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5 Turn Offs That Make A Good Aries Man Leave A Great Woman

You’re a wonderfully passionate woman who easily keeps up with your Aries man. So, what is it that is making him pull back or go cold? There has to be something that’s made him call it quits!

To find out what exactly a great woman can do that would turn an Aries man off and make him leave; you’re going to want to keep reading this article. It will tell you exactly what five turn offs that make a good Aries man leave.

5 Turn Offs That Make A Good Aries Man Leave A Great Woman

1. Nagging & Negativity

Turn-Offs For an Aries Man - Nagging & Negativity

Let’s get right into it –Aries men do not like being told what to do, when to do it, or how to do it. He also doesn’t like being reminded that he didn’t do something and still needs to. It’s enough to remind him once (maybe!).

What happens if you’ve asked and he still hasn’t done it, you can simply very nicely say “I asked you to do this, I really need it done and would appreciate it greatly.” 

You’re then asking him nicely. If you go at him with “I told you before to do this and now it’s still not done, blah, blah, blah.” See the difference here? It’s a huge one.

He will respond nicely to one approach and the other will piss him off. Your Aries will likely respond with a negative comeback or call you a name that is not so nice. He can be as equally nasty! 

An Aries man like a little boy that doesn’t want to be told anything. Asking him with some sugar on top will get you more favors than chastising him. I know, it’s a pain, but asking nicely works far better. 

Another red flag is talking negatively about things. If you’re being negative more than positive, it will add up and take its toll on him. He will add it all up and decide you’re just a negative person in general (even if that’s not the case!).

This will make him want to leave you, even if you’re doing everything else right. He can only take so much, so it’s best to reflect on your behavior.

If you’re being negative all the time, it’s time for you take personal inventory and find out why so you can correct it. It will be healthier for you and for him, as well as the relationship. 

2. Becoming Needy Or Clingy

In the beginning when the Aries man fell in love with you he probably didn’t mind when you needed his help with odds and ends. He didn’t mind being the hero in your life. 

Aries man doesn’t mind helping his woman, but he does have a limit. He wants you to learn how to be self-sufficient as well. He’s not going to do everything for you.

If you’ve been pretty good so far but suddenly decide that you need more from him, more time, or want him to stay home all the time then you may be disappointed.

When you two got together, you knew what type of guy he was and that he likes to be active, fit, and involved. If you are now trying to change him into being a homebody, it’s not going to happen.

Even if you’re the best and most loving person he’s ever known, keeping him home, or needing him too much will cause him to want to let go of you. He absolutely cannot be changed and won’t allow anyone to do otherwise.

He doesn’t like clingy women and even if he really loves you, you have to be able to do things on your own. Go out with your friends, hang out with your family, and don’t require his time so often.

This is fixable, so if you recognize that you’re making this kind of mistake with him, you can change it and make sure that it doesn’t make him want to drop you and move on. And if you find that you do need someone who is going to be there for you at all times – then maybe an Aries is not the guy for you.

3. Secrets & Omission

Biggest Turn Offs For Aries Man - 3. Secrets & Omission

You may be a completely harmless woman who is faithful to the end, but if you constantly keep small secrets from him or omit the truth of a situation, he will get tired of it and conclude that you are dishonest.

If he suspects you in the least of being unfaithful or lying to him then there is no amount of greatness you can have that will make him change his mind. You have to always be truthful with him, even if it’s something he won’t like.

He will get mad or upset, but at least he’ll have the truth and can get over it. If he thinks you are keeping things from him, he will believe he cannot trust you and once that trust is gone, it’s gone forever.

Telling him half-truths doesn’t work either. Tell him the full thing or don’t do what you were planning. See what I mean? If you’re going out with friends and an ex will be there, you have to tell him the truth.

Do not say you’re going to hang out with friends and that it’s no big deal. If he finds out that ex was there and you didn’t tell him, guess who’s a liar? You! Great woman or not, this won’t go over well at all.

Tell him the honest truth: “Hey babe, I’m going out with my friends. My ex is a mutual friend so he will be there as well but don’t worry, I’ll check in with you throughout the night.” 

See how that’s done? He may not like the reality, but it’s better he knows so that someone else doesn’t spill the beans or he shows up and sees for himself. If he knows he can be upset but he has to trust you. You telling him the truth makes him trust you.

4. Jealous Behavior

Biggest Turn Offs for Aries Man Jealous Behavior

Some say this is a double standard for the Aries man. Aries men are often jealous and possessive. However; he doesn’t like jealous behavior from his woman. I know that doesn’t sound fair but that’s how he operates.

Next time he says something about someone you are talking to in jealousy, you can gently remind him how you’re not acting jealous about the women he talks to on social media.

There has to be trust coming from both ends, or this will not work. I can honestly tell you though, that if you talk to other guys even in friendship, he will get jealous. He will have to learn to get used to who you are and that he can trust you.

Until he learns that, you have to be kind to him and try not to talk to too many guys. Let him see what you’re posting or saying. You don’t have to hand him your phone or constantly make sure he sees everything.

Just sometimes it’s healthy to let him look over your shoulder while you’re posting or commenting. If he’s alright with what he sees on the screen, he’ll feel comfortable and trusting. 

Never break his trust though, and do NOT complain about his phone time. If he’s laughing and texting, leave it be. If you trust him, you cannot act like a jealous girlfriend. 

A good Aries man will leave a great woman if she cannot trust him and is constantly accusing him of things he isn’t doing. No one likes to be treated that way, and don’t let him do it to you either! 

Read next: 5 Tips for a Successful Date With an Aries Man

5. On-the-Go to Couch Potato

It’s strange to think that a man would drop you simply because you used to be active and now you’re a loafer who prefers nights in watching movies. He will see this as you changing your personality that he fell in love with.

It doesn’t matter how clean you are, how honest you are, and how loving you can be. If you become inactive or stop doing the stuff you love doing, he’ll see this as lazy and he will want to end it with you. 

Unless he becomes a couch potato with you, he will want you to be active, exercise, do stuff, and stay on the go. He’s high energy and when he met you, you were doing more than you are now.

Yes, he has expectations of you. It may not be right, but it’s how he thinks and feels. He doesn’t want a woman who does the bare minimum in life. He wants a career woman that also has hobbies on the side.

He’s asking a lot, yes. That’s Aries man for you though. If you don’t think you can toe the line with him then maybe he’s not the right guy for you. What is right for you? What do you want? 

Aries men are high energy. Speaking of such, did you know that delicious, funny, and talented James Franco is an Aries? It’s no wonder he’s so involved in everything he does. 

Did you lose a good Aries man even though you were great to him? Why did he break it off? What happened? Tell me about it! 

Share your story (or situation) with our community in the comment section below (don’t worry, it’s anonymous).

And if you’re curious to learn more about the fiery Aries man, check out my blog here to find out more juicy secrets: Aries Man Secrets.

Wishing you all the luck of the universe.

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach

4 thoughts on “5 Turn Offs That Make A Good Aries Man Leave A Great Woman

  1. Hi Anna.

    I’ve been reading this article and other materials I’ve received on the e-mails because I had a great Aries in my life and I want him back. There is a spark that reignites each time I see him, even though he doesn’t see me. I wish I knew all this information you shared back when we we’re dating. We were together for 4 months with ups and downs when he decided to share with me his confusion about whether to continue our relationship or not. The next day he told me that he doesn’t share the same ideas about relationships as the majority of people and that he has lost his interest in me during the time.
    To make the story more clear to follow I will say I’m a Leo with Libra ascendent and his Aries. At first he was more enthusiastic about us dating than I was. My first impression was that he is a kind person, a little bit shy and very calm and had a sense of humour that I liked. The following dates were about to reveal his wild side. I enjoyed being chased but also to chase myself a little bit. At firs we’ve seen each other 2 times a week ,then our working schedule would be opposite free time and became harder to date. I thought we had a great chemistry and i would be more that just a woman he wanted for fun and sex and he was looking for a relationship.

    He was great at creating passional moments but I lacked experience and haven’t felt comfortable to go all the way and tried to have sex different places but i panicked.I didnt know how to tell him this. We almost break up 2 months and a half when he dissapeared for 3 days.Although we were talking he didn’t tell me he was planning to spend some time on his own with his thoughts. I got scared he would leave and I’ve just started to develop feelings about him. He was thinking to end things and I’ve asked for a discussion. often he said to me that there is something he doesn’t feel right to him. That something was missing between us.I wish I knew how to react like a strong woman and tell him, but i can be really shy in some situations. I’ve always asked myself if he was the right man for me.

    The split came after we went on a holiday and we had 4 full day&night spent together. I thought it was a little too much for him because he is more independent guy and that he was not ready for a relationship as the 4 month spent together was really close and many people believe that this is a safe time to pull away from a relationship without a great damage for the other person. I confessed my feelings about him while he was pulling away and he didn’t liked it. Obviouslly it was a mistake because he already took the decision.

    I was suffering but told him I respect his decision although I didn’t feel the same about the situation and I was not willing to give up. We had no contact for 2 weeks, after we had exchanged some words. we tried to keep it friendly. After almost 2 months we haven’t seen each other he contacted me asking me how I am doing, being friendly but nothing else.just using a cute name he had given me.After that I’ve contacted him a few times short funny message just to see if he was willing to develop more. He would reply and we’ve kept doing this until one day he agreed to meet up, but never set for a place and day for our meeting.. When I asked if he is still interested he pulled away.

    I thought i would get over him and continued my own things. I suspected he started dating someone else. He told me in the past he gets bored easily and I was ok with him dating someone else if that was the way he needed to figure out we were right for each other and came back after and start a new fresh beginning. I was still for 2 months but my thoughts kept wondering about him. I even said happy birthday on him with a cute card to show him I still cared about him. He thanked politely and I was determined to le it go…But after another months I found myself asking him out and confessing I miss him. His answer was “I’m sorry I can’t date you for the moment” and asked for specific information about “for the moment” because i thought he was out of the city and I asked if it was because he dated another woman? He got angry and it was clear that he didn’t want to talk about the subject. “that for the moment” kept me waiting to change his mind and and contact me to see each other .

    Since our break up I’ve found out many new information about relationships and determined me to learn more about them to get a better inside about myself. So being in a relationship with him I turned into something positive.

    Meanwhile I’ve come out that I have this pattern in my behaviour when someone I’ve loved pulls away I’m willing to work harder to give that extra mile even that the other person may not share the same. I’ve done this 2 times.The Aries is my only past relationship I’ve wanted to revisit over the time. I know that my Aries should’ve done the first step because he is inloved with the thrill of chasing and he was ht eone that wanted to go separte ways but I also know that I’ve never let him see me completely vulnerable. To share my fears with him. I fear that I never do the right choice, or how to recognise the love of my life, probably my Libra influention has something to do about it.

    The other days I’ve seen him driving. I still find myself smiling when I see him and the spark is also there after all this time.. I was thinking to contact him but I also seen him in a picture with a woman that could have been his girlfriend. I have recognised her from facebook last year.It was taken on a private event with his closest friends. I know he presents his new date with his friends only when he thinks that there is something serious. That’s how I have met them back in the past. This picture made me pull back because I don’t want to blow all my chances with my Aries. What would be the best approach to make my Aries know my deepest thoughts in my case?
    I really enjoyed the time spent with him an his presence inspired me to be a better self. In the past I thought we would be together and I could imagine myself with him having kids and tell stories about how we met. I’m afraid that if I would go the wrong path to share my thoughts with him will be another rejection but I also need to let him know.

    I”ve found the courage to write all this because you have the best description about the Aries man being hot and cold. I’ve related totally with how you described the scenario, because that’s how the things happened and I don’t know how to resolve this on my own. I may have a wrong aprroach on the situation. Could you give me a piece of advice,please?

    Thank you for your patience and time and all the information shared.

    Best wishes,

    1. Hi Raluca!

      Wow! Thank you for sharing your story and personal insight. I always appreciate write ins. Since you found courage to share with me, think you will need to do the same with him otherwise he’s not going to get his head out of his rear. If you don’t tell him, I’m afraid not much will change and you won’t experience all the good that you can. Be bold and tell him exactly what is what. If he cares for you the way you do for him, he will pick up the pace and he will make important changes otherwise he’s going to keep going down the wrong path and you’ll keep questioning yourself. If you need more info, check out my book Aries Man Secrets. Wishing you the best!

  2. Hi Anna,

    My Aries and I dated for 4 months. It was so beautiful and intimate. Suddenly, after 4 months he said he needed to take a break as everything is going too fast.

    However, we still keep contact like sending each other good morning messages etc. without a fail.

    It’s been 6 months now since we’ve been in this weird virtual relationship and recently he was celebrating his birthday which he involved me every step of way with the plannings and sought my advice and suggestions. However, I was not invited to the party and ironically this didn’t pain me a bit.

    I suggested that we have our own celebration (dinner)just the 2 of us and he welcomed the idea.I am planning to ask him during the dinner if he still wants me. Do you think is a good idea ?

    He still calls me his babe, but this distance is killing me. I’m not sure if I should approach him to ask when is the break gonna end as it looks like it ain’t gonna end when he is still keeping me closer.

    I’ve tried to detach by not being the first to message him, and he complaint that if he doesn’t message him I wouldn’t. Now I try to message him whenever I can but moderately. Not sure what he wants.

    How do I break this distance/ ice or break?

    1. Hi Mash,

      I would not recommend asking him about it just yet. Wait a bit longer. We have no idea how long this pandemic stuff will last and when everyone will be able to be free to go out again. If he’s still calling you his babe then I wouldn’t worry too terribly much. At least he’s still connected to you. Text him like normal. I think things are alright for you two. Distance doesn’t have to be forever. Give him maybe another month and then approach it by saying “this distance thing sucks, I want to be in your arms” and see what he says. If you need more pointers, you should check out my books on Aries Man Secrets.

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