unmanly and like they aren’t standing in their power. This is why you often find Aries men with their walls up.
This makes it rather difficult to emotionally connect with an Aries man. He takes a very long time, if ever to show his true colours. It is very scary for him to be vulnerable…
This means that it is going to take a lot of patience on your side to get him to actually open up. You need to show him that you are a safe space. You can do this by being vulnerable first, this shows him that you trust him and will make him want to protect you.
Patience is your best friend when it comes to an Aries man and communication. If you push him, he is simply going to run away because he hates it when it feels like he is being forced to be something he is not.
Here’s more about why Aries men hide their feelings and how to emotinally connect with him. <<
The One Communication Mistake That Makes an Aries Man Shut Down for Good
If there is a single thing that closes an Aries man’s mouth faster than anything else, it is the feeling that he is being criticized or controlled. Mars makes him proud, and pride is the most sensitive nerve he has. The moment a conversation starts to feel like a lecture, a list of his failures, or an attempt to change him, he stops listening and starts defending. In my surveys, women named him closed off or a poor communicator in more than seventy separate entries, and almost every one of those situations traced back to the same root. He was not refusing to talk. He was protecting himself.
The fix is not to say less. It is to say it without the edge of blame. An Aries man will open up remarkably far when he feels respected and safe from attack. Lead with what you feel rather than what he did wrong, and you will watch the same man who went silent suddenly meet you halfway.
How to Text an Aries Man So He Actually Texts Back
Texting is where so many women lose their Aries man without realizing it. He is impulsive and quick by nature, so a long, emotional paragraph arriving on his phone feels like weight, not warmth. He may love you and still leave it on read simply because he does not have the energy to answer all of it in the moment. Short, warm, confident messages work far better than anything that reads like a paragraph he has to solve.
Timing matters too. An Aries man responds to a spark of playful energy more than to a check-in that asks him to account for himself. If you want a clearer map of how he reads and responds to messages, my breakdown of how to read an Aries man’s text messages shows you exactly what his replies mean, and my Aries Text Magic guide hands you the words that keep him engaged.
What an Aries Man Wishes You Understood About the Way He Talks
An Aries man communicates through action far more than through long discussions of feelings. He shows you he cares by protecting you, showing up, and pursuing you, and he assumes you can read those signals. In my surveys, 64 percent of women said their Aries man makes consistent, intense eye contact, because that direct presence is his real language. He is often saying a great deal while barely using words at all.
Once you understand that, the pressure eases. You stop waiting for a speech he was never going to give and start noticing the ways he is already telling you the truth. If you also want him to put more of it into words, the path there is through his emotions, which is why so many women pair this with learning how to get an Aries man to open up.
Frequently Asked Questions About Communicating With an Aries Man
How do you get an Aries man to open up emotionally?
You create safety, not pressure. An Aries man opens up when he trusts that his vulnerability will not be used against him later or met with judgment. Share something real about yourself first, keep your tone calm, and give him room to respond in his own time rather than demanding he talk right now.
Remember that his emotional walls come from a fear of being hurt, not from indifference. Many women in my surveys shared that their Aries man admitted he was not expecting to feel so much so fast, and that fear is what makes him guard his heart. Patience and steadiness open him far more than any direct confrontation ever will.
Why does my Aries man go quiet when he is upset?
When an Aries man goes quiet, he is usually managing his own temper before he says something he cannot take back. Mars gives him a fast, hot reaction, and the silence is often him trying to cool down rather than punish you. Pushing him to talk in that moment tends to make it worse.
Give him a little space and he will almost always come back once the heat has passed. The mistake most women make is reading his silence as the end of the relationship, when for an Aries man it is frequently just a pause to regroup.
What should you never say to an Aries man during an argument?
Never tell an Aries man to calm down, and never compare him to another man. Both wound his pride directly and turn a disagreement into a battle he now needs to win. Attacking his character rather than the specific issue will also make him dig in rather than listen.
Stay on the actual problem, keep it about how you feel, and resist the urge to bring up every past grievance at once. An Aries man can hear one clear point far better than a flood of accusations.
I would love to hear your story. Where do things stand with your Aries man’s communication right now, and what has been the hardest part to reach him? Share it in the comments below, and I will do my best to help you find the words.
If You Listen To Dating Coaches, You Can Lose Your Aries Man Forever…
Over the years, I’ve had a lot of my clients send me advice they got from dating coaches. They wanted to know if it would work with their Aries man.
And I literally wanted to scream with frustration.
Why???
Because most dating advice definitely will NOT work if you use it with a Aries. You see, Aries men are VERY different than men of other signs.
And if you use standard dating advice with a Aries, it can backfire. He might disappear forever and you’ll never hear from him again.
I don’t want that to happen to you. Especially when it is SO easy to draw him to you and get him to connect deeply with your heart.
You just need to know the specific phrases to tell him…
So he’ll NEVER want to lose you. He’ll be wrapped around your finger… And it won’t take him long to put a ring on that finger either.
These phrases are the EXACT thing you need to turn everything around with him.
So… for heaven’s sake… DON’T listen to normal dating coaches! They give out the same advice for ALL men… which is absolutely insane. Because your wonderful Aries is NOT like other men… at ALL.
>> So go here now to find out the specific things your Aries man needs to hear to melt his heart.
xoxo, Anna
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