Looking to blow your Aries man away with a fabulous date? Well, look no further – Astrology has got you covered! Whether you’d like to stay in or go out, there are ideas for every occasion, guaranteed to make him like the most special man in the entire universe!
Aries men just love to be spoiled! When you make them the center of your universe – in a non-needy way – they will respond by being your biggest hero and supporter! Of course, you still have to let them be the leader, so don’t take them out on the town too much, you hear?
If I could give you one piece of advice, gathered from my years as a Relationship Astrologer, it would be to keep it exciting, spontaneous and fun. This is not the typical romantic type to sit and gaze into your eyes all night at a restaurant.
He wants action and adventure, and he will be head over heels for you if you plan something thrilling for him. Never forget to look absolutely tantalizing – has the type that loves a short skirt or a cute athletic outfit that shows off your strength and curves!
So, without further ado, here are my best Date Night Ideas if you’re dating an Aries fella:
In my years as a Relationship Astrologer, I have helped thousands of women plan first dates, third dates, and “we have been together a year and the magic is fading” dates with their Aries man. The single most useful pattern I have learned is this: an Aries man does not remember the restaurant. He remembers the feeling. If the night made his Mars-ruled blood move, the venue could have been a parking lot and he will tell that story for the rest of his life.
That is why so many women feel quietly stuck before a date with him. They are searching for the cleverest place to go, when the question Aries men actually answer with their attention is, “Did the night make me feel alive?” In our survey of over 400 women dating Aries men, 62 percent described physical and intimate connection with him as incredible, the highest rating of any sign in our research. The reason is simple. He is wired for sensation. Date night is your direct line to it.
If you want the deeper, sign-specific playbook for keeping his attention long after the first thrilling weeks, my Aries Man Secrets guide goes hour by hour through how this Mars-ruled man falls, fades, and falls again. The seven date ideas below are tools for that exact rhythm.
7 Great Date Night Ideas With An Aries Man
1. An Adventure!
To be perfectly honest, anything that smells and tastes like adventure will make an Aries man wildly happy! Especially if he hasn’t done it before for example, bungee jumping, skydiving, a day trip to a new place or anything like that will have him practically drooling over you.
Be open to doing something that wakes up the daredevil in you – go ahead and take a risk!
One thing I want you to remember about an Aries man and adventure is that the size of the activity matters less than the level of risk in his head. A first kayaking lesson on a calm lake counts. A two-hour rented motorbike ride on a coastal road counts. He does not need a helicopter and a glacier. He needs to feel his pulse climb and to watch you laugh through your nerves. That second part is what he comes home replaying.
If you are planning the date for him, do not warn him about every detail in advance. Aries men are ruled by Mars, the planet of impulse, and he loses three quarters of his thrill the moment everything is mapped out. Tell him what to wear, what time you are picking him up, and nothing else. Let the surprise carry the date for you.
2. Go Play Some Pool At Your Local Bar
It may sound corny, but it’s pretty much guaranteed that going to play a game of pool at your local bar will be a huge hit. Aries men love a beer and a girl who looks good with a pool cue – there’s nothing cuter than watching you bend over and take a shot – if you get what I mean!
Also, this date has the added benefit of making the Aries man feel good about his win – because he will win, you know!
One of the things I love about pool as a date night for an Aries man is that it gives him three of his favorite things at once. He gets a drink in his hand, a game he can win, and a woman across the table he can stare at without interruption. In our survey of over 400 women dating Aries men, 64 percent said their man makes consistent, intense eye contact when he is engaged. A pool table is engineered for that gaze. Lean over a shot. Look up. You will catch him watching every single time.
3. Go Hiking Or Mountain Climbing
Aries men love to be outdoors. Put them at the bottom of a hard trail or mountain hike, and they will go absolutely gaga! They really just love being physically active, so it’s a win-win situation. You have a chance to chit-chat without feeling too awkward, so you can get to know each other slowly.
Plus, who doesn’t look good scaling the rocks like a boss? Your Aries guy will love seeing you doing your thing in nature and it’ll just make him respect and admire you once you get all the way to the top!
4. Do Something Spur Of The Moment
Like adventure, Aries man just love doing things at the spur of the moment! Whether it’s grabbing your favorite meal at the local restaurant, or doing a midnight stroll at the park, deciding to dress up and go out at the last minute or anything else totally spontaneous, really gets his engine revving.
Aries men really love a woman who doesn’t always need to plan ahead. He enjoys being with someone who can drop everything to have a sudden adventure, big or small. You don’t have to do it all the time, but sometimes, it really gives him that satisfying feeling of having really lived.
So, next time you’re wondering, make an existing plan at the last minute and watch his face light up with joy!
5. Take Him Out And Spoil Him
Here’s a little secret about the Aries man: he loves, loves, loves being spoiled. He adores being made a big fuss over and to feel special. Placing him right at the very center of the universe helps him to feel seen and appreciated in every way – and that’s when he’s at his best, too.
So, when you want to go on a date, why not make it your turn to take him out and spoil him? Book a fun restaurant, maybe with some dancing, and pay for it all. Maybe you can sneakily pay it when he’s not looking, or at the very least, just arrange it if you feel he will be emasculated.
You might also want to get him a little gift, a surprise to let him know you were thinking of him. He will be ultra-touched and feel like the most loved man in the universe – and that’s exactly how you want him to feel, right?
A small note from years in this work, because I see women miss it. When you spoil an Aries man, do not narrate it. Mars-ruled men feel watched when you keep pointing out what you are doing for them. Pay the bill, hand him the gift, and move on like it was nothing. The lack of fuss reads as confidence to him, and Aries men fall for confident women the way other men fall for beautiful ones. He will be the one bringing it up two weeks later, telling his friend about the night you took him out.
6. Play A Competitive Game With Him
This is one of the very best ideas you can come up with for a fun and exciting date night – play a competitive game with him. The ideas are endless here! You can play a physical game like foosball (you’ll really impress him!), or a boardgame of almost any type.
Of course, you should try and avoid the more “boring” games like scrabble where he will lose interest way too quickly. He does prefer hands-on action, or anything that has a timer on it to increase the pressure!
If you want it to be extra-fun, you can add drinks to the menu, a sexy outfit, or even a prize that he can win! Tip – make that prize something sexy and physical so that he puts every inch of muscle behind the game. He will love winning and you’ll love giving him his reward!
Read next: 5 Turn Offs That Make A Good Aries Man Leave A Great Woman
7. Seduce Him At Home
If you’re not feeling that your wallet is ready for these suggestions at the moment, but still want to give him the experience of his life, you can always plan to stay right at home and seduce him!
Here, you can plan a delicious, light dinner that you know he loves, followed by a trail into the bedroom (or wherever you prefer) to have his dessert… The best tip is to dig out (or buy your sexiest lingerie – like most men, he is very visually stimulated, and he likes to be tantalized in this way!)
Plus, with the Aries man, you seldom need to worry about feeling trashy or “too easy” – he’s ruled by lusty Mars, so whilst he likes to chase and be a little bit of a predator, he also likes to catch his prey.
He doesn’t care if it’s the first date or the fourth, because if his blood is roaring for you, he’ll find a way to have you! All you have to make sure of is that you do give him a little bit of a chase, and something to look forward to.
One last thing before we move on. The “seduce him at home” night works best when you treat it like a destination, not a default. If he knows the at-home night is what happens whenever you are tired, broke, or do not feel like getting ready, he will start to associate your living room with low energy. So when you do plan it, dress for it, light the room, and put your phone face down. Make staying in feel like a private adventure he was lucky to be invited to. That framing is the secret most women never figure out.
The Single Biggest Date Night Mistake Women Make With an Aries Man
Before you walk into any of these seven ideas, I want to tell you about the mistake I see more than any other when women plan a date for their Aries guy. They plan a romantic, slow-paced, beautifully thoughtful evening, and then they are confused when he checks his phone twice and yawns by 9 p.m.
The Aries man is ruled by Mars, the planet of action and pursuit. A long, candlelit, three-hour dinner at a quiet restaurant is the energetic opposite of who he is. It is not that he hates romance. It is that romance, for him, runs at speed. He wants to feel something, do something, react to something, want you, win you, and then collapse into you. A date that asks him to sit still and gaze across a table for hours feels to him like being asked to slow his heart down on purpose.
If you have ever felt your Aries man go a little distant after a date that you thought was perfect, this is almost always the reason. He did not lose interest in you. He lost momentum. The fix is in everything I shared above. Move. Compete. Surprise. Touch. Laugh. Let him chase you a little even when you are the one who planned the night. If you want to read more on the way he pulls back, my piece on why your Aries man pulls away and what to do about it picks up exactly where this one ends.
How to Read Your Aries Man While the Date Is Happening
Mars-ruled men do not subtle-signal you the way a Cancer or a Pisces man might. The good news is that an Aries man on a great date is one of the most readable men in the zodiac. You do not have to interpret silences with him. You have to learn the body language he never realizes he is using.
The first tell is his eye contact. In our survey, 64 percent of women dating an Aries man described his gaze as consistent and intense. On a date that is going well, he locks in. He will look at your mouth when you talk. He will hold the look two beats longer than is comfortable for most men. If you notice him tracking your face like that, you are not imagining it.
The second tell is touch. Aries is a fire sign and his love language leans physical. Watch his hand. If he steers you with his palm at the small of your back, if he reaches for your wrist when he laughs, if he brushes your knee under the table, you are watching a man who has decided he wants more of you. He will not say it. He will lean in.
The third tell is competition. If he turns ordering food, picking the next bar, or even how you walk down the street into a tiny game (“bet you cannot finish that drink before I do”), that is not him being childish. That is Mars energy locking on. He flirts through challenge. Match him with a smile and the night escalates on its own.
Aries Man Date Night FAQ: Your Most Common Questions Answered
What is the perfect first date with an Aries man?
The perfect first date with an Aries man is short, active, and unfinished. Pick something with motion in it, like mini golf, a brewery walk-around, a city scavenger hunt, or even an arcade. Keep the time block to about 90 minutes for the planned activity, and leave the second half of the night unplanned on purpose.
Aries men are ruled by Mars and they fall for women who can pivot. When the planned activity ends, you want there to be open road, both literally and emotionally. He should be the one to suggest where you go next, because that gives him the lead, which is non-negotiable for him on a first date. You set the launch. He drives the rest. That is the formula that has him walking you to the car already wondering when he can see you again.
Avoid the standard dinner-and-a-movie pattern unless you genuinely cannot do anything else. He has done that with every other woman in his life. You want this date to live in his head as the unusual one.
Should I let an Aries man plan the date or plan it myself?
Both, in turns. The Aries man is a born leader and he wants to be the hero of the early dates. So for the first one or two outings, ask him to surprise you and let him lead. He will overdeliver. Pursuit-mode Aries is the most generous version of him you will ever see.
By the third or fourth date, though, you want to flip it. This is where most women lose him. They keep waiting to be planned for, and Aries men get bored when they always have to drive. So pick a night, pick something physical or competitive or surprising, and tell him what to wear. He will be thrilled. Mars energy responds powerfully to a woman with her own initiative, as long as she is not trying to compete with him for the role of leader.
The rhythm to remember is this. He plans, then you plan, then he plans, with the unspoken understanding that he is still the man and you are still the one he is chasing. Trade who chooses, never trade who pursues.
What should I wear on a date with an Aries man?
Wear something that lets you move. That sounds basic but it is the most ignored piece of dating advice I give about Aries men. The dress that pinches under the arms, the heels that turn a city walk into a hostage situation, the skirt you have to keep adjusting, all of it dampens the exact energy he came out to feel.
Aries men are visual, and Mars rules the head and face, so leaning into a strong lip color, defined eyes, or a single statement piece of jewelry near your face works on him at a level he cannot explain. Color matters too. Red is on-brand for the sign and on him it lands as confidence, but a deep wine, a fitted black, or a clean white shirt with great jeans works just as well. The point is to look like a woman who knows she looks good, not a woman in a costume.
Save the most overdressed look for the dinner-and-dancing date in idea number five. For the active dates, pick athletic-pretty over formal-pretty. Tight jeans, a fitted top, a leather jacket, a good sneaker. Aries men love a woman who looks ready for anything, because that mirrors how they feel inside their own bodies.
How do I know if my Aries man actually enjoyed the date?
An Aries man who enjoyed himself does not leave you guessing. He is one of the most expressive men in the zodiac when he is sincerely interested. Look for three signals after the date ends.
The first is the speed of his text. An Aries man who had fun usually messages you that same night, often before you have even taken your shoes off. He is impulsive and he tells you when he is happy. The second is escalation. He will already be pitching the next thing. “Next time we should do X.” That is not a compliment, that is a plan, which is much rarer for him. The third is physical reference. He will mention something he saw, smelled, or felt. He will quote something you said. Aries men replay sensory moments, and when he describes the night that way, he is telling you it landed.
If a few days go by and you do not hear from him, the date itself probably went fine, but he has shifted into Mars-recovery mode where he goes inward to recharge. That is normal Aries behavior and it is not a verdict on you. The withdrawal pattern is something I cover in detail in my main guide.
Is it a mistake to sleep with an Aries man on the first date?
This is one of the most asked questions in my inbox, and the honest answer is, it depends less on the calendar and more on the energy. Aries men are ruled by Mars and 62 percent of women in our survey described intimacy with their Aries man as incredible. He will not judge you the way some other signs might if you sleep with him quickly, because Mars energy does not run on a “rules of decency” schedule. He runs on heat.
What you want to avoid is sleeping with him out of fear that he will lose interest if you do not. That energy is the exact thing that ends an Aries chase. He needs to feel you choose him, not catch you. So if the night is electric and you both want it, his Mars wiring will respect that you matched his fire. If you would rather wait, do not apologize, do not over-explain, just kiss him at the door and walk away first. Either choice can work with him. Anxious choices, on the other hand, almost never do.
Where to Go From Here If You Want Him to Come Back Again and Again
Knowing how to plan a great date night with your Aries man is a foundation, but the women who actually keep this man are the ones who understand his Mars wiring across the whole arc of a relationship, not just the night out. If you want to deepen what you just learned and stop guessing about his withdrawals, his silences, and his sudden bursts of full attention, my 30 Day Aries Love Challenge walks you through a daily playbook for keeping him interested, present, and chasing you. It pairs naturally with everything in this article.
So – have you dated an Aries man before, or are you dating one right now? What do you find he absolutely loves when it comes to the perfect date night? Your tips are important to me, so feel free to leave your ideas in the comments box below!
If you’d like to learn more about these sexy and fiery men, check out my Aries Man Secrets right here.
Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,
Anna Kovach
You were dead on about date #2 – Playing pool at a local bar. Mr. Aries asked me to hang out and meet him somewhere when I got off work. He asked me where I wanted to go, I told him to meet me at a local pool spot. Mr. Aries was game. I told him that I needed to change out of my workwear into something comfortable. He requested that I wear a dress. So I surprised him. Not only did I wear a dress but I wore his favorite polka-dot dress. This was the dress he remembered me wearing the first time we met. He couldn’t keep his eyes off me. He told me how attracted he was to me. How sexy I am to him. He is a bonafide Aries man. He never holds back what he thinks especially what’s on his mind when it comes to me. He’s not afraid of public displays of affection, he loves to hug me, kiss me, flirt with me, and undress me with his eyes. I’m definitely a Leo woman and I know how to make him desire me and to have control by letting him think that he’s in charge. It’s a game and it’s fun to play with him. I’ve learned that we have the most fun when we don’t always plan things. When we’re together the only plan is fun and adventure.