Aries guys are known as the easygoing men and it shouldn’t be so hard to attract and keep this stubborn Ram by your side, however, bad things can happen. So, let’s analyze what mistakes you might make with the Aries guy and learn how to correct them.
You Act Too Sensitive
It’s not the fact that the Aries guy is senseless, because deep down in his heart he truly is vulnerable. This zodiac sign just can’t take too many emotions all at once and being a woman you will have to learn how to present your feelings to him using the proper “measure”.
Any weird mood which is so common for women, makes the Aries man confused and afraid and those are the two emotions he hates the most.
If you take a more practical approach and express your feelings in a short and concise manner, he will appreciate you way more. The same applies to women who are attached to the home or especially their mothers or family of origin.
Aries man wants you like his teammate and if your mother is the person you run to when things get complicated or you want to stay at home this astrological sign is not your best match.
You Are Nitpicky
In the general terms, men love tidy, organized and punctual girls, but too much of a good thing can be repulsive for the Aries guy. If you tend to be too analytical or worse, critical, he will pull back, because he will feel like anything he does is not good enough for you and let’s admit, no one loves to be watched and judged all the time.
Also, have in mind that health and healthy habits are fine with him, but those girls who are addicted to their strict schedules and even show the signs of orthorexia, which means the need or obsession with healthy foods, are simply exceptionally repulsive for this free spirit.
You Suffer From “Drama Queen” Syndrome
The natural eighth house for the sign of Aries falls into the sign of Scorpio, and the ruler of those two signs is the same, this is the planet Mars. However, in the sign of Aries, Mars is in its daily rulership or straightforward action, while in the sign of Scorpio, this planet is in its nightly domicile and expresses itself as the powerful transformation, fear, panic, and of course, drama.
No matter the fact that the planet governing the sign of Scorpio is the same, Aries guy will feel the strong inner insecurity if you show the sudden change of your mood or start to speak, scream or behave in an extreme form.
A little scent of mystery is always valued in the mind of any man, including Aries, and yes, you can appear sexy and appealing when you are alone, but don’t try to explore the other hidden and fearful martial traits, because this is the special kind of the battlefield he’s not quite able to handle.
You Are Too Organized and Career-Oriented
I know, we live in a world where women work in the military; they are astronauts, engineers and lead huge corporations. Your ambition to be the commander or to take over this company and then do that… can sound very exciting for many other astrological signs, except Aries.
Being the first one in the Zodiac wheel and having that initial fire in him, he will have some very hard times to accept your dreams and skills and adjust his life by your side.
This is nothing anti-feministic in the mind of one Aries for sure. It’s just the fact that he has the be the number one in everything he does, and while he feels the need to compete with many other people, of both sexes, in his career and free time, he really needs someone who will support him and give him the sense of rest and relaxation. So, if you want to keep him close and for a lifetime, learn how to let him lead and most of all, trust him.
You Are Too Strict and Traditional
This is the big one for the Aries man and you will discover that he has very hard times to accept some rules you carry in your personality because your grandmother told you that her grandmother taught her that… I hope you can see the picture I’m trying to show you here.
Old families, old money, old principles, strict rules, all of those things are highly annoying for Aries guy and he will start to feel trapped and seek for the way out.
Aries is the free spirit, he loves adventure and changes more than anything else, and if you don’t try to lock him in the highest tower of your family castle, he will love you more. And just have in mind that this sign easily falls in love, he is faithful and stays in love forever as long as he has the inner feeling of freedom.
You Are Confusing
Yes, I know, I’ve mentioned that Aries guy gets easily annoyed by the wide ocean of female emotions, but this is something different. The natural twelfth house of the zodiac for an Aries is the sign of Pisces ruled by the watery god Neptune.
And there is something truly intrinsically irritating in the mind of the Aries man when he has to confront this planet or its own sign. Aries is perfectly capable to fight any sort of the enemy and to switch his weapons in a second.
But, how do you fight the fog or the illusions? This is extremely bothersome for him, and if you want to keep him and not pull him back, you are not allowed to get lost in confusion, depression, artistic illusions or any sort of theatrical behavior.
Try to appear practical in front of him and all your thoughts regarding abstract mathematics, physics, arts or dreams, leave for your friends, because he won’t be able to understand you at all.
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Your friend and Relationship Astrologer, Anna Kovach
I’ve been dating a Aries Man for 25 years on and off.. strong chemistry and sexual …he always comes back.. he told me he loved me and always did .. but he is hot then cold .. I love him too.. I’m a Gemini.. will we ever get married? I think he’s afraid of commitment!
Hi Michelle!
Aries man and Gemini woman are actually a pretty darned good match. His coldness probably comes from past experiences and fear. He may be afraid to commit further and this would definitely make him old off on marriage. He needs a long period of security and proof. After 25 years on and off you’d think he has it but maybe he keeps focusing on the breaks. If he is then he’s still fearful that things may not work and he’ll end up hurt. What you two need to focus on most is making what you have solid and secure by communicating. Open up and talk about the fears. You might actually get somewhere!
I have made all these mistakes even knowingly. I could not help being restricted to my emotions for his sensitive and confused nature. He still talks to me even when having had several light arguments. I think him funny because he is almost everything ive been told when irritated. I never go so far as to intentionally make him mad but when he does he just ignores me. So i leave him alone and then he comes around after about a week or less. I refuse to bow down to ego. I do love him and he knows he has reflective feelings and has also even stated so and once by accident i think. Im a cancer if he stays around ill know he does. Lol. It is a complex situation because we had casual encounters before when we were young. As adults after losing touch he instantly pursued me when i reached out. On the phone its like pulling teeth but in person hes all over me. We are not an item. Hes told me he doesnt feel like he can give me what i want in a relationship cause” I do what I want”. Of course being what i am i cant help but to manipulate the situation because hes who i want. I have to make my self not get deep until he comes around or the situation changes or someone else fills his spot.
Hi Trina!
Be careful with yourself because when an Aries man says he doesn’t want a relationship, he typically means it and you could end up getting hurt if your manipulating doesn’t get you what you crave from him. You’re probably good to go as far as making yourself not get into it with him. Keep your heart open for someone else to possibly enter. I wish you all the best!
Im an Aries … and we are direct ….And when we want to be with someone , were with them period. But doing something indirect and sneaky is bad news. Like the guy i was involved with who manipuluated me and worse gaslighted (denied it.) It infurated me. Wé think ..ok if they are being sneaky about the small stuff what are the big things theyre hiding ….. if. Even if you do’n’t realize it we know when we are being manipuluated . .Thé difference is we prefer to be fair ..But if you resort to unfair factice ..we will know and not say anything And watch the pattern over time then turn the tables on you …Like one crazy guy qui denied stealing my sleeping pills when i know he did ..but in the heat of the moment i i hit record so in case that crazy scorpio i was with i have something to protect myself with if he tries to play innoceny and i kept statements of me landing him money …And he knows none of this …because when he showed me he was not trustworthy i knew how to protect myself. … Aries are not sneaky tu nature and only do it in extrême situations …… But watch out …they Will be armed with intelligence and facts and because we next to never lie or decieve , you will look like the bad but.
Sorry about all the bad grammatical mistakes…Its hard to see my text on my Phone ..
Hi Aries cap ascendant!
Thank you for sharing your side of Aries. I must advise that not all Aries men or women are exactly the same. Your moon changes things as does your rising sign. That means that to know any Aries properly is to know those things about them. If you would like to know more about Aries man then check out my book “Aries Man Secrets”.
I been dating my aries man for a year he said I love you first my feelings are the same we don’t argue we do talk things out when I’m feeling certain way he works alot so we don’t see that much of one another but he tells me that I’m the women for him and we are going to get married and things are going to get better ad far as the time together he’s very funny and caring don’t know what to do and I’m a aries woman we do get a long
HI RM!
What do you mean you don’t know what to do? It sounds to me like you two get along very well and he’s told you what he wants to do. That’s excellent. I say go with the flow and see where things develop. Patience is key and since you two don’t argue then things should go rather smoothly. It just may take a little longer than you would want. Hang in there!
Aries man doesnt have any quality of a husband… selfish and self centered people.better they stay single.
Hi Fragile Crimson,
I’m sorry if you’ve had some awful experiences with Aries men that caused you to feel sour toward the whole of them. Try not to close yourself off though. Lots of other things play a role such as moon signs, rising signs, their Venus, etc. Perhaps if you met one with just the right line up that matches beautifully with yours then you’d have one that treats you far better. Open your mind. Next time find out all you can about their astrological makeup before you get further involved. I hope this helps! Aries Man Secrets book is also a useful tool for you to have!
I’m a Gemini woman. I expressed my feelings to my potential Aries man and he freaked out and made it all about him. I cut all communication with him. Idk if it was the correct thing to do. How would he be handling this
Hi Sofia!
Either he’s terrified of getting involved or he’s not into you. I think I’d be curious to ask him just that. Ask him if there is any way for you two to get closer or not. He should tell you flat out if there is or isn’t. If there isn’t then you can just let go and move on. If he does see something then you may have to be patient and take it slow him but get your answers darling! Aries Man Secrets is a book I wrote that would definitely help you dispel some of this type of behavior.
I’m a Leo woman that’s been in a committed relationship with an Aries man for a little past 5 years now. Our relationship is exactly how every “Aries man Leo woman” compatibility writing says. Like, almost to a T. It seems crazy even to myself, and I’ve always been comfortable with astrology. EXCEPT in sex. In the first year or so, it was like how we’re described, passionate and explorative. I felt liberated and comfortable, so when I became too comfortable initiating, he of course pulled away. And when I couldn’t take the rejection any more I decided to just wait for him to come to me. And somewhere along the wait I just gave up on sex life altogether. Now we’ve had sex once a year for last 3 years on his account. And though I’ve been very briefly guilty of most of these mistakes at one point or another, the rest of relationship is great, so great that I know he’s not cheating,thats too immature.We would both just say if we wanted to sleep with others if we did. We’ve built a home and have beautiful dogs, both want kids.
THE POINT: As of April 2020 Ive been experiencing severe depression, my work is on standby since marchdue to corona and I can barely get out of bed many days, the futility weighing me down. He mostly leaves me alone to deal with it, and that’s totally agreeable, that’s how we do things usually. But all of a sudden he wants to initiate sexual activity???? Every night this last week?? I could really use an aries expert on this one. Ive never felt more like I could lose him.
Hi Lillian!
It’s great that he’s initiating sex again. I think he’s probably trying to maybe help you in some way and thinks that’s how he can help is by physically since normally you’d two would do it on your own. Personally, I think it’s healthy for you two to open up to each other and talk about this stuff. Being honest about it would help you two get on the same page. Tell him you really appreciate him initiating and you love sex with him but you’re going through an emotional train wreck now and you need to work at it. Tell him why and maybe let him help you with it. I don’t think he’s trying to annoy you by initiating or being more horny than normal. This quarantine effects people in different ways honestly. Talk to each other!
5 yrs I was with my Aries.. 5 yrs of neglect and abuse. we had sex 4 times in our entire relationship.. he withholds it and told me it will never happen again… but thru the yrs he would say that he is working on it and to be patient! 5 yrs isn’t patient enough.. I don’t know what is.5 yrs of empty promises.. isolation because he would not allow me friends or to work… sick of being alone in this so I left! broke my heart big time!!
Hi Carissa!
Yes, Aries men can be infuriating sometimes. When they ask for patience, their time frame doesn’t line up with yours. What seems like forever for you is only weeks for him. This is also a difference between men and women. Men often times take more time to heal than a woman does. Women are compassionate and empathetic so we get up, dust off, and heal quicker so we can move on. If you feel you cannot keep waiting for him then don’t. Move on with your own routine and path so you can feel free. If he truly cares, he’ll be back and he’ll be ready.
Been seeing an Aries Man for a months now but strange that he wants me to dominate during sex I am libra I don’t mind I had been taking charge, we have been seeing everyweekend in his place he calls me a taxi to bring me and take me back to mine I will say we are soul mate we don’t disagree,we agree on everything we talk about those failed relationships and marriages but he hasn’t asked me out and I am not putting it to mind either but he chats with me 23hrs out of 24hrs a day to know how I am doing ?if I have eaten and when I am at his place he makes sure I am fine, I do the cooking, he plates the food.
But I checked his phone and I see he chats with different women but I didn’t confront him or asked I just took my heart of it and carried on as usual I notice when he send me a good night or good morning texts he uses pet names such as“good night sweetheart,good morning darling and I do not use that for him because I have read so much stories about how bad this sign is and I do not want to be heartbroken I really like him too but I had been so smart to no show it and let my emotions run my mind I had be playing the card he’s playing you chat me up I will do the same you want me I will show up.
But honestly I do not know if he’s willing to settling down he is in his late 30s and I am in my mid 30s.
He is so smart that I do feel maybe he’s playing mind games but then I think he’s stylishly telling me something which I am not paying attention to because I see the way he look into my eyes when I take charge during sex(I have the energy, he is not even near my energy ) and he passes out after sex and sleep all day and he goes crazy when I give the best oral sex but that is not enough to make him want to then see me as a potential partner ?
I am independent I pay my own bills, take myself on vacation never asked him for anything even on his birthday I bought some perfumes and he was shocked as he wasn’t expecting anything but to be honest if he walks away tomorrow I am good I will move on unto the next available but I like him and I am hoping he will come out to ask me out maybe not.
Hi Dolly!
It sounds like has some submissive signs in his chart that makes him be less of a “take charge” type of guy like the typical Aries. Aries men don’t always have to be bad honey. There are some pretty darned good ones out there. It worries me that you aren’t asking him about the other women though. It’s important to be self secured BUT he shouldn’t be allowed to carry on with other women if he’s with you. It’s a form of cheating or could develop into it.
Talk to him and ask him if he’s ready to settle down. You need to know these things. Playing games is for children. Tell him how you feel and what you want and then ask him if he wants to get more serious or if he wants to just date casually. You need to know for your own future sweetheart. Open up and get it out!
Hey Anna, I met my Aries man thru a dating site. We talked for a week or so then we decided to go in a relationship. Previously, I’ve been in relationships with three Aries men. The first did dump me but eventually came back but too late. The second one gave me a whole lot of hardship but he was the one I really cherish the most but I really was done with him, he does text me now and then. The third honestly speaking I was done after our first date. Now I’m with my fourth Aries man. I love him but somewhere somehow I feel he isn’t fully committed and that’s alright by me. I want us to take time and go slow. He has been sick for few days. Leading him to text me late or avoid and s**t. It really didn’t bug me until few of my friends and horoscope article made my paranoid ass just believe he has lost interest or is cheating on me. I don’t wanna give him a hard time and really support him but I annoy the shit out of him. I constantly text him, ask him how’s he feeling, call him up without even texting him first but yes, we do say it upfront whatever is in our mind. He didn’t say he’s annoyed by me but I feel he is. See, I’m a libra with libra sun, aries moon and virgo venus so I feel him. On the top we ain’t compatible like alright I get it y’all against, I get it. What should or can I do now?
Hi Sab!
A weeks is pretty fast to decide to be in a relationship. Aries men tend to dive in too quickly then they lose the excitement they had in the beginning or they regret having rushed into it when he knows he should have gone slower. I can tell you that he isn’t fully committed at this point. It takes them some time to really be that way. Best you can do is be patient and give him some space. Not total silence mind you, just back off a bit and show him that you respect taking it slowly as you say you do. Sign wise, you need to find out your Mars and 4th house to really know what man is best for you. If you need more help, check out my “Aries Man Secrets” books.
Hi, i make mistakes with him. I pressed and he ended up feeling trapped which led him to lie. When I felt that he had lied to me, I went to confirm that he hadn’t taken the car. I confronted it and ended the relationship. As I like him, I called him to try to understand why he had lied to me. He explained and I realized.
I also asked him how he felt about me. He replied that he liked my company but he needed to understand what he wanted. He keep sending messages, even though it’s practically good morning, good night. I always hope he sends first and responds. How can I fix this situation and he takes interest in me again? I’m Taurus
Hi Andreia!
You did NOT cause him to lie. He did that all by himself. If he felt trapped he should have told you not used it as a scapegoat for doing what he did. Don’t ever let anyone blame you for their own bad behavior. Now… if he’s keeping in touch that’s good but he is going to have to show you that he does want you back otherwise you’re going to have to wait it out and see how it goes. The door still seems to be slightly open to you and so it’s not totally done. Just keep being you, do your own thing, and take care of yourself. If he sees you doing well, it might make him want you to be back with him then he’ll let you know. If not, you’re being strong and independent which will attract someone else who may be the right one. I really do wish you all the very best!
My Aries guy ignored me ever since I replied to his love. For some days now he has been telling me how much he loved me and so on.