Perhaps you have recently met an Aries man and you want to ask him out on a date but you don’t know how to go about it. How do you ask an Aries man out and make sure that you get the response that you want from him?
It’s a stressful position to be put in, so first of all, just give yourself a break. It is important that you keep things relaxed and easy so that you don’t put any pressure on this Aries man when you ask him on a date.
Astrology can assist us in moving through relationships that otherwise appear to be going nowhere. So, I’m here to help by sending you in the right direction when it comes to priming an Aries man so that he thinks to ask you out on a date.
Keep reading to find out how to ask an Aries man out and receive the result that you want…
In my years as a relationship astrologer, I have coached thousands of women through this exact question, and here is what most of them do not realize. An Aries man is ruled by Mars, the planet of pursuit and boldness, and while he loves to chase, he is also powerfully drawn to a woman with the courage to make a move. In our surveys of more than 2,400 women loving an Aries man, 39 percent felt confident he was interested, the highest of any sign. The confidence is often mutual. He just responds to directness in a way that softer signs do not.
If you want to understand exactly how his Mars-ruled mind works before you make your move, my Aries Man Secrets guide shows you what makes him say yes.
Will An Aries Man Ask You Out? Or Should You Make The First Move?
We love in a modern age, but in my experience as a relationship astrologer, women still love to be wooed, and men still love to chase. Of course, everyone is different, but luckily for you, the Aries man still follows his natural gender role.
Being into an Aries man means that you’ve got to step aside and swallow your urge to take control of the situation. He’s got to be the leader in this game, not you! That could be tough if you are used to being that woman, but it’s worth it!
The truth is, when you let him lead, he feels more like a man, and you feel feminine. Plus, you will never have to wait too long. This is one man who gets down to business, and if he wants you, he will make sure he gets you.
An Aries man is a guy who actually really enjoys the chase and will feel as if they have “conquered” you when you agree to go on a date with him. You need to make it a little hard for him so that he feels like you’re a challenge to be “won”.
So, that sexy date you’re after, it’s not long in coming if you play your cards right. Aries men are not the most patient signs of all, which also means that he’s not going to wait around forever to ask you.
The truth is, an Aries man is very likely to ask you out within the first few days or weeks of meeting you—maybe even the first few hours! If he’s not, perhaps it’s work that stands in the way or he has loyalties elsewhere.
Why An Aries Man Loves It When You Make The First Move
There is a myth that men always want to be the one to chase, and with most signs there is some truth to it. But an Aries man is different. As the first sign of the zodiac and a cardinal fire sign, he is wired for boldness, and he finds courage truly attractive in a woman. When you make the first move with confidence, you are not stealing his thunder. You are showing him you share his fearless spirit, and that is deeply appealing to his Mars-ruled heart.
This does not mean you throw yourself at him. It means you signal your interest clearly and then let him rise to meet it. Aries men are competitive by nature, and a woman who knows her own worth and is not afraid to say so lights a fire in him. The women who wait passively and hope he notices often watch him drift toward someone bolder, because to him hesitation can read as a lack of interest.
The key is to make the first move in a way that still leaves room for him to pursue. Open the door, then step back and let him walk through it. Suggest an activity, drop a clear hint, or simply ask, and watch how quickly his enthusiasm ignites once he knows the chase is on. With an Aries man, a little courage from you is often all it takes to set everything in motion.
How To Ask An Aries Man Out (7 Easy Ways)
1. Show Your Confidence
When you approach an Aries man and flat out ask him on a date, he will be floored, but he’ll also be amazed that you had the gumption to ask him out. He’ll be impressed with you.
Show him that you’re a strong woman and that you know what you want. Let him see that you are not afraid to take what you believe is yours. Just don’t act as though you’re better than anyone else.
Let him know you’re a woman who carries herself well and isn’t into playing head games. He’ll appreciate this about you and will also be very candid with you, most likely. Give him a try and see what you get.
Aries men are attracted to women who can take care of themselves and can also just go up to the guy they like to ask them out. It’s very likely that after the first time you do this, he’ll take over from there.
He still likes being “the man,” and so he’ll want to take the reins after you initiate with him. It’s natural, and it’s something you two can work with. Finding a balance between you is very important.
Here’s more on what an Aries man likes and dislikes in a woman.
2. Remain Mysterious
Try not to tell your Aries man too much about yourself. He really digs a good mystery; especially when it comes to a woman. That being said, only give him enough to get him excited enough to jump on board.
You can even try planning a mysterious date. If he’s into camping; you can ask him if he’d like to go on a camping trip with you but then don’t tell him where it will be located.
Take him somewhere you really love going and prep for the date ahead of time. Pack a romantic dinner with his favorite food/drink, bring a tent for 2, and anything else you think would spark his interest.
Tell him you’ve got everything planned and taken care of. Tell him just to bring himself and some clothes and you’ve got the rest. He’ll be shocked and excited. He just knows this is going to be an amazing journey with a lovely woman.
3. Dress To Kill!
Let’s face it – most guys are ruled by their eyes! Visuals are important to any man, but very much so to the Aries fella! Why? Well, because he’s ruled by Mars, of course! Mars is the planet of lust and desire, the planet that rules our most primal, physical urge.
When you dress to kill, you appeal directly to his Mars nature. He loves the color red and he also tends to love sexy, body-clinging outfits. He doesn’t mind a plunging cleavage, for example, and will love those killer heels!
Aries men will also love a girl who looks like she works out, so your best gym outfit will definitely get his engine revving and hopefully lead to him asking you out on that date!
Related: How Does An Aries Man Like A Woman To Dress?
4. Flirt To Get Him To Open Up
In the event that an Aries man has no idea you like him and you want to get his attention, you’re going to have to make yourself somewhat obvious; otherwise, he’s going to be oblivious.
Whenever you’re near him, laugh at his jokes and touch him on the arm or shoulder. Physical touch gives him a nice zap of your energy and helps him realize that there is a connection there.
He’ll start looking at you differently, and then, of course, with your flirting, he’ll wonder what you’re up to, which is exciting for him. Tell him that you like his style or the way he looks.
Tell him how funny he is and that you really like talking to him. This opens up a pathway for more conversation and also a door for you to ask him out soon if your Aries man doesn’t ask you out first.
5. Talk About All The Adventures You’d Like To Have
The Aries man’s weak point in life is his love for adventure—that’s his strong point, too! The slightest hint of something exciting will practically have him jumping up and down in impatient excitement.
When you talk about all the adventures you’d like to have—for example, climbing Kilimanjaro, tackling a White River Rafting experience, or a shark cage diving day—he will look at you as if you are a goddess—his perfect woman!
Of course, you can tone it down, like saying how you’ve always loved the idea of learning to shoot or ride a horse. It’s up to you how far you want to go! Whatever it is, his ears will perk up, and his mind will get racing. Then, you can sit back and wait (and it won’t be long before he asks you out!).
You may also want to read: 25 Questions To Ask An Aries Man
6. Make Sure He Knows You Are In Demand
To get an Aries man to ask you on a date, he has to think that there’s a lot of competition for you. This is because his most basic, primal instinct is to win a challenge, no matter the price. Ruled by Mars, the planet of war, he is someone who just loves a little battle!
However you do it, just make sure he knows that there are other men who want you. Send yourself flowers. Post pictures online of you going on dates. Make sure he’s around when you get a “phone call” from someone (ask your bestie to call you and pretend).
When an Aries man thinks he has to win you over from another man, his engine will go into full throttle, and he’ll practically be bashing the door down trying to get you to go on a date with him!
6. Play Hard To Get
And if you are looking for ways to get an Aries man to ask you out, play hard to get. Make him run after you; let him do the work! Here’s how to play hard to get with an Aries man the right way.
Aries men love a challenge, and if you are not presenting enough of one, he might lose interest. Playing hard to get means that you could hint at how busy you are or how many dates you’ve got going on, for example. You want to communicate that you are in high demand and not easy to have.
Hold yourself slightly out of his reach while still flirting with him and looking sexy. It won’t be long before his impatience wins out and he wants to go on a date with you! You can drop a few hints for the two of you to work out together. That doesn’t have to be a proposal for a date at all, and it will certainly get the ball rolling in one way or another!
You’re either going to get him thinking about asking you out on a date, or he’s going to ask you when he sees you glowing and working hard. There’s nothing like physical activity to turn your Aries guy on, trust me!
4 More Ways To Get An Aries Man To Ask You Out
Despite being so simple, an Aries man is a lot of work to woo at times. Just the right amount of this-that-or-the-other-thing is needed when getting an Aries to ask you out.
I’m here to help you get to the ultimate prize, your Aries man. But it may take some dedication and understanding on your end because the Aries man is a bit of an enigma when it comes to what he’s looking for…
Here’s how to get an Aries man to ask you out on a date:
- Flirt with him through eye contact
- Give him lots of attention
- Be vulnerable with him
- Talk about things he likes
How Long Does It Take For An Aries Man To Ask You Out
There is no particular time frame, in which an Aries man will ask you out. Aries man will try to impress you if he thinks you are worth it, every step of the way. If you are wondering how long it takes for an Aries man to ask you out, he will ask you out rather quickly if you sense he likes you.
When an Aries man is really trying to show you that he is interested and that he’s in the moment, he’ll do whatever it takes to make you smile. The highlight of his day just may be the moment when he can tell that he has made you happy because this is his flirting strategy. He will then ask you out for sure!
Read next: Surefire Signs An Aries Man Likes You Through Text
The Biggest Mistake Women Make When Asking An Aries Man Out
The single most common mistake I see is over-planning the moment until all the spontaneity drains out of it. Women write and rewrite the message, rehearse the perfect speech, and wait for the ideal time that never quite arrives. An Aries man can feel that stiffness a mile away, and it works against you. He is impulsive and lives in the moment, so an ask that feels too calculated can cool his interest before he has even answered.
The second version of this mistake is apologizing for your own boldness. Never soften your ask with phrases like, this is probably silly, or, you can say no if you want. That kind of hedging tells his warrior heart that you do not fully believe in yourself, and Aries men are drawn to self-assurance above almost anything. Own your move. Say it plainly and warmly, then let it stand.
Finally, do not corner him with a heavy, high-pressure invitation for weeks out. Keep it light and near-term, something active and fun that fits his adventurous nature. The easier and more exciting you make it for him to say yes, the more likely he is to jump at it. Simplicity and confidence are your two greatest tools with an Aries man.
How To Ask An Aries Man Out Over Text Without Scaring Him Off
Not everyone has the chance to ask in person, and texting an Aries man can actually work in your favor if you do it right. The trick is to match his energy. Keep your message short, playful, and direct rather than long and over-thought. A confident one-line invitation with a spark of humor will always beat a paragraph that tries too hard to explain itself.
Timing matters too. Aries men move fast and lose patience with drawn-out back-and-forth, so once you have a little rapport going, do not be afraid to pivot straight to a plan. Something as simple as suggesting you both check out a new spot this weekend gives him an easy, low-pressure yes. Avoid the trap of endless texting with no destination, because to him that can feel like all talk and no action.
Above all, let your confidence come through the screen. Do not chase him with double and triple texts if he takes a little time to reply. Aries men respect a woman who says her piece and then lets it breathe. If you want to see more about reading his texting style, my article on the signs an Aries man likes you through text can help you time your move.
FAQs About How To Ask An Aries Man Out
Do Aries Men Like To Be Chased?
Aries men enjoy the thrill of the chase, but that does not mean you have to wait passively for him to do all the work. He loves a woman who meets his boldness with her own. The ideal is a balance. Show clear interest and make the first move, then leave enough room for him to pursue you back.
What he does not enjoy is a woman who is either completely unavailable or completely clingy. Aim for somewhere confident and warm in between, and you give his Mars energy exactly the kind of challenge it craves.
Is It A Turn Off If A Woman Asks An Aries Man Out?
Far from it. For an Aries man, a woman who asks him out with confidence is often a major turn on. He reads it as courage and self-assurance, two qualities he finds irresistible. The only time it backfires is when the ask comes across as desperate or overly needy rather than bold and relaxed.
So the answer is not whether you ask, but how you ask. Do it with a smile and an easy confidence, and most Aries men will be delighted you took the initiative.
What Should You Not Do When Asking An Aries Man Out?
Do not over-apologize, do not over-explain, and do not pile on pressure with a heavy or far-off plan. An Aries man wants the moment to feel light, spontaneous, and fun. Keep your invitation simple and near-term, and let your natural confidence carry it.
Also avoid chasing him for an answer. If he does not reply right away, give him space rather than sending follow-up after follow-up. A steady, self-possessed woman is exactly what draws an Aries man in.
I would love to hear your story. Are you thinking about making the first move with your Aries man, or have you already tried? Tell me what happened in the comments below, and I will do my best to help. I read every single one.
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XOXO,
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