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How to Know If an Aries Man Really Isn’t Interested

Are you wondering if that Aries man you’ve got a thing for is just being coy or doesn’t like you? How to know if an Aries man really isn’t interested? The following is some information that may help you in determining whether or not he’s playing or if he truly just isn’t into you.

Isn’t paying attention

Typically an Aries man doesn’t waste time on women he’s not into. This means he’ll just act as though the woman doesn’t exist. If you work with him and he really doesn’t acknowledge you; it could be he isn’t interested.

However; if he isn’t aware that you’ve got interest in him; he could just be completely oblivious. In that case, you’re going to have to test the waters to find out which the case it.

A simple trick is by trying to strike up a conversation with him. Look into his eyes and when possible; try to brush his arm or hand with yours. You’ll find out real quick what he thinks.

If he has zero response and pulls away as quick as possible then this would mean he isn’t into you. If however; he lingers while you talk to him; he could be picking up your signal which would mean he may be intrigued by your interest.

Obviously if that happens; he’s going to talk to you more and see what all he can learn about you. Often; men seem unaware when a woman is interested in them so they just blow the woman off.

This is when it’s important to sort of gauge what is going on so that you can know whether to proceed or to back away. So throw him a quick test and see how he responds.

Is hard or cold toward you

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Aries men can sometimes come off as arrogant or cocky. This is normal for them. Only when they are really interested in someone do they change their tune a bit. If you are interested in him and he isn’t reciprocating; he will likely be cocky.

He may either ignore you completely to drive the point home that he’s not into you or he will say things that are just seemingly rude. He doesn’t know how else to reject someone other than just being honest.

What I mean by being honest; he’ll be rude, ignore you, or go out of his way to avoid you all together. Then there are some that actually will just out and out tell you that they aren’t interested.

Not all Aries men are the same and so not all of them are going to give you indicators that are easy to read. Some will be nice to you but will also put up a wall as to make sure you know they’re only being friendly.

Aries men tend to not flirt with women they have zero interest in; however. Look at your Aries guy and see which one he seems to fit. The behavior is often very revealing in these types of matters.

Won’t touch you

In the case of you are already dating an Aries man and he seems a bit like he’s not interested anymore; he will be less physical. Usually though; he’ll just tell you he’s not into you anymore.

If he doesn’t do that then he may have a moon sign that contradicts his nature and causes him to not be bold enough. This is the case where he would pull back and stop being physical with you.

Aries men love to touch the lady they’re involved with or interested in. That means that if he’s gotten so cold that he won’t even touch you; he’s done or he’s not into you.

Remember the test I mentioned before? Touch him and see how he responds to you. Either he’ll jerk his hand back and possibly walk away or; he’ll stick around and talk to you.

Uncertain dragging it out

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When the Aries man isn’t really sure if you’re someone he wants to be with or not; he’ll tend to drag things out longer than necessary. That means he’ll keep you on the hook but limit his interaction with you.

Again, this would mean pulling back a bit and not being nearly as physical with you as he would be with someone he’s certain of. Confusion can always trump things. In this case; you’d have to decide if you want to wait him out or not.

Keep in mind that what you allow; is what he will push for. If you’re ok with him dragging things out then by all means; you’ll understand when he isn’t into taking you out much, not texting much, and not touching much.

He will drag his feet when he is confused. That’s just how he operates until he’s figured things out. At that point he’ll tell you what’s on his mind whether that means taking the next step or breaking it off.

Self Control

Aries is a habitual flirt. However; he will control his urges to flirt if he’s not into you. This is a combination of not being physical, not being talkative, ignoring you, and possibly avoiding you.

He becomes darned near nonexistent to you if he isn’t interested. Aries men flirt all the time and with many women. If he isn’t flirting with you at all when you’re in his presence; he doesn’t like you.

If he doesn’t call you or text you; he doesn’t like you. He will be as obvious as possible with his motives so that you understand he isn’t interested. That way he’s sure you won’t try to pursue him.

Again, he isn’t one that likes to be chased. If you try to chase him even though he’s given you plenty of signs that he isn’t into you; he’ll then be very blunt with his words and just tell you to leave him alone.

He doesn’t like to be pushed so if you push him to that limit; you may want to take a step back because his response is not likely to be very kind.

If you’d like to know what else pushes an Aries buttons; you may want to check out my book. Knowing an Aries man through and through could help you achieve the relationship you desire. Take a look at Aries Man Secrets today!

30 thoughts on “How to Know If an Aries Man Really Isn’t Interested

  1. My Bff is an Aries. I’m a Sagittarius. And honestly we have f**ked around plenty of times. But he’s never showed me any of these signs of not being interested. He confessed that he loves me and will always have alot of love for me. I just hope the girl that he falls in love with one day realize she has something good. He’s one of kind. Plus he’s strong, smart and determined. I love him alot and always will!!!!

    1. Hi, Tell! Is there some reason why the two of you haven’t gone beyond friendship? If you can tell that he really has feelings for you then why wouldn’t you pursue an actual relationship instead of remaining friends? Have you ever tried to go that route? Why would you wish him well with another woman? I think there is more you need to know about Aries man that may help you decide to figure out what can be done between the two of you and possibly end up with this guy that you love so much who also loves you. Take a peek at my book “Aries Man Secrets”.

  2. I have a crush on this Aries boy and when we’re in class he stares at me a lot and walks past me a lot also he even sat close to me and we went out together and even text and talk on the phone but he tells me that he doesn’t like me I’m so confused.

    1. Hi Katy!

      I don’t know what your age is but Aries men are hard to get when they’re young. Meaning even if they do like you, they don’t want to admit it. They’re terrified of getting hurt. It’s the same thing as when a boy throws rocks at girls when they’re little. They like the girl but they treat her like they don’t. It’s silly, I know. I think if you want to know for sure you need to just tell him “Look, I do like you and if there is anything here, let’s find out”. If he still tells you he doesn’t like you then maybe just ignore him for awhile. If he does like you, he’ll try to chase you.

  3. i am an aries and i hope this might help as a tip for an aries , TRUST, LOVE and i cant think of anything else at the moment , are some major plus , and just simply dont forget your aries we need attention not we because we are attention seeking (at least for me) , but because sometimes emotionaly we are dying , because we are in need of love and someone we know they will be on our side . at least this is how i feel things i dunno for anyone else

    1. Hi “Just an Aries”

      Thank you for your input. It’s always nice to hear directly from you in attempt to help women to better understand. Aries me are strong and fierce but they remind me of teddy bears. They seem hard core but when you peel back the layers, they’re sweet and cuddly. Personally, I like Aries men. While the fight may be difficult for women, these guys can end up well worth it unless they’re damaged men. I wish you well in your journey to find love kind sir!

      1. I like this Aries man but I am confused if he like me too or if he is just being nice and friendly. Prior to learning he has a girlfriend, he initiated a hug. Then every time we would see each other, he would be the one to initiate to give a hug and a kiss on the cheek. We would talk for a bit. I am also not sure why he is not adding me back on social media. I don’t mind if we become just friends but it seems he does not want to be friends.

  4. I like a guy that’s an Aries and he told me he liked me but the next day he asked another girl out and didn’t seem to care that I knew. ?

    1. Hi Skylar!

      He may like you but isn’t really ready to settle down or date someone seriously. This would be why he’d ask someone else out. He could also be trying to make you jealous. The only way to know for sure would be to flat out ask him why he’d ask someone else out if he says he likes you. Only then will you know for sure if he’s just jerking you around or if there is actually something there.

  5. I liked this Aries and it seemed at first he liked me back, i snapped him he would snap back, we liked each other’s pictures, he even asked me on a date and when the date night came he flakes and says he’s sick and says to go
    Out the next day and i denied him because i told him i rather see him at his best now over the 3 months after that i would bear from him time to time so i finally texted him one day to see how he was doing because last time we spoke he wasnt doing well and he never responded now he doesn’t like my pictures or talk to me, idk if i came of strong or i didn’t speak up for myself enough but i want him interested again in me what do i do?

    1. Hi Antoinette!

      If you denied him a date the next day then he took it the wrong way. He probably felt you weren’t interested in going out or spending time with him whether he’s sick or healthy. I know what you were getting at with what you said but he likely was offended or hurt by it. That being said, if you want to see if there is anything left, you’ll have to actually reach out to him and ask him out again to see what he says. If he doesn’t respond or he gives you an excuse why he can’t or won’t then he isn’t going to be interested. Give it a try.

  6. I started to see an Aries man back in April. He was so attentive and polite, then we slept together. After a few times, he pulled back. Less frequent texts and only contacting me when he wanted to hook up. We had a pretty big blowout in July. I was just fed up with the lack of responsiveness and I broke it off. I even deleted him off of social media. He got so mean and purposely did some mean stuff to me that he later admitted to. I started talking to him on occasion again when he ended up calling me in September apologizing for what he did and he told me he missed me. Slowly, we have gotten back to where we were but only sleeping together. He will not ask me out on a date. But when he’s in a hole full of crap he calls me or texts me to help him sometimes. I feel like he’s more using me. He drops hints that he wants me to cook something for him and I do it every time and bring it over. If I get mad at him when he’s unresponsive he tells me that he’s dealing with drama with his kids or family. Kind of puts a guilt trip on me if I get upset with him. I’m a cancer. I feel like we have potential to be a lot more but I just don’t know how to tell him without scaring him away. I do want more with him. I like him a lot. He has so many great qualities even though he’s so selfish. I feel like if he’d let me in, we’d be a good balance. I give him his space and freedom. I only really reach out when he makes the attempt. I guess I’m just lost here.

    1. Hi Sassy!

      I hate to say it but you may be right. You said ” I feel like he’s more using me”. This sounds like a very intuitive statement. If he’s only getting together with you when it can lead to sex then that’s what he’s in it for. He apologized to get back in your good graces but if he’s still not putting forth effort to have an actual solid relationship then he’s not really serious bout this. You need to decide whether or not you want to keep putting up with this. Tell him exactly how you feel and what you want. If he can’t meet it then you’ve got to move on.

  7. Hi, I’m a Gemini woman so I might be over thinking but help please. So I’m interested in this Aries man I messaged him on FB and told him I thought he was handsome and that I was shooting my shot. He said thank you and said oh really what’s up. So I asked if I could give him my number and he said yeah. It’s been almost a week and nothing. Should I just take he’s not interested?

    1. Another thing sorry. I’ve messaged him a couple times before and just asked wyd? And he responds fast but this was the first time I actually told him how I felt 😞

    2. Hi Sharon!

      Gemini men normally will flirt and chase you a bit if they’re interested. He was probably flattered but didn’t see anything happening there and so he just sort of backed off so you wouldn’t get the wrong impression. Telling him how you felt made him alert to not flirt too much with you as you’ll want more. I hope this is making sense. You can try to just be friends again w/o talking about more but it would seem he’s not into it. I hope this helps you move forward sweetheart. I wish you all the best!

  8. Another thing sorry. I’ve messaged him a couple times before and just asked wyd? And he responds fast but this was the first time I actually told him how I felt 😞

  9. I met Aries guy online and he asked me out for dinner right away

    There was instant chemistry and we met the next day again and went all the way on both nights
    It was memorable experience
    He was from out of town
    Since then we texted back and forth a little bit but mostly has been quiet from his side
    I am thinking he will contact when he visits this area next time and in the meantime it’s not him to text or call
    Is that right or do you think he is not interested at all?
    He did say when he left that he can’t think of why we wouldn’t keep in Touch
    I am just waiting for him to contact it’s been two weeks

    1. Hi Mona!

      If he isn’t initiating much with you then he may not be as interested in you as you are in him. If it’s been weeks, reach out to him and see how he’s doing. Maybe he’s trying to see what you feel or what you think of him. When he’s really interested or in love though, he will chase you. That I know to be true! Give it a try and see what happens. Wishing you the best!

  10. I met this Aries guy online and we went out for the 1st date on Friday . It was very pleasant and he texted me right away after the date saying that he had fun. Then I asked if he’d like to meet again on Sunday same week but he denied. He said he was busy. Then I asked him out again for the next Friday for a walk. He agreed but then on Thursday he said he couldn’t see me for long he had something else to do. I said we could meet the other day then when he has time. Then he suggested Sunday which was his birthday.m at 4p.m. But on Sunday when I texted him at 4p.m where we should meet. He sent me a text message that he had horrible hangover and wanted to postpone the date. Also, after the first date, I’ve always initiated conversations. But he has also been quite responsive and flirty on this texts. Now it’s has been 3 days and no signs of him. All of this happened in the course of 1 week. Am I over-analyzing or he’s just not interested?

    1. Hi Lala!

      Alright… Aries man should be chasing you, not the other way around. He’s not responding as far as getting together because he’s not being the “Man” in the relationship. You need to give him some time and space so he can miss you and wonder what you’re up to. If he truly is into you and wants to get closer, he will do it. If he isn’t then you’ll know when you don’t hear from him for a couple months. I wouldn’t even wait that long honestly. I’d give him a few weeks to reach out. If he doesn’t then you should decide whether or not he’s worth it. If he really digs you, he WILL make an effort.

      1. My aries man had been messaging me on facebook for nearly 3 years. I wasnt interested at the time as I am a single mother. I then saw him in town one day while out and decide to respond to his last message, we got talking and went on a few dates. After about 3 weeks his jealousy started to show and I asked what he wanted from me. He said a relationship. Things were going really well he was opening up, talking to me about his life, sex was amazing and he became so loving, untill one night about 5 or 6 weeks ago a guy who I use to have interaction with before my aries guy called me at midnight and I started panicking as I didn’t want my aries guy to get upset as he was at my home. Since then my aries guy has been soooo distant, constantly letting me down, doesnt stick to plans, havent seen him for 2 weeks, doesnt message or call me like he used to but he says he loves me. I dont know what to do. We have been dating 6 months now and I’m feeling alone in the relationship, thinking about letting him go as I cant take this feeling anymore as I know I’ve never cheated on him.

        1. Hi Stacey!

          I think you should actually talk about it with him. Tell him that you had no knowledge that the ex was going to call and you certainly didn’t plan on it. Tell him that you don’t have any feelings for your ex whatsoever and you want to build something stronger with him (your now guy). He needs you to tell him this and give him some reassurance. Give that try before you give up.If you want to learn more about Aries man, please check out my book “Aries Man Secrets”.

  11. I am cap woman and the guy is aries. Like i never paid much attention to him. He dated my friend but he would dodge her calls and block her on gwtting angry over trivial things so not my type. She was leo. I would get angry on her for letting him treat her like this. Then after coming from date she told me he asked about me. Like if i have a bf or had sex and was suprised to know that I don’t and questions about how a guy friend is so possessive of me even though i have said that we are like bro and sis . They have on off relationship. I have noticed that one day he was not subtle at all. Like he was there seeing me talking to my friends then when i was coming down the stairs he was thee. Also on my way to home he will pass with his friends which never happened in these three years. We had eye contact and i just move it. Also, i have started noticing that i was helping this guy out practically making him cheat and he passed really close to me and then said to tge guy “ ask me “ you know like . Other than that we have no contact because her gf my friend is now my ex friend and also I don’t talk much to people just a cap thing. Is he interested in me?

    1. Hi Gaga!

      Wow that sounds like a complicated situation. As a Capricorn, I know you have high standards. Do you want to actually date someone who has an on and off thing with your friend? Look at how he’s treated her. He would do this to you as well. He may be interested in you or he may just be interested in hooking up. Neither of which is something you should want to do. I think you should keep moving forward and find someone who is all for you and will be good to you. That’s just my thought. You have to decide for yourself though.

  12. Heyyyy I’m a Taurus and I like an Aries in school we always have eyecontact when walking past each other or he will stare at me. I took the initiative to fllw him on social media and dmed him and he always replies late however at sch we have a awkward tension as we will not say hi to each other only stare or glance at each other. He is very introvert as he doesn’t talk much with others only to his close friends and only consult his closest friends about his relationship and feelings so idk if he’s intrested in me I rrly need help but I don’t dare to confess

    1. Hi helpless Taurus!

      Aries men are very private so it doesn’t much surprise me he acts this way around you. If you want to get closer to him or find out if he’d be interested then you’re going to have to find a way to let him know that. Either you need to tell him or maybe tell his friends so that they can relay it to him. That way you’re not doing it directly which may be less awkward for you both. Give it a try! If you need more help, please check out my book “Aries Man Secrets”.

  13. Hi! I’m a Sagittarius and I’ve always liked this Aries man for 1 year plus now, we are close friends and early stage of our friendship I actually asked him out once, and that he could actually tell that I was interested, then somehow after our second date he kinda backed off but still ask me to hang out one on one, like a short break at work, else if we are hanging out in a group he would also accompany me for drinks later and recently (actually since September this year) he also asked me out for a few times, bought me dinner, paid for my brunch etc. he always ask me a lot of questions like he remembers every little things I said, and that he also want to know what’s happening in my life, and he also asked what type of guys do I like. I could really feel that he has feelings for me so I braved up and told him how I felt few days ago when we met but then he told me that he didn’t feel the spark and he didn’t wanna rush into the relationship cause like his past relationships didn’t work cause he didn’t feel the spark too, then he asked if I have any questions to ask him, but I was confused and lost like I was pretty sure he likes me, is it just me or is he denying his feelings? I’m not sure if this is cause of our difference in family background (he is more inferior cos of his fam background) What can I do to make him admit it? I really like this guy and I want to make things work with him, and his actions and what he told me didn’t really match and made sense to me. Please help! Thank you so much.

    1. Hi Yannie!

      I don’t know if you’re the same one that wrote in to me and purchased the books so I’ll go and answer this here. He is taking it slowly as to not make a mistake which is good. Sagittarius normally jumps in without questioning things or getting to know someone then ends up leaving just as quickly as they jumped in. Take your time, let things go with the flow. He’s telling you he needs that to see if there will be more between you or not. It’s up to you to wait him out or not. I think he’s being honest with you so if you really do like him then hang in there. Show him why he should spark up with you.

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