Men are so fickle, one minute they’re so into you, the next they just want to make a run for the hills. But why is this? What turns an Aries man off and how can you prevent this from happening?
An Aries man is very hot under the collar. This is a man who lives impulsively and listens to his instincts every moment of his life. When something feels right, he pursues it, when something feels wrong, he walks away.
It is a subtle experience, going from moment to moment, and just about anything can turn an Aries man on, but the same could be said about an Aries man’s turn-offs.
Are you interested in finding out more about what turns an Aries man off? Then keep on reading to find out more. I have all the Answers!
10 Biggest Aries Man Turn Offs In A Woman – That Make Him Leave A Great Woman
There are certain things some women do that make an Aries man go crazy, and not in a good way. He just can’t help it, when he notices this behavior in a woman, it makes him want to run for the hills.
You might be the greatest gal in the world, but if you exhibit any of these following behaviors, you might be putting your Aries man right off. So take a head of my warning:
1. You Nag Him
Let’s get right into it –Aries men do not like being told what to do, when to do it, or how to do it. He also doesn’t like being reminded that he didn’t do something and still needs to. It’s enough to remind him once (maybe!).
What happens if you’ve asked and he still hasn’t done it, you can simply very nicely say “I asked you to do this, I really need it done and would appreciate it greatly.”
You’re then asking him nicely. If you go at him with “I told you before to do this and now it’s still not done, blah, blah, blah.” See the difference here? It’s a huge one.
He will respond nicely to one approach and the other will piss him off. Your Aries will likely respond with a negative comeback or call you a name that is not so nice. He can be as equally nasty!
An Aries man like a little boy that doesn’t want to be told anything. Asking him with some sugar on top will get you more favors than chastising him. I know, it’s a pain, but asking nicely works far better.
2. You Are Negative
Another red flag is talking negatively about things. If you’re being negative more than positive, it will add up and take its toll on him. He will add it all up and decide you’re just a negative person in general (even if that’s not the case!).
This will make him want to leave you, even if you’re doing everything else right. He can only take so much, so it’s best to reflect on your behavior.
If you’re being negative all the time, it’s time for you to take personal inventory and find out why so you can correct it. It will be healthier for you and for him, as well as the relationship.
3. You Are Needy
In the beginning, when the Aries man fell in love with you he probably didn’t mind when you needed his help with odds and ends. He didn’t mind being the hero in your life.
Aries man doesn’t mind helping his woman, but he does have a limit. He wants you to learn how to be self-sufficient as well. He’s not going to do everything for you.
If you’ve been pretty good so far but suddenly decide that you need more from him, more time, or want him to stay home all the time then you may be disappointed.
When you two got together, you knew what type of guy he was and that he likes to be active, fit, and involved. If you are now trying to change him into being a homebody, it’s not going to happen.
Even if you’re the best and most loving person he’s ever known, keeping him home, or needing him too much will cause him to want to let go of you. He absolutely cannot be changed and won’t allow anyone to do otherwise.
4. You Are Clingy
The king of independence and freedom has a real problem when a woman can’t understand that an Aries man needs space and a lot of it. A clingy woman just doesn’t do it for him.
An Aries man wants to be with someone who has her own life with her own friends, hobbies, hopes and dreams. He doesn’t want to be her reason for living. He just wants to add to her life.
He doesn’t like clingy women and even if he really loves you, you have to be able to do things on your own. Go out with your friends, hang out with your family, and don’t require his time so often.
This is fixable, so if you recognize that you’re making this kind of mistake with him, you can change it and make sure that it doesn’t make him want to drop you and move on. And if you find that you do need someone who is going to be there for you at all times – then maybe an Aries is not the guy for you.
5. You Are Secretive
You may be a completely harmless woman who is faithful to the end, but if you constantly keep small secrets from him or omit the truth of a situation, he will get tired of it and conclude that you are dishonest.
If he suspects you in the least of being unfaithful or lying to him then there is no amount of greatness you can have that will make him change his mind. You have to always be truthful with him, even if it’s something he won’t like.
He will get mad or upset, but at least he’ll have the truth and can get over it. If he thinks you are keeping things from him, he will believe he cannot trust you and once that trust is gone, it’s gone forever.
6. You Tell Him White Lies
Telling him half-truths doesn’t work either. Tell him the full thing or don’t do what you were planning. See what I mean? If you’re going out with friends and an ex will be there, you have to tell him the truth.
Do not say you’re going to hang out with friends and that it’s no big deal. If he finds out that ex was there and you didn’t tell him, guess who’s a liar? You! Great woman or not, this won’t go over well at all.
Tell him the honest truth: “Hey babe, I’m going out with my friends. My ex is a mutual friend so he will be there as well but don’t worry, I’ll check in with you throughout the night.”
See how that’s done? He may not like the reality, but it’s better he knows so that someone else doesn’t spill the beans or he shows up and sees for himself. If he knows he can be upset but he has to trust you. You telling him the truth makes him trust you.
7. You Get Very Jealous
Some say this is a double standard for the Aries man. Aries men are often jealous and possessive. However; he doesn’t like jealous behavior from his woman. I know that doesn’t sound fair but that’s how he operates.
Next time he says something about someone you are talking to in jealousy, you can gently remind him how you’re not acting jealous about the women he talks to on social media.
There has to be trust coming from both ends, or this will not work. I can honestly tell you though, that if you talk to other guys even in friendship, he will get jealous. He will have to learn to get used to who you are and that he can trust you.
Until he learns that, you have to be kind to him and try not to talk to too many guys. Let him see what you’re posting or saying. You don’t have to hand him your phone or constantly make sure he sees everything.
Just sometimes it’s healthy to let him look over your shoulder while you’re posting or commenting. If he’s alright with what he sees on the screen, he’ll feel comfortable and trusting.
Never break his trust though, and do NOT complain about his phone time. If he’s laughing and texting, leave it be. If you trust him, you cannot act like a jealous girlfriend.
A good Aries man will leave a great woman if she cannot trust him and is constantly accusing him of things he isn’t doing. No one likes to be treated that way, and don’t let him do it to you either!
8. You Are Lazy
It’s strange to think that a man would drop you simply because you used to be active and now you’re a loafer who prefers nights watching movies. He will see this as you changing the personality that he fell in love with.
It doesn’t matter how clean you are, how honest you are, and how loving you can be. If you become inactive or stop doing the stuff you love doing, he’ll see this as lazy and he will want to end it with you.
Unless he becomes a couch potato with you, he will want you to be active, exercise, do stuff, and stay on the go. He’s high energy and when he met you, you were doing more than you are now.
Yes, he has expectations of you. It may not be right, but it’s how he thinks and feels. He doesn’t want a woman who does the bare minimum in life. He wants a career woman that also has hobbies on the side.
He’s asking a lot, yes. That’s Aries man for you though. If you don’t think you can toe the line with him then maybe he’s not the right guy for you. What is right for you? What do you want?
9. You Act Fake And Phony
Aries men like all-natural women who are strong but feminine at the same time. He typically doesn’t like women who at any moment will backstab or gossip about other women. This would represent weakness and disingenuous motives.
He doesn’t like it when he can see a woman pretend to be nice to someone’s face, and then totally fake when they aren’t around. This behavior says a lot to him and makes him feel really uncomfortable.
He wants you to be open, honest, and someone he can count on. Being catty will not win you any favours with the Aries man. He wants integrity and beauty in a woman.
By beauty, I mean heart and soul; not just your looks. If you like to gossip; you may not want to ever do it around him. He won’t take well to it and will see you in a different light.
Be yourself and be a wonderful woman he feels he can trust in as well as rely on when he needs you. Don’t pretend to be someone you are not. Be the authentic you and an Aries man will always choose you above anyone else.
10. You Criticize Him
This man wants to be loved and adored for the entire splendor that he is. He isn’t one that has a cool temper. Be careful how you talk to him. If you want him to do something differently; just ask calmly. You don’t have to belittle him and make him feel terrible in the process. Just remember, this isn’t love.
If you cut him up into pieces (or try to); he will give you your walking papers. I cannot express this enough; this isn’t the man you want to push or be catty with as he will push back and likely push you right on out the door.
Perhaps if you want to make a suggestion nicely of how something may work better; he may listen to you. However; if you tell him rudely how the way he’s doing it is wrong; he will snap. Remember your kindness and compassion. This always needs to be a priority!
Things An Aries Man Absolutely Cannot Handle In A Relationship
We all have our dealbreakers, even Aries men. For the most part, these guys can be pretty forgiving and cool, but there are certain things an Aries man will never tolerate.
An Aries man has high standards for his relationships. He wants to be with someone who fits him just perfectly. The most important thing for an Aries man is his freedom, and his biggest turn-off happens when a woman tries to take away his freedom by controlling him.
Here are the things an Aries man absolutely cannot handle in a relationship:
1. Being Criticized Harshly
Most people do not like being criticized. Aries takes it really personally and will not respond well to it. He feels confident most of the time so if you say something that makes him feel less of who he is; he’ll take offense.
In fact, if you point out how wrong he is; he’ll be really upset with you and figure that you don’t know what you’re talking about nor do you really love him. He may take this as a sign that you’re not really into him.
Being told he’s doing something wrong will result in some resistance from him. You can expect to bump heads with him if you decide that what he is doing isn’t good enough.
He will also decide not to do anything for you anymore if you critique how he does the things he already does. If he’s normally a giving person, when you complain about it; he’ll pull back and not do anything for you anymore.
So be careful when you’re pointing out the flaws in how he does something or the way he says things. It may result in an unnecessary fight. Remember to pick your battles.
2. Intolerant of Jealousy
This seems to be contradictory as he’s sometimes jealous himself. He’s possessive at times as well. However; he will not be happy with you should you display jealous behavior.
He fully expects you to be loyal to him just as he fully expects you to trust him. However; he may be a big flirt. That being said; he’ll get mad at you for getting mad at him for flirting with other women.
It makes no sense and it’s not rational but it IS something that turns him off. He wants a partner who isn’t jealous and will not have a problem with him when he flirts with other women.
So that being said; a compromise has to be made. If he cannot learn to keep his eyes to himself when he’s out with you at the very least; it may not be a good relationship.
You need it to be two ways, not one. Get him to agree to keep his eyes on his own paper while he’s out with you. You cannot watch him while he’s not with you but as long as you have trust; it won’t matter.
3. Being Told What To Do
Aries men are the top dogs in their world. As such, they will not tolerate a woman telling them what to do or not do. This isn’t to be confused with a “honey do” list in which a woman leaves a list of tasks for her guy to accomplish in the house.
If you tell him not to go out with his friends; he’ll resent it and do it anyway. This is just one example of what types of things will happen if you try to tell him what to do.
He also will not do very well with you if you tell him he is wrong. If you’re going to point out what isn’t right; you’re going to need some logical explanation for why what you are saying is right. If you can do that; he may actually understand it.
Otherwise, he’ll see this as an attack and probably strike back. Aries has a bad temper and will take action then ask questions later. Try to avoid being aggressive with trying to get him to do things.
Nicely ask him or steer him in a direction where he’ll be alright with whatever you ask him to take care of for you. He responds better to sugar than he does to vinegar.
4. Laziness or Inactivity
Aries men are typically very active people. He’ll want a partner who is just as active if not; more. He isn’t into women that do nothing with their lives. If you’re the type to go to work then come home and do nothing; it won’t appeal to him.
He wants to see a woman who gets off work and then wants to hit up the gym or go dive into some sort of sport. If not physical; doing some sort of mental activity would be better than doing nothing.
If you’re in a book club, chess club, or something that keeps you busy; he’ll appreciate that you’re doing something other than wasting your life away on the sofa with the television.
Better yet; if you want to be involved in some of his activities; he’ll definitely love that. However; when you flake out; he’ll begin to see you as a flaky person or he’ll figure you’re lazy thus he’ll drop you like a hot cake.
Aries men want active women who like to do much more than just work for a living. So get up off the sofa and do something for your health or your brain!
5. Liars and Cheats
Aries men absolutely will not tolerate a woman who cannot be truthful with him or a woman who cheats on him. He takes a great deal of effort to pick someone who he finds matches what he’s looking for.
If you lie to him or cheat on him; he’ll perceive this as a failure and not only will resent you but will be upset with himself for making a bad choice picking you. He will not forgive someone who cheats on him.
As far as lies; he may forgive over time but if it’s something severe; he may never get past it. It’s best to just tell him like it is rather than keep it a secret. When he finds out; and he will; it won’t be pretty.
6. Lack Of Sex And Intimacy
As far as sex goes, it is really important for an Aries man to have his physical needs met in his relationships. He is a very sexual guy and having enough sex in his life is high on his list of priorities.
So when a partner starts to refuse sex or uses sex as a bartering chip, it really turns an Aries man off. He wants to be with someone who is very open sexually and communicates her desires to him.
An Aries man simply cannot be with a prude or a woman who doesn’t enjoy sex. As soon as he gets wind of someone’s disinterest in sex, it is kind of goodbye for an Aries man.
He just knows that he’ll never be able to be faithful in a relationship in which he can’t get sex and an Aries man doesn’t like the idea of being a cheat. But if that is the only way he can get his needs met, what else is he supposed to do?
What Are An Aries Man’s Turn-Ons?
Aries men might have a hefty list of turn-offs, but I can guarantee that his list of turn-ons is double in size. There is so much that makes an Aries man go crazy for a woman. Here are some to keep in mind:
1. An Adventurous Woman
Aries man is reckless, we all know this about him! He is absolutely wild and free. He loves adventure and experiencing life to the fullest. And when he meets a woman with the same kind of lust for life, it gets him really excited.
An Aries man loves to be with someone who is open-minded and keen to explore the world with him. It really turns him on that a woman would want to see the world and do interesting things with him.
He needs someone who can keep up the pace with him and isn’t afraid of new and interesting experiences.
2. A Woman Who Is Affectionate
An Aries man is quite tactile. He loves being touched by a woman. It makes him feel chosen, loved, and desired. This man loves attention, especially when a woman touches him in a sensual manner. It makes his heart melt completely.
Tactile affection is very important to him. Did you know that Aries rules the head? This means that an Aries man’s head is quite a sensitive spot for him, so be sure to play with his hair or kiss his forehead. This will drive him absolutely crazy and turn him on like you have no idea.
3. A Woman Who Is Smart And Intelligent
People often mistake an Aries man to be this brute force of a man who only thinks with his muscles. But this guy is a lot more intelligent and creative than he gets credit for.
He wants to be with a woman who gets his wheels turning. An Aries man is so turned on by a woman who can make him think and who can stimulate him intellectually.
There is nothing sexier for an Aries man to have a woman who has her own ideas and knows how to inspire him with her thoughts. He adores this and it makes him really excited.
Explore more on what an Aries man wants in a woman (and in a relationship) in my updated article.
Aries Man’s Love Language – Turn ons and Turn offs
Hopefully, now you get a better picture on what turns off an Aries man…
If you already committed some of the 10 Aries man’s handling mistakes – you don’t need to panic.
You should learn more about his love language, the way he likes to be treated, as well as what he looks for in a woman.
To sum it up in just a few paragraphs – As an Aries man, he is one of those people who really needs words of affirmation to feel loved and appreciated by their lover. They want to hear that they are these amazing men. That they are perfect. This is how an Aries man commits to a woman. He needs to know that he is her prize.
An Aries man needs to know that their partner could never live without them and that they are the greatest person on earth. With any Aries, they feel like they can be their most authentic self when someone just accepts them for who they are at their core.
All an Aries man truly wants is acceptance because they realize that their personalities are quite out there and not everyone can always handle it. Aries men are direct people, and so they tend to take things that others say at face value, further emphasizing the weight of your loving words. You have the ability to melt him with what you have to say.
Affirming words mean more to an Aries man than you could possibly understand. An Aries man tends to get quite riled up when someone criticizes them. This makes him want to prove himself more because an Aries man just cannot settle to be anything other than the best.
Words of affirmation should be used to tell an Aries man what they have done right, not to scold him or criticize him. Words of affirmation will make your Aries man feel really loved and like you are proud of him. So lay it on thick, but of course be genuine, when you are with your Aries because he is good at sensing inauthenticity.
Wishing you all the luck in the universe,
Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,