Have you and your Aries man fallen out of love? It’s never an easy thing to accept, and it can take a long time to get over a failed relationship and open your heart again.
The Aries man has a way of blowing hot and cold, and it’s tough to fully let go of him, especially if he still seems keen on you. So how can you finally make the cut, get over an Aries man and move on with your life?
Aries men have a bit of a reputation for falling in and out of love in the blink of an eye, and in my experience as a relationship astrologer, the stereotype is well-earned.
He might be passionate about you in the beginning, even infatuated – and then he’s over it. And that hurts! No one likes being dropped like a hot potato.
Of course, you may be the one that decided it was time to move on. Maybe you grew tired of the conflict and the self-absorption, or maybe you just weren’t a match.
Either way, it’s tough to get over an Aries man, especially considering that they tend to become a huge presence in your life even in the beginning.
When they’re gone, it can feel like there’s a huge gap left behind, and you may yearn for their warmth, enthusiasm, and sense of adventure (usually forgetting all the grief you went through, too!).
I have a few tips for you to help the process to go a little faster – so you can move on and open your heart to new love again, even if it seems impossible!
In my years as a relationship astrologer, I have sat with so many women trying to get over an Aries man, and I want you to know something first: the reason he is so hard to get over is not weakness on your part. An Aries man ruled by Mars comes into your life like a force of nature, all passion and intensity, and a love that arrives that powerfully leaves a big space when it goes. Be gentle with yourself. Healing from him is not about forgetting how good it was, it is about coming home to yourself again.
Here’s How to Get Over An Aries Man and Move On…
1. Go Have an Adventure
The truth is, you have probably been dragged around by your Aries ex doing all the things he wanted to do, all the adventures he wanted to take part in, with very little say of your own!
Now it’s time to go on your own adventure. Embark on something you have always wanted to do but always put off because of his demands on your time and energy. Have you always wanted to visit India? Take a road trip with the girls? Now is your time to shine – and to reclaim your independence!
2. Try Something Completely New
Besides going on an adventure, why not try something completely new? A new hobby could be a small step, or even moving to a new neighborhood if you’re feeling like a massive change. Perhaps you’d like to see what living in a house share is like, or living on your own if you haven’t before.
Maybe something new means meeting new people or taking a course or workshop in something you have interest in. You may have had new experiences with him, but did you get to choose them ? Probably not.
Remember, new experiences rewire your brain and help you forget about the past and your pain. When you’re engaging with things that excite your curiosity, there’s no room for ruminating about what went wrong or wanting him back!
3. Enjoy Making Yourself the Center of Your World Again
There’s no shame if you made your Aries ex the center of your universe. This sign demands nothing less than to be the apple of your eye – to the point where you may have even neglected yourself in the process.
As strange as it may feel, now’s the time to make you number one again. It’s time to ask yourself what you want and take it without having to consider anyone else’s needs! Sleep in, eat ice cream for breakfast, or do a yoga class in the morning. Get a cat, see your friends, or stay in. The choice is yours!
You are now your top priority, so go ahead and do exactly as you please. Soon you’ll be enjoying yourself so much that you’ll hardly yearn for him at all anymore!
4. Settle Into the Calm
Let’s face it – Aries men can be hard to handle. Mainly because they love conflict and can never, ever be told what to do (even if it’s in their best interest). Aries men, ruled by Mars, have a tendency to get into fights and stir up drama.
Isn’t it lovely to just enjoy the peace and calm of your life again? To not have to argue with anyone about anything? To not be challenged at every turn? You’ve got to admit, the new quietness in your home and life is very attractive.
5. Accept That He’s Let Go
This is one of the hardest tips to give and to accept. Aries men let go fast. They might fight hard for you, but once it’s over, they move on very quickly. They may start dating within weeks.
It’s a bitter pill to swallow, but knowing he has actually let go may be the very best way for you to let go, too, so that you can open your heart to someone better suited to you, someone less self-absorbed and more aligned to who you are and what you want!
Top tip? Never stalk him online – it will only hurt you.
6. Take a Time-Out From Dating
It’s tempting to get back on the merry-go-round of the dating wheel, but perhaps the best thing you can do to repair your heart is to take a break from dating. Aries men are a lot, and your guy probably took up a huge amount of emotional energy. They can be exhausting!
Take a breather. Spend time with friends. There’s really no rush, and it’s far better to properly heal than to rush into someone else’s arms right away. Yes, he may be bouncing from girl to girl, or even in a new relationship, but that doesn’t mean you have to compete with him.
Just for now, date yourself. It will help you when it’s time to choose your next love.
7. Don’t Hold a Grudge
Here’s the thing: your Aries ex is not holding a grudge against you – so why should you hold one against him?
Holding a grudge and staying angry is simply poisoning yourself, at the end of the day. Yes, he has probably infuriated you with some of his behavior, and it’s hard to forget! If it’s too tough, try taking up martial arts or something else that helps to release those feelings.
Whatever you do, don’t carry it with you. It only prevents you from being with someone new in an open and genuine way. Release the feelings, forgive him – if you can – and give yourself the gift of truly moving on!
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What if an Aries Man Doesn’t Want a Relationship?
Mixed Signals From an Aries Man: Why Is He Confusing Me?
How Long It Really Takes To Get Over An Aries Man
One of the kindest things I can tell you is that there is no set timeline, and comparing yourself to how fast he seems to have moved on will only hurt you. Aries men let go quickly, sometimes within weeks, because their fire burns forward rather than backward. That does not mean your feelings are wrong for taking longer. It means you love differently than he does, and depth of feeling is not something to apologize for.
In my experience, the intensity of an Aries relationship is exactly what makes the healing take time. He tends to become an enormous presence fast, filling your days with adventure and passion, so when he is gone the gap can feel enormous too. Give yourself permission to grieve that at your own pace. Some women feel lighter in a month, others need a season or more, and both are completely normal.
What actually speeds healing is not white-knuckling through it but filling your life back up with things that are yours. Every new experience, every reclaimed piece of your independence, every morning you choose yourself makes the memory of him a little quieter. You are not behind. You are exactly where you need to be, and you will get there.
If part of you still wonders where his heart truly stands, over 254,331 women have taken this free quiz to find clarity. Take the free quiz here and see what the stars reveal, so you can move forward with peace either way.
Will An Aries Man Come Back After You Move On?
This is the question that keeps so many women stuck, so let me be truthful with you. Aries men can and do come back. In my research, a striking number of women reconnected with an Aries man from their past, sometimes after months, sometimes after years. His impulsive nature that made him leave quickly can just as easily bring him circling back when he realizes what he lost. So yes, it happens.
But here is what matters more than whether he returns: you cannot build your healing around waiting for him. If you move on only as a strategy to make him come back, you are not really moving on, you are still tethered to him. The women who thrive are the ones who let go for their own sake, and if he happens to return, they get to decide from a place of strength whether they even want him back.
If, once you are steady again, you truly want to explore a reconnection, there are ways to reopen an Aries man’s heart that work with his Mars-ruled nature. My Aries Magic Phrases guide shows you the words that reach him. Read more here. But please, heal first. Come back to yourself before you go back to him.
The Biggest Mistake Women Make When Getting Over An Aries Man
The single biggest mistake is keeping one foot in the door while trying to walk out of it. Checking his social media, keeping his name at the top of your messages just in case, replaying every conversation looking for a sign he will return. I say this with love, because I understand the pull: watching and waiting does not keep hope alive, it keeps the wound open. You cannot heal a cut you keep touching.
An Aries man moves forward with his gaze fixed ahead, rarely looking back with the same ache you feel. That asymmetry can be painful, but it is also freeing once you accept it. His moving on is not a verdict on your worth. His fast recovery is simply how Mars energy works, and it has nothing to do with how lovable or valuable you are.
So give yourself the clean break you deserve. Mute him, unfollow if you need to, and stop refreshing for closure he may never hand you. The closure you are waiting for is not going to come from him. It comes from the decision you make to choose your own peace, and that decision is fully within your power right now.
Frequently Asked Questions About Getting Over An Aries Man
Do Aries men come back after a breakup?
Sometimes they do. An Aries man is impulsive, and the same impulsiveness that made him leave can bring him back when curiosity or nostalgia strikes, especially if he starts to feel that no one else matches the spark he had with you. In my research, reconnection with an Aries man from the past was a notably common pattern, so a return is far from impossible.
That said, whether he comes back and whether you should welcome him back are two very different questions. An Aries man who returns without having grown will often repeat the same cycle of intensity and withdrawal. If he does resurface, watch whether he shows real change and consistency, not just a burst of renewed passion.
Above all, do not put your life on hold waiting to find out. Heal, grow, and build a full life. If he comes back, you will be meeting him as a stronger woman who can choose clearly, rather than one who has been waiting by the phone.
How do Aries men handle breakups?
Aries men tend to handle breakups by charging forward. They often throw themselves into new activities, new social scenes, or even new dating quickly, because staying busy and moving fast is how their Mars energy processes pain. From the outside this can look like he never cared, but that is rarely the whole truth. His fast pace is often a way of outrunning feelings he does not want to sit with.
Some Aries men also get a bit combative or dismissive right after a split, especially if there was conflict. This is his fire flaring rather than a measure of what you meant to him. Underneath the bravado, he may feel the loss more than he will ever admit, since he tends to guard his deeper emotions closely.
What this means for you is simple: do not measure your worth by how quickly he seems to bounce back. His speed is about his wiring, not your value. Let him process his way, and give yourself the grace to process yours.
How do you make an Aries man regret losing you?
The honest answer is that the surest way to make an Aries man regret losing you is also the healthiest thing for you: build a vibrant, happy life without him. Nothing catches a Mars-ruled man’s attention like a woman who is thriving, confident, and clearly not defined by his absence. He is drawn to fire and vitality, and a woman living fully is magnetic to him.
But I want to gently reframe the goal. Chasing his regret keeps him at the center of your story, and you deserve to be the center of your own. When you focus on your growth, your joy, and your own dreams rather than on his reaction, any regret he feels becomes a side effect, not the point.
So live for yourself, not for his backward glance. If he regrets losing you, wonderful. But the real victory is reaching the place where his regret no longer matters to you at all, because you have built a life you love with or without him.
I would love to hear your story. Where are you in getting over your Aries man, and what has helped you most so far? Share what you are going through in the comments below, and I will do my best to support you. I read every single one, and please know you are not alone in this.
No More Sleepless Nights About Your Aries Man…
It can be SO painful to worry about how to make things work with an Aries man who won’t commit.
I know. I’ve been there with many of my clients dating Aries guys.
I remember a very close client, Sabrina, crying herself to sleep at night, worried that her Aries man would never commit to her…
She lost sleep, time, and even work hours, all because she couldn’t figure out how to capture his heart.
It was really hard to listen to and watch her go through all that.
But I knew how good he was for her, and I didn’t want her to give up on him.
Even when her friends were telling her to move on, I could see that he was the most incredible man she had ever met.
How could she just give up on that?
But it wasn’t easy.
It took a LOT of work.
She had to learn how to speak a different language… her Aries man’s love language!
And it worked!!!
So if you are ready to sleep like a baby…
Knowing your Aries man is MADLY in love with you…
And never feel anxious about him again…
Click here and learn to speak your Aries man’s love language.
Sending you love and light,
Your sister and relationship astrologer,
Anna Kovach
