Should I Text an Aries Man First? Or Wait for Him to Text Me?

Have you been on a date with an Aries man, and are now unsure whether to text him first or wait until he texts you? Well, yeah… Aries men can be difficult when it comes to texting. They aren’t one for doing it very often, so getting them to text you first can be taxing.

Initiating contact for the Aries man is something that he has to come to terms with. He may start out hot and heavy, but then he dies off. It’s not that your Aries man has lost interest, but it’s more that he gets lazy about it…

Here are my best tips on what to text an Aries man to get his attention…

And now, let’s get into who should text first…

Do Aries Men Like When You Text First?

But… How To Get An Aries Man To Reach Out First?

1. Get His Attention Again

In the beginning, it’s likely the Aries man was chasing you first–that’s what he should do. If he didn’t, then this may show you that he’s a tough nut to crack and that he may not be easy to accomplish initiation with. 

Basically, you have to do things that excite him, make him feel needed (not too much though), and get him to chase you again. If he has slowed way down then he needs to be reminded of what it was like before.

It’s possible he’s gotten bored or gotten caught up with other things going on in his world which have caused him to go quiet. He may not even realize anything is wrong.

He could have gotten very comfortable with the fact that he’s with you and he now isn’t concerned with the things that he used to be. He’s not trying to win you anymore because he has you. 

This causes an Aries man to be lazy about reaching out first. He figures if you want to talk, you’ll reach out to him. He forgets he’s the hunter, the Alpha, the one who has to be the chaser and initiator.

You’ve got to do some things to remind him of this. When you do, he’ll pick up the pace and start making more of an effort. In the sections below, I will describe more the things you need to pull off to get him motivated.

2. Re-Ignite The Passion

Remember when the passion was really burning? When you two could hardly keep your hands off each other? You’ve got to bring that back! What exactly did you two do back then? What was exciting?

You need to figure out that recipe and try it again. Things may have changed since then, but if he still loves and cares for you, he will be into it. Do spontaneous things with or for him.

Try to let him be your “hero” a little here and there. It excites him to do things for you sometimes. Not all the time though–don’t be needy or your Aries man will be turned off. 

Just here and there, make him want to help you. Ask him to do something that he knows you know how to do, but you want him to help you with. You can come up with anything as far as getting your Aries man to assist you. He’ll appreciate you came to him and he’ll love it that you do need him sometimes!

3. Make Him Miss You

Find things to do to keep yourself busy. Don’t be at his beck and call. Don’t wait around for his texts. Make him wait a bit. Also pull back on your own texting. When an Aries man misses you, he’ll want to text you first. 

Yes, I understand the fear of losing him if you aren’t reaching out touching base. However, if he’s now reliant on you to initiate, then he’ll expect it to stay this way and doesn’t realize you want him to reach out first.

So, make some changes in your routine and shake things up a bit. If you’re used to reaching out to him daily, skip a day and see what happens. Skip two days, and see if he doesn’t reach out to ask you what’s up.

Even if you two live together, you can make yourself a bit sparse so that he gets more of his own free time but at the same time, you’re showing him you don’t need him in that way.

He will love it at first, but then he’ll start to miss you being around. At that point, he will step it up and initiate more with you and ask you to stay home with him. 

4. Talk To Him About It

This is the most direct route to see whether  your Aries man will get back on track and start to initiate again or, if he never was, it could get him to actually make an effort there.

Getting an Aries man to text you first can be as simple as telling him that you really love talking to him, but you wish he would try initiating more as it would be more exciting for you. 

If he thinks that it will be a good thing for you and will make you happy, he may very well do that. This is especially true if he really cares for you or loves you. 

While Aries men can be a bit selfish sometimes, they are also protectors of their loved ones. They would never let anyone mess with them. He’s an excellent man and provider.

All you really have to do is get his attention and talk to him about the way you are feeling about everything. You don’t have to be emotional. In fact, it works best if you do it in a cool, calm way.

Tell him that you don’t mind initiating sometimes, but you’d like it if he would at least meet you halfway on it. The same goes for making plans. Tell him it would be exciting if he made plans ahead of time for you two. 

You can tell him how romantic and wonderful it would be if he were to surprise you with an already laid out date. Telling him like this is like positive support pushing him in the right direction. 

If Your Aries Man Pulls Away, DON’T Do This…

I’ve heard from so many of my clients that their Aries man is AMAZING when they are in person with him…

So charming, sweet, funny, and really connected!

But he can tend to pull away when you’re not with him.

It’s a super frustrating situation for any woman. And if you are like my other clients who have been through this, you’re probably feeling REALLY confused.

“Why is he so hot and cold through text?”

“Why does he back off when we aren’t together?”

And most importantly…

“What can I DO about this?”

First, I want to share the things you definitely should NOT do in this situation…

1. Don’t get clingy or needy and ask him if something is wrong or beg to see him
2. Don’t force closure if you’ve had some conflict. Wait until you can talk in person about important issues. Text can EASILY lead to miscommunication.
3. Don’t assume that there IS a problem. He could just be really busy.
4. Don’t get upset with him or freak out. This will only push your Aries man away.
5. Don’t ignore him so he can “see what it feels like.”

So what SHOULD you do instead?

1. Take some time out to reflect on the situation and consider logical reasons for his actions.
2. Date other men if you aren’t exclusive. Don’t lock yourself down with him if you aren’t yet in a committed relationship with him.
3. Give him space and time with zero pressure. He might be overwhelmed with work or not be feeling well.
4. Focus on your own life. If you don’t have an epic life filled with hobbies and time with friends or family, you need to build that.

Your Aries man should be the sprinkles on the cupcake of your awesome life, not the cupcake itself.

5. Let him reach out to you when he’s ready. Aries men like to lead. You need to let him do that!
6. When your Aries man comes back, welcome him lovingly with open arms. If you are angry, he’ll want to run.
7. When you are in person, let him know (kindly) the things that make you feel valued and adored.

Text can be challenging, and I don’t want you to feel alone in this.

I don’t want you to lie in bed unable to sleep because you are worried about why your Aries man is pulling away.

And there is no need for you to do that.

Especially when I can guide you on how to deeply connect with his heart through text messages… 

Because when you know SPECIFICALLY what to text him based on his astrology…

He WON’T be pulling away anymore.

And you’ll never again have to worry about what to say to your lovely Aries man through text anymore.

Click here to see what I mean…

So your Aries man never pulls away again.

Sending you love,

Your sister and relationship astrologer,

Anna Kovach