So, you have an Aries man at your side. Maybe you have had him for a long time, or maybe it’s brand new. Either way, you’re probably wondering what mistakes you should avoid so he doesn’t lose his desire for you. These 7 qualities will send him running!
Desire is a topic that comes up all the time in my work as a relationship astrologer.
It’s a tricky dance between desire and security, and there often has to be just a little bit of uncertainty in any relationship—whether you’ve been together weeks or years—to keep the passion strong. However, it’s also true that some couples find their best connection when settled in routine.
Here, you have to ask yourself, What keeps my desire strong? Do I need passion, spontaneity, and uncertainty? Or do I find my desire is higher when I feel safe?
Once you have asked yourself those important questions, then you can turn to your man and find out what keeps his desires strong.
It’s important not to mold yourself too much to someone else. In the end, you may find yourself sitting with regrets and resentment because you had to change for a relationship. And that, in my experience, seldom really works.
However, in any relationship, each partner has traits they dislike in their significant other.
Let’s face it—Aries man are firebrands, hard to handle and full of excitement, much like a small child! Aries men are easily swept away on the tides of love, and they imagine themselves to be heroes, ready to rescue their princess from danger.
Just remember that these men blow hot and cold, and they are not the easiest to please. Aries men are often far too idealistic for their own good!
Aries men also have hugely high libidos and a very strong desire nature. They want what they want, and you’ll always know if that’s you—so you’ll notice when his desire seems to wane.
Firstly, consider if he is overworked and stressed. Perhaps there are other things going on in his life that are distracting him. We have a tendency to think that every time a man’s desire turns cold, it’s because of us. But the vast majority of the time, it’s not personal.
However, there are some qualities that drive Aries men away. Let’s explore 7 traits that douse his fire!
7 Things That Kill an Aries Man’s Desire for You
We can all admit to a bit of clinginess from time to time. This is the human condition, after all! It’s usually the result of some past abandonment.
But the clinginess won’t fly with your Aries man.
He likes to be the one in pursuit. If he feels like you’re the one running after him, his desire for you will vanish! You have to give him room to breathe.
The solution? Work on your inner sense of security.
2. Lack of Independence
This relates to clinginess, in a sense. Aries men love, love, love a woman who can stand on her own two feet.
If you’re unable to do anything on your own, or if you never let him be on his own, this could be real desire killer for him.
Relationships need space in order to flourish. And the fun thing is, with an Aries man, the more independent you are, the more attractive he finds you. He’ll want to know what he’s missing out on!
The solution? Do your own thing!
3. Too Much Routine
I can practically hear a chorus of groaning Aries men at the mention of routine!
There is truly nothing worse to an Aries man than tedium. He gets very itchy feet, and he is bored quickly.
If you insist on having dinner at this one restaurant every Friday, or mowing the lawn every Saturday, he might be getting restless—and there’s nothing sexy about that feeling!
Remember, this is a man who loves and lives for adventure. He wants to live his life to the fullest, and he wants a woman who is willing to break the rules and do things differently in the day to day.
The solution? Change it up!
This is a really tough one, ladies.
Relationships are not a fix-all for the way we feel about ourselves. Your Aries man has probably made you feel amazing about yourself; when he falls, he really falls, and he can make you feel like a very big deal.
But, when his desire wanes and his ardent attention is off of you, you can be left feeling very insecure.
If your feelings of self-worth rely on him, then you will need to do work on self-love! You need to be okay with who you are apart from his attention.
Aries men find secure women extremely attractive.
In the end, developing inner security benefits you and your relationship. It’s a win-win!
The solution? Develop your own sense of inner and outer security.
5. Rejecting or Ignoring Him
Aries men are the true warriors of the Zodiac, and as such, they demand to be seen, acknowledged, and heard.
Think of a knight charging in to rescue his damsel in distress, and imagine that damsel not being interested! He would be crushed.
If you continue to ignore or reject him, playing too hard to get, he will lose his desire for you.
It’s a fine line to walk. Aries men want you to be just out of reach—enough to whet his lust for you, but not so much that he feels rejected.
The solution? Give him attention—just not too much.
Lying and deception are huge turn-offs for an Aries man.
He prides himself on his honesty and relies on you to stick to your integrity, too. Honesty is always the best policy with this sign, even on the hard topics.
Always keep your word, and in return, you can expect the same treatment. You’ll always know where you stand, for better or for worse, with an Aries man. Your relationship can be built on a foundation of trust and honesty with him.
What’s not to love about that?
The solution? Be direct and straightforward.
7. Being Controlling
If you’re someone who tends to be dominating and controlling, well, you may have a bit of a problem with your Aries man!
Don’t get me wrong—he loves a strong woman. But he doesn’t want a domineering partner. Being bossed around is not his cup of tea, and all he will do is kick back at you!
An Aries man’s desire will quickly die if he isn’t the one in the lead. He loves calling the shots.
Check in with yourself and explore whether there are any underlying reasons for you want to be in control. If it’s coming from a feeling of insecurity, then try to bring that sense of control inwards rather than inflicting it on your independent Aries man! You’ll thank yourself for it, and so will he.
The solution? Let go and let him lead.
What Stokes an Aries Man’s Desire?
So, now that you know what kills an Aries man’s desires, let’s look at a few things that fuel the fire!
Aries men, above all, thrive on adventure.
They adore it when you’re willing to drop everything and just go with the flow. Even better is when you initiate something fun, such as a road trip or a sneaky nude swim in a nearby lake.
Fun is the ultimate tool for making his desire soar sky-high!
2. Being Your Hero
This man is a true knight in shining armor! He gets a thrill from being the one to scoop you up and save you from trouble.
Whether your problem is a flat tire, a broken printer, or someone who gave you a dirty look, he’s all about marching in to save the day.
He doesn’t want you to play the victim, but letting him don his superhero cape once in a while will keep him excited.
Aries men need a lot of passion in their relationships—physical and emotional.
The last thing that an Aries man wants is boredom or a lover who feels more like a platonic friend. What he wants from you is that crazy dance of chemistry.
I love hearing from my readers! Have you been with an Aries man whose desire cooled off? What did you do? I’d love to hear about it in the comments—it’s anonymous!
Wondering how compatible you are with your Aries man? Try my fun, free compatibility quiz!
Your friend and relationship astrologer,