Are you currently dating a sultry but dominant Aries man? Maybe you’re wondering what you should avoid in order to keep him from cutting you loose. Here are top 5 ways to lose an Aries guy and some things to definitely NOT do if you want to keep him.
Telling him what to do
If you ever tell an Aries man what he can or cannot do, he will be done with you. He doesn’t respond well to anyone telling him what his allowed or not allowed. He is strong-willed and makes his own decisions.
Sometimes this is difficult when you’re the type of personality that naturally wants to tell him to take the trash out. He’s agreed to do it but it’s been sitting there for days.
Nagging, of course, is not accepted either. So either you’ll need to go ahead and take it out yourself or say to him sweetly “hey honey, can you please take the trash out, it’s beginning to smell”. Perhaps that’ll get him moving.
If you ever at any point though go at him like “you’ve left it sitting there and you told me you’d do it”, he’ll see it as nagging which will not sit well with him. He’ll also see you as trying to be the boss of him.
He figures he has a mother already and it’s likely she wasn’t successful telling him what to do either. Aries children tend to do what they want when they want and don’t care about the consequences.
As adults, this doesn’t change so be careful how you talk to your Aries man. His ego doesn’t do well with being dictated to or criticized.
If you ignore him
Aries men are so full of themselves that they need other people’s attention to make them feel fully validated in their lives. The last thing you want to do is ignore him.
This could be particularly tricky if you’re angry with him but want to avoid confrontation. At best, you should just tell him you need time to think and that you’re not ignoring him.
Silent treatment will not work with him. He’ll decide you just don’t care enough about him and decide to break it off. He’s like a toddler that keeps calling your name while you’re trying to talk on the phone.
He needs attention and affection from his lady love. If he doesn’t get it from you, he’ll seek it elsewhere which can either mean cheating or it can result in him calling things off with you.
While he loves a good chase, if you put him off for too long, he’ll see this as you ignoring him. While it’s ok for you to make him wait an hour or two before you respond to his text, don’t go beyond that!
He will absolutely think you’re up to something or that you’re not that into him.
Not giving him space
This is almost the polar opposite of what I just stated about ignoring him. Sometimes he wants to have time to himself. Truly you’ll have to learn who he is to know when he wants attention and when he doesn’t.
He can be rather fussy. Time to himself to go out with the guys or to do whatever it is he wants without you is what he will require. This could mean letting him stay home alone and watch his favorite TV shows.
The idea is that he still wants to flex his freedom while he still has you. Whether you live together or separately, he’ll want to spend time doing his own thing without you around.
It doesn’t mean he doesn’t care or that he isn’t into you. It just means he wants to be sure he still has freedom when he wants it without it being an issue with you. So you’ll need to learn when it’s time to give him space.
Not being straight up with him
Aries men rely on the truth of any situation. Though they may not always be truthful themselves, they want a partner who will always tell HIM the truth. However, it must be done with kid gloves.
That means you cannot tell him the truth by insulting him or calling him out on anything. He will need to be told what isn’t going well in a very non-intrusive way so that he doesn’t get offended.
Aries ego isn’t amused with pokes at it. Telling him he’s a crappy cook will make him feel bad about himself and will likely turn to anger then project back to you at something you do he hates.
It’s a lot better to tell him how you feel in a delicate way or in a way that makes logical sense. It will appeal to him better and you’ll have better means of communication between the two of you.
Don’t de-throne him
Aries men want to be the man of their castle. You are his queen whether you live with him or not. Therefore he’ll look to you to be the woman at his side that he cares for.
If you make him feel less than the King he is in your life, he’ll wreak havoc. It will hurt his feelings and rather than dealing with that emotion or trying to work things out with you, he’ll react out of anger.
No matter what the situation, he wants to maintain that King of the Castle mentality. He wants to be in charge and make the big choices that you two should normally make together.
You can always make suggestions in a way that makes it seem as though it’s his idea or that it logically makes more sense. This way he’s still on top and in charge while you’re at his side being supportive.
That’s what he’s looking for is a woman he can rely on. Be independent but not to the point where he feels he’s not needed.
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You are spot on about Aries men.
Sad to say it but i have been with one for six years and i cant take it anymore. Im out . He is horrible sad to say.
He was the biggest mistake of my life.
Massive head and mind games. Im tired of being made to feel inferior in every aspect of our relationship.
He also lies and cheats. Not the man i want anymore
Hi Shannon!
I’m sorry you had a souring experience with an Aries man. Fortunately, they are not all like the one you tangled with. Many Aries men are very loyal and truthful. I wonder if he had a moon sign or rising sign that made him more willing to do the wrong thing. Just know that you shouldn’t close your door to the whole entire sun sign due to one bad seed. Some Aries men are wonderful and some are not. That’s par for the course for any man of any sign. Wish you well on your search darling!
True,but nobody besides a Libra or Aquarius probably can play these mind games and convince him that something is his idea in a nice way.
I have a child and even with my own child I’m direct,I would feel horrible to manipulate a mind in a way,sure my Libra friend she is a master at this,she took years to convince me that this or that might be better,it’s cute but scary. When I confront her about it(i was thankful she had the patience with me),she explained me as long it could be for the benefits of someone it might not be that bad to do it,that was so cute.I admire her tact.
I’m Taurus, with Venus in Aries mars in Gemini, and all over my chart I’m way,but way too fire dominant(all 3 Aries Leo Sagittarius are strong including the houses even)next to it it’s air(Gemini and Aquarius) and earth (Capricorn even Oof) so I heard many times I might be good as a drill sergeant or so(funny tho). So definitely far from telling someone nicely that something is his or her idea,maybe I am too dumb but I wouldn’t know how to do this. But I would love to since this doesn’t scare an Aries off. 🙂 🙂 🙂
The Aries I know is very insecure and I rather don’t talk with him to not push him away.Plus I love having time for myself and he get’s that wrong…
He already called me out,said I am verbally abusive even,and my friends say I’m a fire spitting angel(yea the Gemini mars is strong)
I told him we don’t fit,but that makes him chase me more,what’s even a turn off for me since that looks utterly childish,and then I start to spit fire !!! He said multiple times in an angry way that no one ever made him feel so bad as I do,when I don’t even wanna,I compliment him and we share the same hobbies and I try to push him and cheer him. It’s not enough for him.
I don’t trust him, i don’t react to his demands that’s coming from being pushed or call it what you want,he seems so vague and unsure that’s why I can’t trust him. He’s lacking tact,and needs way too much reassurance from his friends,even when he knows he was wrong. I just wished him to be the strong man he is,with or without me but I guess he hates me for that.
I feel sorry for Aries guy,they are truly lonely warriors. In general I feel sorry for mars and venus types.
If someone tells me we don’t fit I would never think of chasing that person,but that’s the first that’s coming into his mind.
I even hope he will find another love/fling so he will stop coming on so strong at me,sure I would love to have him in my life(taurus obsession here lol) but only if he and I are in peace,since we share so many hobbies and we get along well as long it’s not about who’s the boss.
We are friends,no sex involved,it’s his vagueness and thin skin that turns me totally off…and I’m so not down for his demands.
He turned disrespectful for 3 times now I was astonished by his true colors,so I might shut off totally now.
I get along with Aquarius and Libra so much better,Sagittarius too since they are direct and even blunt what’s funny.
But I’ll keep an eye on that hint in this article.
To say something in a delicate way or suggest him it was his plan anyway…It’s something I should involve in my life now and then to not come over as too strong or too stubborn 🙂 🙂 Thanks ya
Hi Ella! It seems you’re seeking a bit more help than I can give you in just a mere comment. Perhaps you should try purchasing my book “Aries Man Secrets” so you can receive a free VIP consultation so I can better help you. There is a lot to be learned about Aries and you need to keep in mind that they are not all the same as they will have different aspects in their charts that will weigh out who they are personally, how they act, and what they want. Again, if you’d be interested in learning more about Aries man instead of just what is in one article, I’d be happy to help you out. Take a look at my book “Aries man Secrets” at http://www.ariesmansecrets.com I do have books on those other signs you mentioned as well if you’re more interested in those. You choose.
I am on off involved with Aries man. I am a Scorpio…we have so much potential here. Unfortunately I always feel second in his life. I get that, but why play me? That’s what I don’t get. We are both mature people not much over 50 yrs. he keeps saying to me ‘ one day I’ll sort myself out and we will be together ‘ but this is definitely wearing thin.
He tells me to be patient. Hmmmm
How long is a piece of string?
Hi Lisa!
Aries men do tend to consider themselves to be priority. That’s a flaw of theirs. He should be making you feel more of a priority though than what he does. I would say that you should give a time limit to him but not tell him you did. Write it down on your calendar of when you will move on if he doesn’t get it together. When that time comes, you ask him again what the deal is and if he gives you a hoaky answer like this one then you will have to just drop him so you can move on and find someone who wants to be with you. It’s up to you sweetheart. Do what feels right to your inner voice.
I think i screwed up with my potential aries man….he has issues….he was coming to spend the weekend with me , and would be travelling by train, this worried me, we’re in the midst of a pandemic and i was concerned about his use of public transport….so i ordered a cab to pick him up, i was going to pick up the bill..he didn’t react well, and consewuently didn’t come…imy mistske was i told him i’ve ordered a cab to pick you up, i really should have run it by him first, suggesting it, rather than telling him….he now ignores my calls and texts…..will he forgive and can we get back on track…..he was so keen to meet up and spend time wity me, up until that point……his moon sign is libra…
Hi Nicola!
I don’t think this is something you cannot work past. Aries men don’t like women paying for them. That is very true. However, if you simply tell him that you were just trying to be considerate, he may actually forget it and get back on track with you honey. Give it a try. Explain. That’s all you can do. If you want to learn more about Aries man, please check out my book “Aries Man Secrets”.