So many people have been married before—but dating someone who has doesn’t have to be disheartening. If you have the knowledge of Astrology behind you, dating a divorced man can be a wonderful experience. Here’s what you need to know about dating a divorced Aries man!
If you’re dating a divorced Aries man or are considering it, you want to go into it with your eyes open. Luckily, Astrology has plenty to teach us about how each sign may be affected by divorce.
Many of my clients come to me asking if it’s possible to have a second chance at love. After the first time, it’s sometimes hard to believe that we can experience or even deserve a second chance. But answer is: of course it’s possible!
Still, it’s tough when you have your eye on a man who’s carrying baggage. Most of us have had our wounds when it comes to love, yet at the same time, the human spirit is built to always hope for a new start!
So, now you’ve met a fiery, passionate Aries man—who happens to be divorced. You likely want to avoid making the same mistakes that were made in his previous marriage. You want to be different for him and with him.
There’s nothing quite like being loved by an Aries. When they’re truly in love, they are loyal, masculine, powerful, ambitious, warm, and loving. When they’re on the fence, they can be hurtful, self-involved players. So what can you expect when dating a divorced Aries man? This article will help you unravel it all—starting with the basics.
The Aries Man in Love
As a fire sign, Aries is warm, loyal, affectionate, and incredibly passionate! Being loved by an Aries man is like standing next to a roaring hearth fire—you feel warmed up from the inside with his attention.
And when an Aries man falls, he falls hard and fast! He will chase you down, wherever you go—there most likely will be no doubt in your mind of his interest in you. Aries men absolutely adore a chase, as well, so the more you hold back (within reason), the more he wants you.
The Aries man is all or nothing, and even when he’s divorced, he does bounce back and believe in love again—ruled by the planet Mars, these men are never ones to stay down for long. He’s also a romantic at heart. He believes in true love, and even when he’s been through hard times, he still holds those ideals.
Aries men are innocent in love. They act first, think later, so even when they make mistakes, they’re usually without any malice. He may be friendly with his ex, too, so do your best not to be jealous!
What an Aries Man Wants in a Partner for Life
What’s going to make him want to commit to you or marry you, after he’s been through a divorce? And can you be a better wife or life partner to him than his previous partner? These questions are likely on your mind, so let’s explore what an Aries man wants in a woman before he commits to her or gives her his heart.
Excitement
This first sign of the Zodiac wants life with you to be exciting and full of adventure. Life on the couch watching Netflix is not for him.
No, this man wants to travel, get sweaty, and explore the world with his sweetheart. If you’re the type of woman that isn’t looking to bring excitement into your life, then perhaps it’s a good time to review and see if you are willing to make those changes. These men are easily bored by the humdrum!
Honesty
The typical Aries man is extremely honest and direct—even brutally so at times. He will expect the same level of honesty from you, and woe betide you if you lie to him!
He will lose a lot of his trust if you are deceptive in any way, so strive to be authentic—he will appreciate and adore you for that.
He may sometimes take what you say personally, but at the end of the day, he would rather hear your truth than for you to dance around a tricky subject. If you’re mad, tell him. If you want something, ask for it. There’s no need for games with an Aries man!
Passion
Being a fire sign, Aries men live for passion! This includes physical passion, of course, and most Aries men cannot live without some real chemistry between themselves and their partners.
Make an effort to seduce him and stoke his libido—he wants his woman to bring on the sex appeal! Wear tracksuits when you must, but don’t forget to dress up, throw on a bit of makeup, and show him your passionate side as often as you can!
Ambition & Drive
Even though Aries men do love to come to the rescue and take care of their ladies, they also are very attracted to ambition in a woman. They want to have at their side a woman who has her own goals and her own dreams, who takes the bull by the horns.
Of course, he will compete with you, and it’s best to let him at least think he’s winning most of the time when the stakes are low.
Assertiveness
Being ruled by the planet Mars makes an Aries man eager and open to engaging in conflict. He’s good at standing up for himself, and he will go on the defensive when he thinks you are attacking him.
However, he expects you to assert yourself too—if you’re a doormat, meekly agreeing with everything he says, it’ll simply make him feel like you don’t have a backbone.
Don’t be scared to stand up for yourself! This extends to you being assertive in other ways, too—at work, with your own friends, or in any other way. He loves a warrior woman!
A Challenge
Aries men love a challenge. So, don’t worry too much if someone has called you “difficult” or “complex.” The chances are that he will have the energy to keep up.
He wants you to let him run after you a little and keep him on his toes. This keeps him coming back for more. Of course, if you’re constantly pushing him away or playing emotional games, he will run a mile. It’s all about balance.
7 Tips for Gaining a Divorced Aries Man’s Love—and Keeping It for Good!
Aries men who are fresh from a divorce tend to be quite downhearted and defeated. They may have fought for years, finding it very hard to give up—after all, they hate “failing.”
However, if it’s been some time, he’s probably bounced back, albeit with a slightly damaged sense of trust. An Aries man’s heart is like a child’s—they’re usually on the side of trusting, open, and idealistic.
He really does believe in happily ever after, which is something you’ve got working for you! So, how can you gain an Aries man’s love? Here are seven handy tips from the stars!
1. Never Rush Him
Chances are you won’t need to, anyway. An Aries man moves at the speed of lightning, and he will likely end up rushing you.
But if you push him into a corner and make demands on him too soon, he will pull back. Give it a few months at least before you bring up any questions of commitment. Just have fun in the beginning and let it happen organically.
2. Let Take the Lead
Not just in terms of commitment—let your Aries man take the lead most all things.
He is a born leader, and he wants to be the one in charge in a lot of situations. While he isn’t attracted to a wallflower (remember, he likes assertive women), he does appreciate a woman who can relinquish control sometimes and allow him to step into the lead role.
3. Give Him Plenty of Attention
Aries man is symbolically represented in Astrology by the infant. And, like all babies, they need a lot of attention!
If he’s calling you, answer. When he comes over, give him a big hug and kiss hello. Ask him how his day was. Make him number one when you’re together. He will flourish under that warm care.
That doesn’t mean you should neglect yourself and your own need for attention—he will give just as much back to you!
4. …But Also Be Independent
Showering him with attention is not to be confused with acting clingy or needy. Don’t make the mistake of hanging over his shoulder ever moment of the day, in person or via phone.
Let him know you have a life, friends, interests, goals, and tastes of your own that have nothing to do with him.
This will make him want to chase you and make you his. He might pout sometimes if you have plans and can’t see him, but he’ll never truly want you to give up what’s important to you. He loves your independent nature and ability to stand on your own two feet.
5. Show Him You Can Be Trusted
A divorced Aries man may have a bruised heart, and he may feel a little suspicious of a new relationship—especially if he was deceived or betrayed in any way.
Be transparent, authentic, and honest, and show that you have his back—and always will. This is a sure-fire way to gain his love and keep it for good!
6. Let Him Be Your Knight
Here’s a secret that I often share with my clients: Aries men love, love, love rescuing their princesses!
The Aries guy sees himself as a heroic warrior, and he loves the occasional thrill of getting to rush in and save you from whatever danger you find yourself in.
You don’t need to create scenarios—he will see right through any games. But when you can use some help—changing a tire, carrying something heavy, getting feedback on a speech or presentation you have to give—don’t be too proud to let him help you!
7. Don’t Get Clingy
This ties in with Tip 4, but being independent emotionally is also important to an Aries man.
Overly emotional women who always demand validation can drive him a little crazy, especially if he was responsible for his wife’s emotions in his marriage.
If you’re getting to the point where you are texting him every few minutes or demanding more and more proof of his love, he will slowly withdraw.
Read next: Should You Trust an Aries Man? Here’s How to Tell!
How to Tell When an Aries Man Is Hurting
It hurts to watch an Aries man in pain. It’s usually very obvious, as if a fire has gone out of him. He’ll be like a puppy with his tail between his legs, and all you will want to do is hold him and tell him it’s all going to be okay.
Knowing what to look for can help you to understand him better—and give him the support he needs, whether the pain is fresh or from his past.
- He has no more drive. This is a very concerning sign, as Aries men are so ambitious! When he’s sitting at home moping and not out there taking on the world, you know that your Aries man is hurting or has something going on.
- His temper is very short.
- He’s hot and cold with you. This can be a toughie. An Aries man can blow hot and cold, especially if something new has captured his interest. If he’s hurting, though, his mood swings will be more pronounced, and perhaps focused on you.
So, what can you expect when dating a divorced Aries man? Is a happily-ever-after in the cards? It certainly can be!
This man truly believes in fairy tales, though reality is often a bit of a disappointment to him. Show him that there is magic in the world, be independent, let him chase you, show him warmth and loyalty, and invite adventure into your lives. Be open and fierce with him, and he will appreciate you for it. These men can be a bit on the “love him or hate him” side, but once committed, they are in for the long haul.
Have you dated a divorced man before? Are you considering it? Share your experience with the community in the anonymous comments section. I’d love to hear from you!
And if you’re wondering if your Aries guy is right for you, try out my compatibility quiz here:
Until next time!
Anna Kovach
